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Moving out

Hey I’m looking for peoples advice. So the situation is that I no longer live with my mother & I now live with my dad. I don’t really get along with his girlfriend sometimes & I have a boyfriend and he’s 18! Coming 19. I’m turning 16 in 2 months. And I want to move out ? Can I do that? I’ve been through a lot which I ain’t gunna go into detail with as its personal. Also yes
My parents consent me being with my boyfriend and they like him. But can they stop me from moving out when I turn 16. My dad always complains I’m round my boyfriends house to much. BUT. My boyfriends mum has just cane out of an operation and me & her are close. And my boyfriend does 12 hour shifts. (4days on 4days off) he is financially stable. I just need advice in what to do! Please ?? Thank you

Reply 1

AzureCeleste

Yes legally you can move out.
Where would you move to though?
How would you finance it?

My boyfriends ??

Original post by Skylight2708

My boyfriends ??

And if that were to end, what would you do?
You can't rely on him for income, are you still going to be in education?

Reply 4

Skylight2708

Still going to be going to college and have a part time Jon & he still lives with his mam and me and her are really close! And see us going far!

Reply 5

AzureCeleste

Original post by Skylight2708

Still going to be going to college and have a part time Jon & he still lives with his mam and me and her are really close! And see us going far!

Great.
But this relationship could easily fail, particularly at such a young age
Do you have a backup plan

Reply 6

Surnia

I think you need to try and smooth things over at home first, including with your dad's girlfriend, either directly or with your dad. Spending time with your boyfriend is very different to moving in with him and his mum. How much is done for you at home and could you cope with college, job and helping around the house with your bf's mum? What if you want some privacy? What if you don't like what's on tv or the meal being cooked?

You would need to plan your finances very carefully before moving out. What if your parents stopped financial support? Could you afford to socialise, buy clothes, shoes, toiletries, mobile phone, travel and contribute to your bf, plus set aside some savings? What about medical and dental bills a bit further down the line? What if you want to learn to drive?

Reply 7

Superdrilles

Hey,

First im concerned with the fact that you are 15 and he's 18...
Secondly seeing someone occasionally is different to living with them completely.
Like a previous poster said above, i would just try and sort things out wit your dad's girlfriend because honestly you never know in life.
Sometimes making an irrational decision may lead to SERIOUS consequences.