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How do i make friends in uni as an introvert?

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Original post by Anonymous
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I just started as well
I guess it will, at just some point, happen
Hi there,

I myself am an introvert, and I have social anxiety, so I especially struggled to make friends in my first year. But I took the courage to ask my fellow course mates if I would be able to hang out with them and now we're friends. I mentioned this in another blog, but before I had approached my course mates, I was worried they would think of me as a weird person or perhaps say no to me, but when they had said yes to me, I realised that it was all in my head. Furthermore, after becoming a student ambassador, I met so many wonderful student ambassadors too whom I'm also friends with. It does take courage, and it took the whole of my first year to open up. But eventually it comes to you naturally. You realise no one really knows the real you until you voice your opinion and open up to them. :smile:

I hope this helped.

Best wishes,

Coventry University Student Ambassador
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Original post by Coventry University Student Ambassadors
Hi there,

I myself am an introvert, and I have social anxiety, so I especially struggled to make friends in my first year. But I took the courage to ask my fellow course mates if I would be able to hang out with them and now we're friends. I mentioned this in another blog, but before I had approached my course mates, I was worried they would think of me as a weird person or perhaps say no to me, but when they had said yes to me, I realised that it was all in my head. Furthermore, after becoming a student ambassador, I met so many wonderful student ambassadors too whom I'm also friends with. It does take courage, and it took the whole of my first year to open up. But eventually it comes to you naturally. You realise no one really knows the real you until you voice your opinion and open up to them. :smile:

I hope this helped.

Best wishes,

Coventry University Student Ambassador

Idk how to approach my course mates like how should i begin the convo?
Original post by Anonymous
Idk how to approach my course mates like how should i begin the convo?

By talking
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Original post by Anonymous
By talking

Lol
I'm also an introvert and my best advice is to just go to everything. In the ejd' even if you're quiet, just being there means you form connections with people so that you have time to get used to them and open up. You don't have to do everything, but do anything that even slightly appeals in the knowledge that you can go home if you want :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
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Honestly, I hope you meet people soon, I know this doesn't help but I'm having the same issue and finding it hard. However, trying all the common routes I.E Societies, finding local groups/clubs I guess with common interests and generally speaking with people on your course can go a long way to finding friends. I know it's difficult and some days you may be in your room feeling lonely, but keep trying, it gets more difficult the less you try. Good luck :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
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Hi there,

As an introvert as well, I was also troubled about making friends in first year.

There are many ways where you get to meet new people: for example talking to some at societies, looking at Facebook fresher's group, speaking to course mates, sometimes your wellbeing and support team may host events/ regular meetings. For example, our University offers 1-to-1 coffee chats/ walking buddies, you could always try those out if you fancy. :smile:

Since everyone has just gotten to University, there are quite a few topics that you can start off a conversation with: which stage of studies are they in? what course are they studying? where are they from? are they living on campus? You could also talk about the course so far... Many freshers will be in the same position as you, so don't be afraid to talk to others. :smile:

It does take a lot of courage to put yourself outside your comfort zone, but I would recommend trying out new things and getting to meet people. I meet my group of friends after attending societies and through talking to others on my course. I hope this helps.

Chloe
-University of Kent Student Rep
Original post by Anonymous
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Hi @Anonymous,

Making friends at university as an introvert can be a bit challenging, but it's definitely possible! Firstly, look for opportunities to connect with others through shared interests. Attend campus events, join study groups, or participate in clubs or societies that are available to you. Even in your course, take the initiative to reach out to your classmates as you’re all in the same boat! Strike up conversations before or after class, ask questions about coursework, or propose forming a study group. These interactions can gradually lead to friendships.

In other ways, many universities have online communities or forums where students can connect online. This can be a comfortable way to start conversations and build friendships where you will then be able to plan for meet-ups later on!

Listening attentively and showing genuine interest in others can also help you form genuine connections. Ask open-ended questions, offer support, and make others feel heard. People appreciate being listened to, and it can help foster lasting friendships. It is also good to recognise that it's okay to take breaks and have some alone time, find a balance between socialising and giving yourself the space you need to feel refreshed.

Most importantly, be patient with yourself. Building friendships takes time, even at university, so don't feel pressured to rush the process!

Wishing you all the best,
Ellie

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