Is it normal to not talk to your hallmates?
Yep, so, I'm just finishing up the first year of my degree and I realized that in the entire year I've spoke about 2 words to the 7 other people in my uni halls.
Granted, I'm not exactly a talkative guy, I would even go so far as to say I'm very introverted.
Why is this the case, you might ask? Well, I would say it's down to a mismatch of personalities. The 4 girls are in a tight-knit group and love to party and drink a lot - not my scene. Two of the guys are super loud, I'm pretty sure they think slamming doors is some sort of display of manhood (it's not), but you get the drill, they're boisterous gym-bros who try too hard to look hench.
The one other guy in my flat doesn't leave their room at all (Omg literally me lol), anyway yeah, I actually purposely avoid my hallsmates when they're in the kitchen and I'm pretty sure they do the same to me because I'm the weirdo quiet guy.
Just wanted to check in and see if my experience is totally against the norm or if it's actually fairly normal to not really interact/get along with flatmates.
Granted, I'm not exactly a talkative guy, I would even go so far as to say I'm very introverted.
Why is this the case, you might ask? Well, I would say it's down to a mismatch of personalities. The 4 girls are in a tight-knit group and love to party and drink a lot - not my scene. Two of the guys are super loud, I'm pretty sure they think slamming doors is some sort of display of manhood (it's not), but you get the drill, they're boisterous gym-bros who try too hard to look hench.
The one other guy in my flat doesn't leave their room at all (Omg literally me lol), anyway yeah, I actually purposely avoid my hallsmates when they're in the kitchen and I'm pretty sure they do the same to me because I'm the weirdo quiet guy.
Just wanted to check in and see if my experience is totally against the norm or if it's actually fairly normal to not really interact/get along with flatmates.
Original post by Anonymous
Yep, so, I'm just finishing up the first year of my degree and I realized that in the entire year I've spoke about 2 words to the 7 other people in my uni halls.
Granted, I'm not exactly a talkative guy, I would even go so far as to say I'm very introverted.
Why is this the case, you might ask? Well, I would say it's down to a mismatch of personalities. The 4 girls are in a tight-knit group and love to party and drink a lot - not my scene. Two of the guys are super loud, I'm pretty sure they think slamming doors is some sort of display of manhood (it's not), but you get the drill, they're boisterous gym-bros who try too hard to look hench.
The one other guy in my flat doesn't leave their room at all (Omg literally me lol), anyway yeah, I actually purposely avoid my hallsmates when they're in the kitchen and I'm pretty sure they do the same to me because I'm the weirdo quiet guy.
Just wanted to check in and see if my experience is totally against the norm or if it's actually fairly normal to not really interact/get along with flatmates.
Granted, I'm not exactly a talkative guy, I would even go so far as to say I'm very introverted.
Why is this the case, you might ask? Well, I would say it's down to a mismatch of personalities. The 4 girls are in a tight-knit group and love to party and drink a lot - not my scene. Two of the guys are super loud, I'm pretty sure they think slamming doors is some sort of display of manhood (it's not), but you get the drill, they're boisterous gym-bros who try too hard to look hench.
The one other guy in my flat doesn't leave their room at all (Omg literally me lol), anyway yeah, I actually purposely avoid my hallsmates when they're in the kitchen and I'm pretty sure they do the same to me because I'm the weirdo quiet guy.
Just wanted to check in and see if my experience is totally against the norm or if it's actually fairly normal to not really interact/get along with flatmates.
Hi there!
It sounds like you enjoyed your experience in first year at university, and, from your descriptions of your housemates, it appears that you don't particularly regret not speaking to them more. This is perfectly okay! If they aren't your kind of people, then it should not be expected for you to be best friends with them and socialise if that isn't your idea of a good time. Even if you did like them, it is not your responsibility to interact with them. It is perfectly normal to not interact with people who you were randomly placed in a house with. I am in second year at university and know quite a few people who either did not speak to their housemates or had housemates who chose not to speak to them.
I do not think that your experience is strange or abnormal in any way, as it would be considered rare for everyone in the same house to get along and wish to socialise (particularly if some are introverted). If you are happy where you are and doing your own thing, then that is great and you should not feel obliged to please other people in that respect.
Hopefully you get along with your housemates next year, and interact with them (if you want to)
I hope that puts your mind at ease and helped. Good luck with university next year!
Rachel
York St John Student Rep
Original post by Anonymous
Yep, so, I'm just finishing up the first year of my degree and I realized that in the entire year I've spoke about 2 words to the 7 other people in my uni halls.
Granted, I'm not exactly a talkative guy, I would even go so far as to say I'm very introverted.
Why is this the case, you might ask? Well, I would say it's down to a mismatch of personalities. The 4 girls are in a tight-knit group and love to party and drink a lot - not my scene. Two of the guys are super loud, I'm pretty sure they think slamming doors is some sort of display of manhood (it's not), but you get the drill, they're boisterous gym-bros who try too hard to look hench.
The one other guy in my flat doesn't leave their room at all (Omg literally me lol), anyway yeah, I actually purposely avoid my hallsmates when they're in the kitchen and I'm pretty sure they do the same to me because I'm the weirdo quiet guy.
Just wanted to check in and see if my experience is totally against the norm or if it's actually fairly normal to not really interact/get along with flatmates.
Granted, I'm not exactly a talkative guy, I would even go so far as to say I'm very introverted.
Why is this the case, you might ask? Well, I would say it's down to a mismatch of personalities. The 4 girls are in a tight-knit group and love to party and drink a lot - not my scene. Two of the guys are super loud, I'm pretty sure they think slamming doors is some sort of display of manhood (it's not), but you get the drill, they're boisterous gym-bros who try too hard to look hench.
