Should I Give An Xmas Present To A Girl Who Rejected Me?

How the heck is wanting to stay in contact with someone you rejected and responding positively to all their messages and laughing at their jokes a negative response?

if you think a present is going to make her suddenly interested in you, you are sadly very deluded

You know what, one worry I do have is that if I decide to and it all goes to ****, it might ruin my enjoyment of the film, cause everytime I watch it I'll be thinking of this scenario

Shouldn't it be the other way round?

no if OP genuinely doesnt have any romantic interest in the girl anymore then theres just simply no point giving her the present because it looks like hes coming on to her

probably a rubbish quality girl?

no if OP genuinely doesnt have any romantic interest in the girl anymore then theres just simply no point giving her the present because it looks like hes coming on to her

He does. Without question.

OK, OK, OK, maybe deep down my feelings haven't entirely faded but my motive in giving the gift is NOT to win her over; the scheme just doesn't make sense - how would giving her a DVD make her like me?? It wouldn't in the slightest.

I'm 16 and she is 17.

A girl who rejected me at the end of secondary school (we are still friends - I speak to her about once a month on Messenger) is a big fan of horror films like I am so I wanted to give her a copy of my favourite horror - The Thing - for Christmas (I like to share the things I enjoy with others) but I'm worried if I do she'll think I'm trying to win her back - it's just a friendly gesture I swear and in no way an attempt to win her over as I'm fine with just being friends, and I'm giving presents to other people of course, but I'm scared she'll get the wrong impression and think I still have dating her on my mind.

Should I give it to her or not (if it makes any difference, I wouldn't be able to give it to her in person as we go to different colleges and she lives 18 miles away from me; I'd have to give it to one of my friends who goes to her college who could then give it to her)?

Think it would be a tad weird seeing as you talk once a month and are so far apart- but i recently watched that movie and i found it very goood you could recommend it in your next convo and offer to give it to her then

This is one of the politest answers I've gotten so thanks. Just to make sure, you do know I'm talking about the 1982 original and not the 2011 prequel version?

I'm 16 and she is 17.

A girl who rejected me at the end of secondary school (we are still friends - I speak to her about once a month on Messenger) is a big fan of horror films like I am so I wanted to give her a copy of my favourite horror - The Thing - for Christmas (I like to share the things I enjoy with others) but I'm worried if I do she'll think I'm trying to win her back - it's just a friendly gesture I swear and in no way an attempt to win her over as I'm fine with just being friends, and I'm giving presents to other people of course, but I'm scared she'll get the wrong impression and think I still have dating her on my mind.

Should I give it to her or not (if it makes any difference, I wouldn't be able to give it to her in person as we go to different colleges and she lives 18 miles away from me; I'd have to give it to one of my friends who goes to her college who could then give it to her)?

People saying no - I understand your point if the OP is still pining for her, but in the original post he made it clear that him giving her this film is not related to that. You're obviously free to interpret that how you wish, but a good response should at least assume he is telling the truth and not immediately jump to saying 'you're not over her'. That's not useful for him or for the question.

So, if we assume that the gesture is platonic, then what bad is giving her this film doing? It's not harming OP, it's not harming her (might be awkward but if she likes horror films I think she could quite enjoy it), so its a good idea in my books. As I've said to OP as well - it's the Christmas season now, a time where people should enjoy the occasion to share and receive gifts with others. I'm honestly surprised there is such raging debate about a small gift like this!

People saying no - I understand your point if the OP is still pining for her, but in the original post he made it clear that him giving her this film is not related to that.

You're obviously free to interpret that how you wish, but a good response should at least assume he is telling the truth and not immediately jump to saying 'you're not over her'. That's not useful for him or for the question.

So, if we assume that the gesture is platonic, then what bad is giving her this film doing?

It's not harming OP, it's not harming her (might be awkward but if she likes horror films I think she could quite enjoy it),

so its a good idea in my books.

As I've said to OP as well - it's the Christmas season now, a time where people should enjoy the occasion to share and receive gifts with others. I'm honestly surprised there is such raging debate about a small gift like this!

and that's ********



some of us understand what the OP is going through and it sickens us



it's not necessarily bad short-term, only long term. it's like heroin.



wow, your criterion of "negative effects" are EXTREMELY strict



being a blatant cuck is "a good thing" then



you are clearly of zero experience on this matter.
for instance, the OP said it was a one sided relationship where he has to start all the conversations. he wanted to go out with her, he asked her out, and she rejected him. why do you think he suddenly only sees her as a "friend"? because that is all she is letting him be for this moment in time. ffs think this through. it's shockingly simple.