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existential title But that is legit what i’m asking Does life get better at university? I’ve struggled so much with mental & physical health these past 2 years at sixth form, i’ve had to take breaks, drop out, And now i’m questioning whether my friends are actually my friends πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Sort of having a feeling that i’m not as close to them as i thought i was etc, and i have nothing in common with any of them so, Just simply wondering Will that all get better or worse at uni? πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Or am i Over thinking or under thinking or just thinking like a silly little thing Also this is probably the wrong forum I’ve had an account in this website for like 5 minutes bare with
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Original post by weenfan30
existential title But that is legit what i’m asking Does life get better at university? I’ve struggled so much with mental & physical health these past 2 years at sixth form, i’ve had to take breaks, drop out, And now i’m questioning whether my friends are actually my friends πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Sort of having a feeling that i’m not as close to them as i thought i was etc, and i have nothing in common with any of them so, Just simply wondering Will that all get better or worse at uni? πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Or am i Over thinking or under thinking or just thinking like a silly little thing Also this is probably the wrong forum I’ve had an account in this website for like 5 minutes bare with


I can't promise it will get better but what I know is we evolve as we transition from one level to another. We may leave friends/acquaintances behind in the process and start being more self aware. This is the time to forge new friendships, focus on you and your health and embrace Uni. It will be a challenge meeting different people, adjusting to Uni life and learning more complicated modules but you've been through alot already and have come out on the other side. You've certainly built some resilience.
Most people find it pretty easy to make friends at uni, definitely easier than 6th form/college. If you live in halls then it's likely you'll bond with your flatmates - if they're not your vibe then there's plenty of societies to find likeminded people! just try your best to put yourself out there, it's very common to be worried about making friends at uni. I've found that mental health care is far better here too, if you're struggling then it shouldn't be difficult to get the support that you need. Don't worry :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
Most people find it pretty easy to make friends at uni, definitely easier than 6th form/college. If you live in halls then it's likely you'll bond with your flatmates - if they're not your vibe then there's plenty of societies to find likeminded people! just try your best to put yourself out there, it's very common to be worried about making friends at uni. I've found that mental health care is far better here too, if you're struggling then it shouldn't be difficult to get the support that you need. Don't worry :smile:


Brilliant advice about how to make friends at university.
Original post by weenfan30
existential title But that is legit what i’m asking Does life get better at university? I’ve struggled so much with mental & physical health these past 2 years at sixth form, i’ve had to take breaks, drop out, And now i’m questioning whether my friends are actually my friends πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Sort of having a feeling that i’m not as close to them as i thought i was etc, and i have nothing in common with any of them so, Just simply wondering Will that all get better or worse at uni? πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Or am i Over thinking or under thinking or just thinking like a silly little thing Also this is probably the wrong forum I’ve had an account in this website for like 5 minutes bare with

Hi @weenfan30

I am so sorry to hear that you are not having the greatest time at sixth form! I feel like sixth form can be a tricky place in terms of friendships and the workload is crazy as well.

I defiantly have found my mental and physical health have both drastically improved since starting university. You will make so so so many new and amazing friends at uni and you will find people who you have things in common with. Universities will also normally have a fab wellbeing team and are super supportive if you are struggling with your mental health. I found my physical health also really improved as well as you will generally do a lot of walking and university gyms are super cheap :smile:

Are you starting in September and have you decided where you are going/ what you're studying at uni?

I wish you the best of luck with everything - life defiantly does get better just hang in there and give yourself a break - sixth form is super hard I am sure you are doing great :smile:

Katie - Second year Educational Psychology student
I have, personally found it more difficult to make friends at university than in sixth form and my mental health has worsened since being at university.
Original post by weenfan30
existential title But that is legit what i’m asking Does life get better at university? I’ve struggled so much with mental & physical health these past 2 years at sixth form, i’ve had to take breaks, drop out, And now i’m questioning whether my friends are actually my friends πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Sort of having a feeling that i’m not as close to them as i thought i was etc, and i have nothing in common with any of them so, Just simply wondering Will that all get better or worse at uni? πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Or am i Over thinking or under thinking or just thinking like a silly little thing Also this is probably the wrong forum I’ve had an account in this website for like 5 minutes bare with


It's completely normal to have concerns and questions about what university life will be like and whether it will be better or worse than your current situation. It's understandable that you've had a tough time in sixth form, but it's important to remember that university is a new chapter in your life, and it can provide opportunities for personal and academic growth, as well as the chance to meet new people who share your interests.

