Alright so 4 nearly 5 months ago something happened which I am both embarassed and ashamed of. I don't even know why I'm bothering with this as it happened a while ago and I know even by writing here nothing will change. So I'm 17 and I knew this girl, who I at least thought was 13, although initally I thought she was about 14 when I was 16. at my school we have like a centre for people like myself who struggle with things, usually depression, anxiety, a whole mix of things. its different year groups and i knew her from there. we were quite friendly, i thought she was attractive but then found out the age difference and felt uncomfortable so i stopped thinking about her like that. during lockdown, I can't even remember how, we started talking casually online. I admitted to her I had feelings for her, she said she knew. I didn't really want to take it any further tbh I just wanted to be honest with her. Again, I can't remember a great deal much but I think a month or so later she then messsaged me, basically asking me out. I was confused. My head was in a mess at the time. I was on one hand flattered becaues I'd never seen a girl express any interest in me but at the same time I knew it was wrong, especially when she started asking me "what i would do with her", which is when I realised the type of relationship she was trying to pursue would not be appropriate at all, despite her suggesting that it was legal, and apparently she was actually still a month of being 13 or somethign which makes me feel even worse. I regret ever telling her I foudn her attractive. It makes me feel a bit depraved in a way, like I'm a nonce or something. Maybe this incident does but I don't think I should let it define me. I'm not sure. I dropped contact with her after that. She did seem older than me when I talked to her adn she said she had boyfriends who were much older, and then it maybe dawned on me that the way she was talking - I think she maybe had a problem with something like that because it seemed totally inappropriate. This will probably get taken down. I just wanted to write it down. Looking back in hindsight, I don't even know why I ever talked to her in the first place. I guess it was a combination of my insecurity with women and me being pretty lonely. I ended up with a girlfriend a while later, although it didn't last. Say what you want, I'm not really looking for empathy or whatever. I acknowledge it was wrong and misguided of me to perhaps see her in that light, even if I did think she was older than she was. I've never had an attraction for anyone else really in that age group, my ex was 15 and I don't think I'd go any lower than that especially now I'm 17, nearly 18. I'm not sure how to feel about the whole thing, never mind what to do. I guess I'm just going to try and accept the wrong, and move on.