I feel guilty

So basically I need to know if i’ve done something wrong, so me and my boyfriend are really happy and we love eachother so much and i see my entire future being with him, the only issue that is really bugging me is that there is this guys that would come up to me and talk to while i was in college and it was nothing flirtatious he would just speak to me and my friends, he liked my pictures and followed me and now i feel **** for speaking to him cuz i realised what he was really after, like he wouldn’t be flirtatious with me but i could tell his attention was to me when my friends were around, but i feel like i’ve cheated because it’s wrong to speak to someone when they are clearly trying something with you, me and my bf were also in a bad place we were arguing all the time and i didn’t feel as happy but that is no excuse at all, I love my bf with everything i have and i don’y understand why i did it? i know i’ll get a lot of judgement but i just need someone to explain if i should tell my bf because i know he would break up with me if he knew i spoke to the guy that wants to be with me, but i also don’t want anyone else i want to be with my bf

you're fine it's not the end of the world you're overreacting

I get that it sounds like i’m overreacting but my point is that I spoke to him even when I knew it was wrong, it just feels like if I knew it was wrong i shouldn’t have done it and it’s cheating

So basically I need to know if i’ve done something wrong, so me and my boyfriend are really happy and we love eachother so much and i see my entire future being with him, the only issue that is really bugging me is that there is this guys that would come up to me and talk to while i was in college and it was nothing flirtatious he would just speak to me and my friends, he liked my pictures and followed me and now i feel **** for speaking to him cuz i realised what he was really after, like he wouldn’t be flirtatious with me but i could tell his attention was to me when my friends were around, but i feel like i’ve cheated because it’s wrong to speak to someone when they are clearly trying something with you, me and my bf were also in a bad place we were arguing all the time and i didn’t feel as happy but that is no excuse at all, I love my bf with everything i have and i don’y understand why i did it? i know i’ll get a lot of judgement but i just need someone to explain if i should tell my bf because i know he would break up with me if he knew i spoke to the guy that wants to be with me, but i also don’t want anyone else i want to be with my bf

So basically I need to know if i’ve done something wrong, so me and my boyfriend are really happy and we love eachother so much and i see my entire future being with him, the only issue that is really bugging me is that there is this guys that would come up to me and talk to while i was in college and it was nothing flirtatious he would just speak to me and my friends, he liked my pictures and followed me and now i feel **** for speaking to him cuz i realised what he was really after, like he wouldn’t be flirtatious with me but i could tell his attention was to me when my friends were around, but i feel like i’ve cheated because it’s wrong to speak to someone when they are clearly trying something with you, me and my bf were also in a bad place we were arguing all the time and i didn’t feel as happy but that is no excuse at all, I love my bf with everything i have and i don’y understand why i did it? i know i’ll get a lot of judgement but i just need someone to explain if i should tell my bf because i know he would break up with me if he knew i spoke to the guy that wants to be with me, but i also don’t want anyone else i want to be with my bf

so you spoke to him, and he liked your pics and followed you? Even if he was after something that doesn't sound like your fault. Surely your boyfriend doesn't stop you literally speaking to people. Tbh just sounds like friend behaviour, though I don't know what to extent you mean his attention was on you. From this I don't think this is something you should worry about. What exactly makes you feel guilty, how is this different from talking to anyone else that isn't your boyfriend?

All you have done is be nice by speaking to the other guy. You have not cheated, you are allowed to speak to other guys you know. Its not like you kissed him, or had any sexy chat on line or anything like that.
What problem you really have is not you, its your b/f. If he breaks up with you for simply speaking to a guy then its not the right kind of relationship at all. Its a controlling one.

The reason why I feel guilty is because I felt like I was entertaining it, I have an issue with attention, as soon as someone gives me attention let it be girl or guy I instantly fall for it, i never had any attention growing up so that causes me to talk to someone knowing my bf wouldnmt like it cuz my bf knows that guy has a thing for me and i still spoke to him knowing it’s disrespectful, i was never flirtatious with the guy i was soeaking to him as i would my friends but i was entertaining conversation

Its not disrepectful. You was not flirtatious back, you was just being polite and friendly. There is nothing wrong with that. Please dont think that speaking to someone who is flirting with you is classed as cheating. It really really is not.

Thank you for this, the reason why I feel guilty is because I know is disrespectful speaking to him knowing he likes me, it just feels wrong to me and i can’t stop thinking about jt