Needs some time to himself

I’ve had this happen before but I’m also an over thinker. The absolute best thing to do is just to leave him be, don’t message and let him come to you. Clearly there’s a reason or something that’s triggered it - he’ll either come back and try to discuss with you, or he’ll move on and it’s done.

Or the only other thing, is there is an ex or past relationship in the picture/he hasn’t fully moved on from it. And the fact he’s getting serious with you has panicked him.

Been seeing this guy for a few months and it was going great. Never clicked so instantly with someone and been completely myself. He said the same.

However, today he's just pretty much ended it cos he needs some time to himself. He said it's 100% nothing to do with me, and that he really likes me. He's never got along with someone so well, and loved that I got a long with all his friends and family. However he just has some tiny doubts that he can't shake.

He said he didn't want to end things but didn't think it was fair to me and that he just needs some time to himself. He did warn me he was a massive over thinker, but I am too.

I don't know what to do because we both clearly care for each other a lot, and I really don't want it to be over.

Do I let him have his space for a bit and then message him in a couple of weeks to see if he wants to reassess, or just leave him to it?

I infer, he must be afraid of something. There must be a deep down wound inside his heart, and perhaps because you both were hitting it off brilliantly, it might have scared him. Do give him some time, he will come around.

If you both care for each other a lot, like you mentioned, then I am sure he will come around. He might be going through something, and just needs a break.

I am sure it will be okay

Cheers

Give him a fair bit of space and see what happens. This is in the nature of early relationships and the more intense initially, the more spectacular the crash tends to be

I'm trying to, but it's just so hard. And it wasn't necessarily something he wanted himself, he was going round in circles in his own head and that was what he concluded on. The he texted me saying he was really sorry. I just didn't respond because how do I respond to that?

How much time should I give him?

I'm really struggling. We've got from talking all day and seeing it each other pretty much everyday to nothing. It's so hard.

How much time should I give him?

I'm really struggling. We've got from talking all day and seeing it each other pretty much everyday to nothing. It's so hard.

I completely get this. I would say try and give it a week to two weeks - ideally let him come to you.

It's difficult and it's something if you're new to relationships, which you learn. You should never make your whole life about a person. Yes you should make time for them, but you should have a life/friends/activities outside of that. In an early stage of a relationship, seeing them everyday is very intense - I would never do this and only once you get to know them, should they deserve more of your time. Otherwise relationships like this become very intense and burnout quickly.

Does he have a sibling? Or someone that you know personally, like another friend? Ask that person what is going on. If it is something personal do NOT confront your boyfriend about it. Keep it in your mind that something is going on. Because I think there is something that is happening with him, he is going through something, and he is fearing to tell you/someone about it.

Or, another way would be to send him a message? Invite him for coffee?

He does yeah, but they're all people I met through him so I don't think I could really message them. Would seem too intrusive.

I think he does have things he needs to work on, but I wish he could do that with me around cos I could help him with these issues.

I was thinking about inviting him for a walk if he accepts, just something chill. But don't know when to do this?

My advice, invite him now. (not literally, but like when it is feasible).
Or you could visit him perhaps and ask him point blank. That is also a tactic

I really want to but don't want to disrupt this 'alone time' of his.

However he just has some tiny doubts that he can't shake.

He said he didn't want to end things but didn't think it was fair to me and that he just needs some time to himself.

He messaged earlier today asking if I was ok. Do I reply or just leave it?

I really want to but don't want to disrupt this 'alone time' of his.