How to stop friend following me to my accommodation?

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I told my friend I'm moving into a studio in London next year (not uni-owned) and he's now asking me which one/where because he's looking for a room for his next year, too. He says he's trying to find something that's not too expensive (by London's standards).

The accommodation that I've found and going to be staying in actually is quite a good find for London's costs. So if I tell him, I'm 80% sure he's going to come and follow me.

I sound like a rubbish friend, but the thing is I don't want him to come and live in the same accommodation as me. I want next year to be a fresh thing for me, I don't want old high school friends being near me. If that makes any sense.

I now don't know what I'm supposed to reply to him. I don't want it to look like I'm deliberately hiding it because that's plain rude. Does anyone have any ideas?

Thank you
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Tell them a different one, if it comes up later on (eg they see you go there) just say you changed it because *insert bull reason here*
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The solution is pretty obvious just give him the name of any random accom provider
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The solution is pretty obvious just give him the name of any random accom provider
It's not that easy. Can't just give any London uni provider - almost all are expensive as hell and so wouldn't be realistic to say it's one of these - he'll just think I'm an idiot.

The location in London that I've found is cheapest is the area that I booked - if I say the area, he'll search all the providers there and end up eventually finding my exact one (which is the cheapest)
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It's not that easy. Can't just give any London uni provider - almost all are expensive as hell and so wouldn't be realistic to say it's one of these - he'll just think I'm an idiot.

The location in London that I've found is cheapest is the area that I booked - if I say the area, he'll search all the providers there and end up eventually finding my exact one (which is the cheapest)
Then just don't tell him. You're not obligated to do anything.
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Tell them a different one, if it comes up later on (eg they see you go there) just say you changed it because *insert bull reason here*
They're asking me for help and stuff though. Like websites I looked at etc

Ugh I really regret telling him in the first place
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They're asking me for help and stuff though. Like websites I looked at etc

Ugh I really regret telling him in the first place
Then be helpful but don’t mention the accommodation you’re in. There has to be cheaper options.
It’s also worth noting that you’re not going to even see half the people in your building, let alone socialise with them so even if he gets the same one as you, you won’t have to interact
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Help him find other accommodations there, or just link sites that offer rooms currently at a reasonable price, similar to where/how you've found yours. Or since you want to start afresh, you could just not reply to them and move on. They'll find their own way.
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I told my friend I'm moving into a studio in London next year (not uni-owned) and he's now asking me which one/where because he's looking for a room for his next year, too. He says he's trying to find something that's not too expensive (by London's standards).

The accommodation that I've found and going to be staying in actually is quite a good find for London's costs. So if I tell him, I'm 80% sure he's going to come and follow me.

I sound like a rubbish friend, but the thing is I don't want him to come and live in the same accommodation as me. I want next year to be a fresh thing for me, I don't want old high school friends being near me. If that makes any sense.

I now don't know what I'm supposed to reply to him. I don't want it to look like I'm deliberately hiding it because that's plain rude. Does anyone have any ideas?

Thank you
If you're living in a studio, you won't be obliged to socialise with anyone in your building if you don't want to. I presume the complex you'll be living in is large, so it's unlikely you'll see each other often if he ends up in the same one.
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i don't think it's that deep if he ends up there as well, it's only one friend and there are tons of people in student accommodation so you probably won't even run into him that often
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