I'm 32 and I just learnt to drive. 11 days in i scraped somebodies car cosmetically only and got asked to pay the bill for 600 pounds. I can go through insurance but my insurance will go up by 1000 if i claim and so i have this inner feeling of devastation that it's ruined my Christmas because of a cosmetic scratch on a car (which i accept i did but feel i'm paying a big price for an honest mistake and in a weird way that seems really unfair for a society that preaches forgiveness but doesn't do much forgiving itself financially). That said... I absolutely understand your anxiety. It's expensive, overpriced if anything, insurance seems a con as they don't actually pay really as you pay in the long run if you claim. Plus there's all these rules and honest mistakes are often punished with fines nobody on a working wage can afford and there's too many cars on the road, pedestrians do stupid things and you're expected to be held responsible, cars do stupid stuff and there's far too many of them (i like driving but only when nobody is around) and for some people with lots of money it can be a case of oh well another fine but for us it can ruin Christmases or even businesses temporarily as it has done with mine this year and create feelings of anxiety that other things just don't give us.The only plus side is you can go where you want, when you want but I guess the ultimate would be to live somewhere that you feel socially connected enough to not need it as I feel nobody should feel they have to drive. For starters it's not even natural when you consider we're just animals!I can't help too much with your situation but I will say that its absolutely fine not to do it as it's not an irrational fear...it really really can cost dearly both in terms of safety and financially.On the train you meet people. On the train you have time to read and do stuff, on the train if they crash it's you that gets paid not you who pays and its the same in the taxi, on a plane, on a boat but in a car it's all on you so I think why not keep the car for a while for essential journeys when it's quiet but treat yourself to visits to other places via public transport and if you can't afford it then move somewhere you're happier as this can save £££. It's not ducking out or negating responsibility...as a fully grown adult i think driving is a bit ridiculous and it doesn't mean your more adult or to be an adult you need to do it. So give yourself a break, leave the car at home and use the petrol money for some stress free coach or train trips to all the nice places you want to go and I'll join you in doing so!