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basically I just finished my second year of uni and it's terrible. The course is ok but people on it are so quite. none of them like to talk everyone just comes and goes accept a few.
yes with these few people I have made friends and speak to now and then. but I don't have close friends nor people who wants to chill, go clubbing etc. I am a man on my own.
over these two years I have really tried making friends joining society but when I meet someone new, we speak for a while for next few day or weeks and suddenly they stop talking even when I arranged something. I stopped my societies because I am loosing interest and I cba anymore.
some of you might say I'm going into depression but I am someone who doesn't have a single friend and no one to talk too. I have tried my best a tried therapy it didn't work. I really struggle making friends like it was fate or something idk.
I'm going into my final year, I am a lost man since birth and I have no clue what to do.
yes with these few people I have made friends and speak to now and then. but I don't have close friends nor people who wants to chill, go clubbing etc. I am a man on my own.
over these two years I have really tried making friends joining society but when I meet someone new, we speak for a while for next few day or weeks and suddenly they stop talking even when I arranged something. I stopped my societies because I am loosing interest and I cba anymore.
some of you might say I'm going into depression but I am someone who doesn't have a single friend and no one to talk too. I have tried my best a tried therapy it didn't work. I really struggle making friends like it was fate or something idk.
I'm going into my final year, I am a lost man since birth and I have no clue what to do.
Original post by Anonymous
basically I just finished my second year of uni and it's terrible. The course is ok but people on it are so quite. none of them like to talk everyone just comes and goes accept a few.
yes with these few people I have made friends and speak to now and then. but I don't have close friends nor people who wants to chill, go clubbing etc. I am a man on my own.
over these two years I have really tried making friends joining society but when I meet someone new, we speak for a while for next few day or weeks and suddenly they stop talking even when I arranged something. I stopped my societies because I am loosing interest and I cba anymore.
some of you might say I'm going into depression but I am someone who doesn't have a single friend and no one to talk too. I have tried my best a tried therapy it didn't work. I really struggle making friends like it was fate or something idk.
I'm going into my final year, I am a lost man since birth and I have no clue what to do.
yes with these few people I have made friends and speak to now and then. but I don't have close friends nor people who wants to chill, go clubbing etc. I am a man on my own.
over these two years I have really tried making friends joining society but when I meet someone new, we speak for a while for next few day or weeks and suddenly they stop talking even when I arranged something. I stopped my societies because I am loosing interest and I cba anymore.
some of you might say I'm going into depression but I am someone who doesn't have a single friend and no one to talk too. I have tried my best a tried therapy it didn't work. I really struggle making friends like it was fate or something idk.
I'm going into my final year, I am a lost man since birth and I have no clue what to do.
Hey there!
This is very dependent on whether you enjoy your course or not. If you enjoy the things you're doing then my advice is to please not let the bad experience with your coursemates influence your outlook on the course. It's very normal to not get on with your coursemates and by second year, most people have given up with trying to actively seek out new friends. If it's the course itself you don't like then it's good you've realised it before you get to final year as it's an extra year of student loan to pay back and final year is a lot more stressful.
You say you're losing interest in your societies, have you tried looking for any others you could have a go at? It doesn't even have to be sports, you can always have a go at other things as well and it's never too late to join. It's very easy to put yourself into a bubble when certain areas of your day to day gradually decline and that's how things start to spiral. Please don't isolate yourself from this because that's going to be the worst thing for you. Talk to someone about this, whether it be your family or the university team. They have professionals who are specialised in mental health and socialising because it is something that a lot of people struggle with, you're definitely not alone in this.
University students are very passive. So when they gradually stop talking, it's important to keep things going and chase it up because most of the time they're just waiting for people to come to them. If you don't feel comfortable with this, why not try something like Bumble BFF? It's a great way to meet new people close to you. I don't want you to give up as your brain is tricking you into all or nothing thinking. You're thinking the worst out of every situation and using that negativity to fuel other areas of your life and once you get control of it and start to rationalise these thoughts in your head, it'll be the best thing for you. Please don't give up, you might be not enjoying things right now but that's just the universe's way of saying those things weren't for you.
Hope this helped!
Lucy - Digital Student Ambassador SHU
Definitely keep going to the societies to the ones you love doing. Dont give up on them because its still good for you socially to get out and about of the house. Uni students can be very hit and miss at times and cant always commit to things. if someone does agree to come out, perhaps things outside the society like a pub quiz is good because it keeps things interesting thoughout the evening, and who knows, perhaps you might meet other fellow students in the pub as well. Thats how my daughter ended up making friends. Some were drifiting in and out all the time, and shes come to accept thats how it is, but a couple are close.
Original post by Anonymous
basically I just finished my second year of uni and it's terrible. The course is ok but people on it are so quite. none of them like to talk everyone just comes and goes accept a few.
yes with these few people I have made friends and speak to now and then. but I don't have close friends nor people who wants to chill, go clubbing etc. I am a man on my own.
over these two years I have really tried making friends joining society but when I meet someone new, we speak for a while for next few day or weeks and suddenly they stop talking even when I arranged something. I stopped my societies because I am loosing interest and I cba anymore.
some of you might say I'm going into depression but I am someone who doesn't have a single friend and no one to talk too. I have tried my best a tried therapy it didn't work. I really struggle making friends like it was fate or something idk.
I'm going into my final year, I am a lost man since birth and I have no clue what to do.
yes with these few people I have made friends and speak to now and then. but I don't have close friends nor people who wants to chill, go clubbing etc. I am a man on my own.
over these two years I have really tried making friends joining society but when I meet someone new, we speak for a while for next few day or weeks and suddenly they stop talking even when I arranged something. I stopped my societies because I am loosing interest and I cba anymore.
some of you might say I'm going into depression but I am someone who doesn't have a single friend and no one to talk too. I have tried my best a tried therapy it didn't work. I really struggle making friends like it was fate or something idk.
I'm going into my final year, I am a lost man since birth and I have no clue what to do.
Hi!
I'm sorry to hear that you're not enjoying your university experience so far - if you decide to stay on at university, I hope things improve for you!
Making and maintaining friendships at university can be really difficult. If you're struggling with university socieities, there may be some opportunities in your local community relating to your interests, i.e., book club, sports teams, etc. This can allow you to get away from the university scene, and may make it easier to make friends.
University groupchats can also be a good place to make friends, and this can help you to find people who may not be society-goers, and you may find people that you get on with!
I hope this is helpful, and good luck!
~ Cathryn (Lancaster University Student Ambassador)
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