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I want a relationship- Brown girl friendly

I want to be in a relationship, like, meet someone with the intention of marriage (as a brown muslim women in her 20s (under 25)). Where can I do that? Uni was… not it for me. definitely did not have enough confidence to do that then. I don’t want to end up with an arranged marriage because my mum’s network is limited. Open to it, but don’t want to rely on it, y’know?

If anyone knows where/what to do, please help a brown girl out!
Reply 1
Hi if I was you it’s probably best to try and join a social group, or find an organisation that specialises in what you are looking for.
Reply 2
Original post by Anonymous
I want to be in a relationship, like, meet someone with the intention of marriage (as a brown muslim women in her 20s (under 25)). Where can I do that? Uni was… not it for me. definitely did not have enough confidence to do that then. I don’t want to end up with an arranged marriage because my mum’s network is limited. Open to it, but don’t want to rely on it, y’know?

If anyone knows where/what to do, please help a brown girl out!

Maybe start up some new hobbies, for example, when I go to the gym, men try to help me with my weights etc so perhaps striking up a conversation with them could be a start? Join social clubs etc. You could use a dating app, but to my boyfriend’s knowledge, a lot of people are just looking for a short term thing- but you never know! Get yourself out there
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
I want to be in a relationship, like, meet someone with the intention of marriage (as a brown muslim women in her 20s (under 25)). Where can I do that? Uni was… not it for me. definitely did not have enough confidence to do that then. I don’t want to end up with an arranged marriage because my mum’s network is limited. Open to it, but don’t want to rely on it, y’know?

If anyone knows where/what to do, please help a brown girl out!

The 2 key words in your post is "muslim" and "marriage". The other posts advice would of had been perfect if not for that. But worry not, I am here! Since you are a muslim with the intention to marry avoid going to social places such as the gym or social club. It was a glood move to avoid university as its the breeding ground for sex outside of marriage. My best advice would be check out your local masjid. I have a few male friends who have been through the prcoess of searching for a wife (the halal way, i.e getting dads phone number etc) Another top tip is make dua in your salah, there is a very good dua in the 2nd surah of the quran which i cannot recall at the moment.

Here is what you should avoid:
Men who are not serious in the relationship
Men who try to talk to you instead of your wali (father, brother etc)
Those who dont pray 5 times a day
Those who indulge in sins
Etc etc
Also make sure you are familiar with the persons background, when meeting the person ask around about him and check if his reputation is sound.
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
I want to be in a relationship, like, meet someone with the intention of marriage (as a brown muslim women in her 20s (under 25)). Where can I do that? Uni was… not it for me. definitely did not have enough confidence to do that then. I don’t want to end up with an arranged marriage because my mum’s network is limited. Open to it, but don’t want to rely on it, y’know?

If anyone knows where/what to do, please help a brown girl out!


I forgot to mention it but dont use the online dating apps, doesnt matter if it says muslim dating app or halal or whatever. Meeting in person within your locality is always best. If you cannot find any suitable candidates after 6 or so months then try your mums network. If that dont work then try those dating apps, but they are crap. But keep consistent with your duas and purify your intentions.
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
I want to be in a relationship, like, meet someone with the intention of marriage (as a brown muslim women in her 20s (under 25)). Where can I do that? Uni was… not it for me. definitely did not have enough confidence to do that then. I don’t want to end up with an arranged marriage because my mum’s network is limited. Open to it, but don’t want to rely on it, y’know?

If anyone knows where/what to do, please help a brown girl out!

Hey can you like this message, I was in a similar position and can help you out!
Reply 6
Original post by Topadvice1
The 2 key words in your post is "muslim" and "marriage". The other posts advice would of had been perfect if not for that. But worry not, I am here! Since you are a muslim with the intention to marry avoid going to social places such as the gym or social club. It was a glood move to avoid university as its the breeding ground for sex outside of marriage. My best advice would be check out your local masjid. I have a few male friends who have been through the prcoess of searching for a wife (the halal way, i.e getting dads phone number etc) Another top tip is make dua in your salah, there is a very good dua in the 2nd surah of the quran which i cannot recall at the moment.

Here is what you should avoid:
Men who are not serious in the relationship
Men who try to talk to you instead of your wali (father, brother etc)
Those who dont pray 5 times a day
Those who indulge in sins
Etc etc
Also make sure you are familiar with the persons background, when meeting the person ask around about him and check if his reputation is sound.


Is her father or brother going to be the one dating the man?

So f**ked up.
Reply 7
Original post by fec1864
Is her father or brother going to be the one dating the man?

So f**ked up.


No, but if the man doesn't have enough bravery to talk to her guardian first, then know he's just messing around. You can talk to the woman but after the father etc investigates you. Men can analyse other men better than women and can get an understanding of them and their intention. By the way, no one is talking about dating, this is about marriage.

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