Why does every guy choose my friend over me?
Why does this keep happening? Why does every guy who likes me initially choose my friend over me? It's always the same friend.
Reply 1
Why does this keep happening? Why does every guy who likes me initially choose my friend over me? It's always the same friend.
"My ex-friend had this thing..."
Are you bothered about losing guys who are that fickle?
Why is she your friend?
Reply 5
For weak minded people it is easy to be flattered and turn their heads. This is what your "friend" is doing to the men you meet.
You just keep being you, but make better choices of who to let into your life.
Why does this keep happening? Why does every guy who likes me initially choose my friend over me? It's always the same friend.
My friend been doing the same. This is third time this is happening. What should I do?
Reply 7
Most males nowadays would like nothing more than to live in a world similar to that of the handmaids tale and due to the society we now live in being moulded by the ideas of controlling and abusive males, women are being engineered into believing that 'rejection' over a friend or close acquaint is somehow negative, no, it's an exercise of weakness seeking by males who may not even know themselves that they are seeking, due to their unconscious bias, a woman who will serve them.
I would say let go of this friend of yours-- they aren't a true friend and don't have friendship feelings for you.
I let go of mine since I first posted this thread and my life is so much better because of it!
I actually think this behaviour from her (she's now an ex friend) was because she felt I got more attention out of us two. I do get attention initially, but I think because she's so charming and outgoing she gets along with guys better than I do.
I did drop her, thank you! I feel much better without this looming over my life.
Are you bothered about losing guys who are that fickle?
Why is she your friend?
I know this is late but
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She knew who I was talking to because our friend group gossiped about it. I would tell a close friend and like Chinese whispers, it would get round to her eventually.
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I didn't publicise my dating life, but she would find out
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Very true, in a way it showed who wasn't worth it anyways. It showed who was truly for me. She was a test.
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She was my "friend" because we were in the same social circle at Uni. I don't think, looking back, that she was ever a true friend though. In fact I reckon she actively disliked me. You don't do things like this to your actual friends.
But this is all post-mortem as we're no longer friends. I ended up blocking her on everything actually. She ended up doing worse things later in our friendship that showed how much she wasn't my friend.
So if anyone reading this has a friend who does the same thing, please know that people like this don't like you and will probably do worse things if you stay in a friendship with them.
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She knew who I was talking to because our friend group gossiped about it. I would tell a close friend and like Chinese whispers, it would get round to her eventually.
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I didn't publicise my dating life, but she would find out
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Very true, in a way it showed who wasn't worth it anyways. It showed who was truly for me. She was a test.
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She was my "friend" because we were in the same social circle at Uni. I don't think, looking back, that she was ever a true friend though. In fact I reckon she actively disliked me. You don't do things like this to your actual friends.
But this is all post-mortem as we're no longer friends. I ended up blocking her on everything actually. She ended up doing worse things later in our friendship that showed how much she wasn't my friend.
So if anyone reading this has a friend who does the same thing, please know that people like this don't like you and will probably do worse things if you stay in a friendship with them.
Sometimes friends can become a habit; you excuse the bad because you want someone around for the good bits they provide. So kudos to you for ditching her, and I hope you've still retained your social circle to have other friends around you!
Reply 12
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She knew who I was talking to because our friend group gossiped about it. I would tell a close friend and like Chinese whispers, it would get round to her eventually.
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I didn't publicise my dating life, but she would find out
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Very true, in a way it showed who wasn't worth it anyways. It showed who was truly for me. She was a test.
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She was my "friend" because we were in the same social circle at Uni. I don't think, looking back, that she was ever a true friend though. In fact I reckon she actively disliked me. You don't do things like this to your actual friends.
But this is all post-mortem as we're no longer friends. I ended up blocking her on everything actually. She ended up doing worse things later in our friendship that showed how much she wasn't my friend.
So if anyone reading this has a friend who does the same thing, please know that people like this don't like you and will probably do worse things if you stay in a friendship with them.
Can u tell a bit about how you overcame this situation because no matter how many friends I make everyone tries to flirt with the boys who like me in school college and now university I'm just sick of this pattern no matter how many times I change my circle it feels as if I'm destined to be in this circle
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