I am not a pushy parent. My son decided himself he wanted to apply to Oxford aged 11. My younger son followed suit after the elder one got in. I never pressured my kids but enabled them to achieve. They have been extremely happy there. The older one has already graduated and misses it every day. That makes a world of difference. I have been PM'd by several students who are very keen on getting in themselves and wanted my help. No parents were pulling their strings.