I don't understand? Help please.

Male attention as an affirmation of their looks? Do you know how depressing that sounds? At least men are clear about their intentions so feelings are hurt less often, while women seem to enjoy teasing and misguiding naive males with attention seeking and dishonest behavior

I do realize that women do not want to be used for sex but men's libido is not something they can change or ignore, much like many girls cannot resist their desire for unrealistic romance and the complete attention and servitude of their partner.

I've yet to meet a girl who is sexually frustrated, yet that is a common feature of men's relationships. If girls don't give in to the lustful demands of their boyfriends, can they legitimately ask for their own needs to be met? Besides, it's not like girls actually dislike sex, their inhibition is more often than not caused by deep seated and unspoken cultural rules that prohibit promiscuity.

A guy wanting sex doesn't mean he'll not want to pursue a relationship. In fact most guys know that the best sex is to be had with women we feel comfortable and cuddly with.

Cheers

it's all sex and the city, he did/she did mind games. And the dating ettiquitte is so screwed up, you honestly cannot be yourself if you want to supposedly succeed you have to 'wait three days before texting, count his X's, giggle at the approppriate time, not get to friendly incase your put in the friend-zone, yada yada yayaya' it's so wrong.

The worrying thing is, this facade works. I bow down to that level, suppress the real me and all the guys want me. Attraction is so false and that is why i've quite simply given up. There is no such thing as 'boy meets girl' - it's all much more calculated than that. Sorry for the bum note. Prove me wrong and male it work xxx

Ps. Totally understand the italians kissing bit. I was once greeted in such a manner: kiss on both cheeks, by an italian girl that i was doing a tutorial presentation with. Put a smile on my face.

I want a girl who is a friend first, I'd run a mile if I have to act all macho or something

You're just a genuine guy. That is the best kind of guy...The fact that you don't conform to the norm is good and makes you a cut above the rest (in my eyes).

I've been seeing a guy 6ft4 russian God

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Now I just need to go find a funny signature somewhere...

You're just a genuine guy. That is the best kind of guy. But attraction is so fickle and very much depemdant on gentle manipulation. The fact that you don't conform to the norm is good and makes you a cut above the rest (in my eyes). If you want to find a like minded soul then look for her in a more natural environment, internet is not always the best option for picky people. I imagine that you are wonderful, attractive and appealing in your own way, you have to display that to women. Let the potential 'her' see you and appreciate you in a normal environment. Join volunteer groups, dance classes, language classes or even better: something that actually interests you. That way you will meet someone who will see you/get to know you as a person gradually and you can slowly show them what a catch you are. Am i makimg sense? Love is not the elusive, one off thing we humans have made it to be. It's chemical and it won't happen until you get out there and mix it up a bit. Challenge fate, ask someone out on a whim, don't be downhearted by rejection or failure. Find the one, make it work.

Good luck X

Wow.

Are you going to point out a flaw in my reasoning?

Anonymous because I find this embarrassing and I know people who use this forum .

I don't understand why I am so awful at 'pulling' girls in clubs because in everyday life I seem to do very well. I had several girlfriend's all the way through school/college I often get compliments from a vast variety of people saying that I'm handsome/ good looking, I'm 6'2" tall and very athletic. It's just weird, I don't particularly like approaching girls but in the past this has never been a problem because every single one of my girlfriend's approached me first. So what do I need to do?. I notice girls look at me quite a bit when I'm in the club but they never do anything else, and one girl the other day came up to me said I was beautiful and then walked off before I could say anything, I mean seriously wtf is that about? It's just annoying because I don't know what I am expected to do any more, please advice.

Thanks.

P.s I a genuine confused person who needs advice (not a troll).

Girls like guys who don't put apostrophes in ****ing plurals.

They also don't like pedants.

Oh yes they do.

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That, sir, is a sentence fragment.
We can go on like this for days, if you wish; I'm the stubborner.

That, sir, is a sentence fragment.
We can go on like this for days, if you wish; I'm the stubborner.

Oh darn, I thought the sex face would've pacified you.

Oh darn, I thought the sex face would've pacified you.

i'm fair enjoying the kinky grammar based flirtations, i must admit.

There is nothing wrong with my reasoning. Yes height wise our bodies fit perfectly so he gives the best hugs. He is really... Just amazing, interesting, his views on relationship and sex, his political beliefs everything about him. If you read my post you'll have learned that i'm the one who is panting trying to get into his pants - not the other way round. He doesn't try anything on nor does he put on any facade or 'mess' with my head/play games or go by some unwritten man rules. He is modest, vibrant and his personality appeals to me. He is just himself though. He dresses in a way that i wouldn't have thought was typically mainstream or previously appealed to me, but after being with him, all things that make him him attract me (his accent, his dress sense, his dimples, his morality)

Jeez why am i defending my attraction. He is amazing and he didn't ask me out whilst drunk or at a club. He wrote his number on my receipt when he served me. It was the cutest thing that had ever happened to me.

Thanks for quoting me, you have reaffirmed a lot for me and helped me make a decision that i was deliberating over! Xxx