Right so I’ve got myself in a situation. I’ve been seeing someone new for the last month. However I’ve had a bit of a panic as it’s getting serious about what exactly I want and if I want a relationship right now. Nothing to do with the person, my head is just a bit of a mess at the minute. I told them that at the weekend and now it’s all up in the air and we aren’t speaking. We are also both busy all week so we can’t meet up to discuss. And the person I’m seeing is away this weekend (essentially on a bender).
I said whilst it’s all up in the air, they are in theory single at the weekend and I wouldn’t be upset if they did anything, as I created the situation. However thinking on it now, I 100% will be and if they sleep with anyone else I would be destroyed. But I can’t go back and say that. They’ve also basically said they are going with the intention of that now as well, because if I’m not clear on what I want, then why shouldn’t they.
I know I’ve made the situation which is why it’s ten times worse. But I don’t know if anyone has any advice or what I should do. Or basically just let it all go ahead and it fall apart essentially. I also feel upset at their reaction to what they will get up to when they are away, but equally I created the situation. It’s just a bit of a mess.