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Am I gay?

Hi I’ve been a porn user for a while I’ve watched mostly straight and gay porn I also got off to gay porn a lot of times does that make me gay? I’m into girls mostly so I’m not really sure if that makes me bi but in reality I don’t want to see sleep with same sex.

Just curious to see what your opinions are as I need to get off porn as it’s not help out and trying to stay clean from it
No, it doesn't make you gay. Most people have fantasies that they will masturbate to but which in reality they wouldn't want to happen in real life. One of the biggest issues with porn is that it is not in any way an accurate depiction of how sex works in real life, and a lot of the time using porn will push your fantasies into areas that cannot translate into anything you can actually do in real life. That, in turn, can be damaging for your actual sex life. The irony is that there is a lot you can experience in sex in real life that is a lot of fun, but which porn doesn't give you any experience of. It may be that you do want to experiment to some degree sexually with other guys at some point, and that is absolutely fine if you do. A healthy sex life does include trying things from time to time that don't end up doing it for you. It is obviously more difficult to organically discover over time what gives you pleasure in real life than it is to just sit in front of a screen and load up some porn, but in my view at least the effort is worth it. Ultimately porn is a cheap thrill, and there's always more and better pleasure to be found with actual sex and intimacy with actual people. So no, masturbating to gay porn does not make you gay, but yes, I agree that cutting down on porn (or cutting it out entirely) would most certainly be a positive thing.
Original post by Anonymous #1
Hi I’ve been a porn user for a while I’ve watched mostly straight and gay porn I also got off to gay porn a lot of times does that make me gay? I’m into girls mostly so I’m not really sure if that makes me bi but in reality I don’t want to see sleep with same sex.

Just curious to see what your opinions are as I need to get off porn as it’s not help out and trying to stay clean from it

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Original post by Crazy Jamie
No, it doesn't make you gay. Most people have fantasies that they will masturbate to but which in reality they wouldn't want to happen in real life. One of the biggest issues with porn is that it is not in any way an accurate depiction of how sex works in real life, and a lot of the time using porn will push your fantasies into areas that cannot translate into anything you can actually do in real life. That, in turn, can be damaging for your actual sex life. The irony is that there is a lot you can experience in sex in real life that is a lot of fun, but which porn doesn't give you any experience of. It may be that you do want to experiment to some degree sexually with other guys at some point, and that is absolutely fine if you do. A healthy sex life does include trying things from time to time that don't end up doing it for you. It is obviously more difficult to organically discover over time what gives you pleasure in real life than it is to just sit in front of a screen and load up some porn, but in my view at least the effort is worth it. Ultimately porn is a cheap thrill, and there's always more and better pleasure to be found with actual sex and intimacy with actual people. So no, masturbating to gay porn does not make you gay, but yes, I agree that cutting down on porn (or cutting it out entirely) would most certainly be a positive thing.

Realistically I don’t want to be gay as I am really jot comfortable being with a guy I hope am not being homophobic but I do respect gay people as we all have choice. I think I’ve have over stimulated my brain in watching all categories of porn. Some types of porn which is weird and i I won’t mention what I watched on here.

After everything I have watched I feel shame and guilt but I know what I want in real life and I am much more comfortable being with a girl I think if I abused it and I want to get off now.

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