Question for girls

fear of upsetting the guy, dont know how he's gonna react- may react badly

But doesn’t it also create this sense of false hope which can be just as bad?

Why do you always reject a guy subtly by saying things like ‘I need space’ or ‘I need to process it’ and ghosting them instead of just saying no?

Why do you always reject a guy subtly by saying things like ‘I need space’ or ‘I need to process it’ and ghosting them instead of just saying no?

But doesn’t it also create this sense of false hope which can be just as bad?

I'm a guy... but it's just politer than being blunt. It's like if someone wants something from you, you'd react much better if they asked you nicely with a please etc. than demanding it and threatening you if you didn't comply.



Question for you:- You've already shown that you know that it's a gentle let down, so how is it creating "false- hope?"

It's just a simple way of managing a potentially awkward or volatile situation. It's never nice rejecting someone (unless you blatantly didn't like the person), so it's also easier for them to let someone down gently rather than trampling over their heart / ego. If she's too direct with her rejection, then she's being a "female-dog".

Also, as pointed out by others here, your average man is significantly stronger than your average female (personally, I don't think anything else needs to be said on the matter).

Maybe it's just me but I'm not usually someone who reads between the lines well especially when it comes to relationships so for the first few days/weeks I genuinely believed she was just thinking about it. But the weeks turned into months and the waiting just eventually took a toll on me to the point where I kind of 'woke up' and realised that it was a let down.

Well you know now.

No point in giving yourself a hard time about it,,, just remember for next time (and don't leave it so long... how many girls have slipped through your fingers, before you "woke up" )

Granted, there are some times when she may be genuinely thinking about it, but she'd get back to you in reasonable time. If you have to chase, and you're ignored, then she's not interested.

Another one for you to bear in mind, is whenever a girl says she's "busy" to an invitation, it's another way of saying she's not interested (even if she says "I'm really really weerleeeyyy sorry,". The ONLY exception is if she's very specific about what she's busy with, and when she expects to be free (e.g. "I've got a major project deadline next Friday, but I should be free by the weekend")

Why do you always reject a guy subtly by saying things like ‘I need space’ or ‘I need to process it’ and ghosting them instead of just saying no?

It's hard to know, without being aware of the full circumstances.

Saying she needs space, yes isn't a great sign, but did you follow up?

'I need to process it' - process what? did you do something? this doesn't make a lot of sense?

Why do you always reject a guy subtly by saying things like ‘I need space’ or ‘I need to process it’ and ghosting them instead of just saying no?

So we knew each other for a bit and I basically told her I caught feelings so that was her response.

And no I never followed up.

So we knew each other for a bit and I basically told her I caught feelings so that was her response.

And no I never followed up.