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What's the best way to get over someone when you live alone....all I do is think about him

What's the best way to get over someone when you live alone....all I do is think about him

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this by yourself. Honestly I think the best thing to do is to actually sit and feel sorry for yourself to start with, actually work on healing and you'll come out stronger and healthier. I'm going through a break up currently, even though I'm often surrounded by people I still feel alone and he's always on my mind. But, I'm focused on facing this head on whilst he's already back on the dating apps and distracting himself.

Think about what you miss about him. Do you miss gifts? Treat yourself. Do you miss doing things together? Try and do something by yourself or with your friends that you've been wanting to do for a while, and make it memorable. Do you miss being close to him? If so, lean on your family and friends by texting them and calling, even if they can't be present with you.

Also, remember why you are no longer together. If it was something he did, remind yourself of that fact and the fact that you were no longer compatible. If it was something you did, reflect on those actions and determine how you are going to work on yourself to be better in the future. If it was nobody's fault (like moving for uni or a career), then understand that you made the best decision for your future selves, even if it may be difficult in the present.

It is okay to be upset, to relish the good times and to miss what you have lost, but only to a certain point. Once it is causing more harm than progress, you have got to take the lessons you have learnt from the relationship and apply them to your life. You were single before and you lived your life, so you will overcome this and return to that. It is just about time and patience.

Hope this helps.

Get a new hobby

Any suggestions?

Do you ever get the urge to text him out of nowhere? I'm currently struggling with that..keeping away from him. I'm also sorry you're going through a heartbreak :/ Maybe we should both go on dating apps in hopes of distracting ourselves

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this by yourself. Honestly I think the best thing to do is to actually sit and feel sorry for yourself to start with, actually work on healing and you'll come out stronger and healthier. I'm going through a break up currently, even though I'm often surrounded by people I still feel alone and he's always on my mind. But, I'm focused on facing this head on whilst he's already back on the dating apps and distracting himself.

Do you ever get the urge to text him out of nowhere? I'm currently struggling with that..keeping away from him. I'm also sorry you're going through a heartbreak :/ Maybe we should both go on dating apps in hopes of distracting ourselves

All the time!! I've definitely texted a couple of times too, don't beat yourself up about it if you do text him either as it's completely normal. Especially when you've gone for speaking to someone everyday to absolutely nothing, it's hard. Ahaha I downloaded hinge for about 5 mins the other week and hated every second of it so deleted it. I know I'll see him on them which will just break my heart even more. I am contemplating re-downloading them just as a distraction like you said but I know that's really not healthy.

best way to get over someone is get on someone new , if you get my meaning

It's been a week, how are you feeling? I hope it's getting easier. I blocked him cause I noticed all I do is post things in hopes of catching his attention, and I don't think that was healthy. I feel like I was constantly hoping he'd come back to me as long as I knew he was available. After blocking him honestly I felt relived, I feel like with that I took the initiative to allow myself to get over him. Knowing that he wasn't available anymore. I also took time for myself just baking, cooking, watching movies and hopefully will start a new job soon to distract myself. I really hope you're also doing well because I know how hard it can get. I wonder tho how is it so easy for men to move on? Like you mentioned how your ex is probably on Hinge, and I feel like my ex is probably out there getting to know someone new. I feel like he's into the chase, once he got me everything changed. He made up this bullcrap excuse that he cant continue seeing me because he's "focusing on his self" and he doesn't have time for girls atm, and he doesn't see anything serious happening. When he promised me we'd be okay and said things about being serious about me. And how I was the first girl it ever felt right with. I don't get how a person can completely change their ideology after saying stuff like that. Anyway I'm genuinely wishing you the best xx

Unfortunately not great. Don't think it's getting any easier for me. Every time I leave the house I either see him drive past or see his friends & family, there's literally no escape I wish I could just pack up & move but funding doesn't allow. Yay well done you for blocking him, I'm proud of you for doing so, that's such a big step!!! I unfollowed my ex but can't bring myself to block him, I'm definitely still checking to see if he's watching my stories which I know isn't healthy. I always think it's so easy for guys, but I don't know if they really move on or just jump to the next thing and don't actually think about it or allow themselves to feel anything from the previous relationship. It's sounds like the exact same thing happened to you as it did with me. Everything was perfect, he was the first person I was able to trust and connect with in well over a year. He said he's never felt this way about anyone, me too, he was ready to make me his girlfriend then all of a sudden scared himself and decided he couldn't commit. Even though he was the one that inviting me round, telling me he missed me, introducing me to all his friends and family. I was closed off at first, he even said he was scared he caught feelings quicker than I did. I'm still so confused, and don't see myself getting over this one for a long time unfortunately. Even though he's broken my heart, I still have so much time & respect for him.

Do nice things and meet new people. It's honestly not rocket science.

you clearly haven't been heartbroken before 😅 I wish it were that simple

It is that simple. There is no point moping.