Bf angry when i masturbate

Nearly a year ago he asked we stop watching porn and we've done that, But he gets offended and angry when he finds out I've masturbated (without porn) instead of come to him for sex. I feel on edge about him finding out and if he's about to come home i get anxious, i dont like feeling sneaky. But sometimes i want time to myself to relieve stress/frustration without having to deal with penetration or pleasing someone else. It's more comfortable and its not replacement for sex it's different. Is it selfish of me? Guys would you be angry with your girlfriends?

Reply 1

Reue

Selfish: No
Angry with you: No

Your Bf needs to get a grip or get a new Gf

Reply 2

Ramipril

Jeez tell him to get over himself.

Reply 3

username5288932

I don't think it's selfish.
I wouldn't be angry with my gf if she did this.

Thanks..

Original post by Reue

Selfish: No
Angry with you: No

Your Bf needs to get a grip or get a new Gf

I thought getting a grip was the entire problem

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by horsetext

I thought getting a grip was the entire problem

Lol

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Any advice on how to make him feel less offended by it?

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

I would recommend talking to him about it. Suggest a structure because this may be due to his own insecurities. Maybe make a deal that if you're allowed to masturbate one day you owe him one round of intercourse. It sounds bad but then you both get what you want

Reply 9

username2393237

He shouldn’t be this insecure after more than a year and his behaviour is a bit controlling. What is he like in general?

Reply 10

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

Any advice on how to make him feel less offended by it?

You could tell him why you do it, might help him understand. even if he doesn't, that is not something you can help him with, he needs to get over himself.

Original post by Anonymous

Maybe make a deal that if you're allowed to masturbate one day you owe him one round of intercourse. It sounds bad but then you both get what you want

No, no, no.. you don't owe him anything for doing what you want with your own body.

Reply 11

Bumble18

It’s not selfish at all. Hope he doesn’t masturbate if it’s such a big issue for you to be doing so.

Have you explained your points to him, the ones you put on the original post? I think that explains it pretty well and shouldn’t cause offence. You shouldn’t even be put in the position of needing to justify yourself. It’s YOUR body.

(edited 3 years ago)

Reply 12

Anonymous #4

how does he find out you have been masturbating? maybe just don't tell him?

Reply 13

Anonymous #5

He should accept whether u do it or not it’s your choice but I can understand where he’s coming from, he would rather please u. I don’t know anyone personally who would rather masturbate than have sex with their bf/ gf. Maybe there’s something u need to discuss sexually if it’s not good but I mean everyone is different so just tell him your reason and if he can’t accept it then don’t be together if it’s affecting your relationship.