Hi everyone,
This might be long so I appreciate if you read, sorry lol. I’m 16 and have been confused sexuality wise for a while. When I was about 11 I used to google gifs of Katy Perry music videos and I remember one night realising my feelings might not be typical of a straight person and I had this realisation of “oh my god, I’m a lesbian”. I come from an accepting, liberal family but for some reason this shocked and upset me so I ignored it for a while.
After a bit, I started to wonder if I might be bisexual because when I daydreamed or imagined romantic situations it was always with a man. I used to watch youtuber coming out videos and wishing I knew, I was okay with being gay or straight, I just wanted to have clarity. For a while I even thought I was asexual.
The reasons I’m wondering now is I think I might be gay or bi because I’m sexually attracted to women and I could see myself ending up married to one, however on the other hand I don’t know if I’ve ever had a crush on a girl. I go to a girls school and don’t really know any boys yet I’ve never felt like I’ve had a proper crush on a girl. I feel nervous around boys in a way I don’t around girls.
I’ve had crushes on boys but mainly online and if it ever becomes possible for anything to happen I feel kind of sick. I did have a crush on a boy I know in real life, but idk if I actually wanted anything to happen or I just liked him as a person - it was different to how I feel with female friends though. I also think that most girls are pretty but it’s rare for me to find a guy attractive and when I do, they’re usually pretty/feminine.
Recently I’ve been questioning it a lot more, I don’t know if maybe the realisation when I was 11 made me repress romantic attraction to girls or if I’m actually just straight but somewhat attracted to girls. I’ve been questioning for a while always wondering if I’m bisexual and yesterday I thought seriously about whether I might be a lesbian and something about that felt right to me. When I think about it, there’s something about being with a man that doesn’t feel as right, I imagine it’s a common feeling but I don’t know how to explain it.
I know no one can answer this question apart from me and that when I’m a little older I’ll have more experiences and work it out, but I was wondering if anyone’s been in a similar situation and how it worked out for them.
Tl;dr: I’m sexually attracted to women but I don’t know if I’ve ever had a romantic spark with a woman. I think I might have repressed my attraction to women and convinced myself I like men even though I’m realising that’s maybe not what I want. Just curious if anyone here has felt similarly.