The one other guy in my flat doesn't leave their room at all (Omg literally me lol), anyway yeah, I actually purposely avoid my hallsmates when they're in the kitchen and I'm pretty sure they do the same to me because I'm the weirdo quiet guy.
Just wanted to check in and see if my experience is totally against the norm or if it's actually fairly normal to not really interact/get along with flatmates.
Hey, I'm Scarlet.
I think it is very normal and common to have limited interaction with flat mates. University halls can bring all sorts of different people together, with opposing interests and personalities, and these differences can make it hard to form connections, so I wouldn't worry too much. If you are happy with how it is at the moment, then there's no need to force friendships or interactions when they are not needed, especially as you are in first year, so you have all the opportunities to make friends and meet new people if that is something you want do.
I also think this is more common than you might think, and you're not a 'weirdo' for being quiet, its very expected when you are placed with people with different interests and personalities, so do not worry! You will find your people
I hope this helps. Scarlet - Sheffield Hallam Student Ambassador
Original post by Anonymous
Yep, so, I'm just finishing up the first year of my degree and I realized that in the entire year I've spoke about 2 words to the 7 other people in my uni halls.
Granted, I'm not exactly a talkative guy, I would even go so far as to say I'm very introverted.
Why is this the case, you might ask? Well, I would say it's down to a mismatch of personalities. The 4 girls are in a tight-knit group and love to party and drink a lot - not my scene. Two of the guys are super loud, I'm pretty sure they think slamming doors is some sort of display of manhood (it's not), but you get the drill, they're boisterous gym-bros who try too hard to look hench.
The one other guy in my flat doesn't leave their room at all (Omg literally me lol), anyway yeah, I actually purposely avoid my hallsmates when they're in the kitchen and I'm pretty sure they do the same to me because I'm the weirdo quiet guy.
Just wanted to check in and see if my experience is totally against the norm or if it's actually fairly normal to not really interact/get along with flatmates.
Granted, I'm not exactly a talkative guy, I would even go so far as to say I'm very introverted.
Why is this the case, you might ask? Well, I would say it's down to a mismatch of personalities. The 4 girls are in a tight-knit group and love to party and drink a lot - not my scene. Two of the guys are super loud, I'm pretty sure they think slamming doors is some sort of display of manhood (it's not), but you get the drill, they're boisterous gym-bros who try too hard to look hench.
The one other guy in my flat doesn't leave their room at all (Omg literally me lol), anyway yeah, I actually purposely avoid my hallsmates when they're in the kitchen and I'm pretty sure they do the same to me because I'm the weirdo quiet guy.
Just wanted to check in and see if my experience is totally against the norm or if it's actually fairly normal to not really interact/get along with flatmates.
Hi there,
You're definitely not alone in feeling this way. Certainly, I wasn't that close to the people who I lived with in my first year. However, by socialising at uni, joining societies and putting myself out there, I made better friends with other people and we would hang out often at my flat. Don't feel disheartened if you don't click with the first group of people you live with!
Hope this helps!
- Sophie
Hi there,
I think that as long as you have enjoyed your year at uni that is absolutely fine! It is important to remember that you are placed randomly with a group of people you don't know, and that does not mean that you have to be best friends with them. While that may be the case for some it certainly isn't for others. You may find that you have much more in common with people from your course or those in the same societies as you, and that is absolutely fine.
So in short yes I think it is totally normal to not really interact or get along with flatmates in first year, remember you didn't get to select who you went with!
I hope this helps,
Ellen
Y3 Medical Student
Uni of Sunderland
Digital Ambassador
I think that as long as you have enjoyed your year at uni that is absolutely fine! It is important to remember that you are placed randomly with a group of people you don't know, and that does not mean that you have to be best friends with them. While that may be the case for some it certainly isn't for others. You may find that you have much more in common with people from your course or those in the same societies as you, and that is absolutely fine.
So in short yes I think it is totally normal to not really interact or get along with flatmates in first year, remember you didn't get to select who you went with!
I hope this helps,
Ellen
Y3 Medical Student
Uni of Sunderland
Digital Ambassador
Original post by Anonymous
Yep, so, I'm just finishing up the first year of my degree and I realized that in the entire year I've spoke about 2 words to the 7 other people in my uni halls.
Granted, I'm not exactly a talkative guy, I would even go so far as to say I'm very introverted.
Why is this the case, you might ask? Well, I would say it's down to a mismatch of personalities. The 4 girls are in a tight-knit group and love to party and drink a lot - not my scene. Two of the guys are super loud, I'm pretty sure they think slamming doors is some sort of display of manhood (it's not), but you get the drill, they're boisterous gym-bros who try too hard to look hench.
The one other guy in my flat doesn't leave their room at all (Omg literally me lol), anyway yeah, I actually purposely avoid my hallsmates when they're in the kitchen and I'm pretty sure they do the same to me because I'm the weirdo quiet guy.
Just wanted to check in and see if my experience is totally against the norm or if it's actually fairly normal to not really interact/get along with flatmates.
Granted, I'm not exactly a talkative guy, I would even go so far as to say I'm very introverted.
Why is this the case, you might ask? Well, I would say it's down to a mismatch of personalities. The 4 girls are in a tight-knit group and love to party and drink a lot - not my scene. Two of the guys are super loud, I'm pretty sure they think slamming doors is some sort of display of manhood (it's not), but you get the drill, they're boisterous gym-bros who try too hard to look hench.
The one other guy in my flat doesn't leave their room at all (Omg literally me lol), anyway yeah, I actually purposely avoid my hallsmates when they're in the kitchen and I'm pretty sure they do the same to me because I'm the weirdo quiet guy.
Just wanted to check in and see if my experience is totally against the norm or if it's actually fairly normal to not really interact/get along with flatmates.
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