It's difficult to predict whether your current struggles with mental and physical health, as well as concerns about your friendships, will improve or worsen at university. However, it's worth noting that universities often have a wide range of support services available to help students with mental and physical health issues, and there are often plenty of opportunities to make new friends through clubs, societies, and other activities. It's also worth considering that university can be a chance to explore new interests and passions, which may help you find a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Overall, it's natural to feel unsure and anxious about the transition to university, but it's important to keep an open mind and approach it as an opportunity for growth and discovery.
Original post by weenfan30
existential title But that is legit what i’m asking Does life get better at university? I’ve struggled so much with mental & physical health these past 2 years at sixth form, i’ve had to take breaks, drop out, And now i’m questioning whether my friends are actually my friends πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Sort of having a feeling that i’m not as close to them as i thought i was etc, and i have nothing in common with any of them so, Just simply wondering Will that all get better or worse at uni? πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Or am i Over thinking or under thinking or just thinking like a silly little thing Also this is probably the wrong forum I’ve had an account in this website for like 5 minutes bare with


Hi there,

Firstly, I am really sorry to hear you have had a bad few years at 6th form, sometimes it can be really hard especially in that transition from GCSE to A Level.

In terms of university, there is no magic fix, I cannot promise you that it will be better and everything will be fabulous at uni, but I can tell you that it might be.
The amazing thing about uni is that you meet so many people, there will definitely be people that you have things in common with so that is not something to worry about. I think you need to decide whether uni is what you want to do right now or whether you need to have a break from education for abit, there is absolutely no harm in that.
I think you will find uni easier, I know I did, especially because there are so many clubs and societies which you can join where you meet all sorts of different people.

I hope this helps,

Ellen
Y3 Medical Student
Uni Of Sunderland
Digital Ambassador
Original post by weenfan30
existential title But that is legit what i’m asking Does life get better at university? I’ve struggled so much with mental & physical health these past 2 years at sixth form, i’ve had to take breaks, drop out, And now i’m questioning whether my friends are actually my friends πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Sort of having a feeling that i’m not as close to them as i thought i was etc, and i have nothing in common with any of them so, Just simply wondering Will that all get better or worse at uni? πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Or am i Over thinking or under thinking or just thinking like a silly little thing Also this is probably the wrong forum I’ve had an account in this website for like 5 minutes bare with

im at uni now and it is SO much better than sixth form was. and im here at uni six years later than people my age. people at uni are nicer, there are more people to meet, more opportunities to socialise (societies, your course, your flatmates), it’s nowhere near as strict as sixth form. it’s so much better, you’ll be experiencing it soon :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
im at uni now and it is SO much better than sixth form was. and im here at uni six years later than people my age. people at uni are nicer, there are more people to meet, more opportunities to socialise (societies, your course, your flatmates), it’s nowhere near as strict as sixth form. it’s so much better, you’ll be experiencing it soon :smile:

Some of them are nicer, but I have been bullied relentlessly at university.
Original post by Anonymous
I have, personally found it more difficult to make friends at university than in sixth form and my mental health has worsened since being at university.


I feel the same. People say that university is where you meet 'your people', yet I haven't made any close friends during my time there despite joining societies that are aligned with my interests. Most of my friends are people I knew from school, although I don't see them much now because we've gone to different places for university.
Original post by Anonymous
I feel the same. People say that university is where you meet 'your people', yet I haven't made any close friends during my time there despite joining societies that are aligned with my interests. Most of my friends are people I knew from school, although I don't see them much now because we've gone to different places for university.

Agreed. I haven't seen my friends from school in many years now.
Original post by Anonymous
I feel the same. People say that university is where you meet 'your people', yet I haven't made any close friends during my time there despite joining societies that are aligned with my interests. Most of my friends are people I knew from school, although I don't see them much now because we've gone to different places for university.


me too!! I have no significant friends at uni, getting to the end of first year and im really debating wether I want to be at uni anymore

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