Would you *ever* give up your ideal dreams/future/career for your perfect partner?

I think id go for partner. I'd feel like there was still something missing if i had a perfect career but no partner

So I need a husband to spur me on/cheer me up/understand me? What the ****?



I'm career-driven and I do not necessarily want success (depends how you define it) and I most definitely do not want money/status.

Career-driven =/= loneliness.

I didn't say that. I said that is what I want. I didn't say it is what you need. Or even what I need for that matter.

I don't understand, your career driven but don't want success. Not very driven really is it.

To state the parameters of this question (as it could be interpreted in different ways):

*Pretend you have not experienced your dream/future/career, i.e. to be an investment banker or to travel around the world. So it is NOT a case of "yeah, when I'll give up my career half-way through". No, it's one or the other.

*Your dream or whatever cannot be finding "true love" or "happiness" or any of that wishy-washy crap. Just definite and specific goals. No emotions included, it has to be an actual goal.

*To reiterate once again, it is a ONE or the OTHER choice. No best of both worlds in this case.

I edited this bit as people are going down the "compromise" route, i.e. they'll take the perfect partner with a not so perfect career. So the situation is changed. NO compromise. It's:

*Perfect partner + ****/no career
*Perfect career + ****/no partner

Also, no exploiting any loopholes.

Thanks. Interested in your opinions.

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How you been?

Back to the question, i actually do not know. I do not believe in 'love' or a 'perfect partner'. So i will lean more to the dreams/future prospects, saying that who knows?

Well you define "success" as such a negative term, con notating it with loneliness and therefore depression.

So technically I do not want "success" under your definition.

Why is it so bad to be successful?

I think you'll disown me, but I'll go for perfect partner.

Assuming everything really is "perfect", which is of course impossible, I will have respect/companionship/intellectual stimulation/love and ultimately happiness forever. Nothing can beat that. Also, having children and loving them is basically my ultimate dream, so that would top a job for that reason. Human contact and relationships (not just romantic) are more important than career success. You can make happiness outside of your job title.

EDIT: again, just to emphasise I'm taking perfect as perfect. I know that it could never work out like that, there'll be problems/off days/loss of attraction, but this is all theoretcial.

I haven't said success is a negative thing. I have simply said that success is not what I would want over a partner. I never defined success as being lonely. I understood the idea of this thread is its one or the other. Career or partner. Without a partner I would be lonely and therefore, seeing as though for the purpose of this debate you can't have a perfect partner and you dream career, I would be lonely if I chose my dream career.

Fair enough. If that's what's best for you, great.

But for me, it's not.

Nothing wrong with that. Actually, just realised your username - really?! As long as you respect other people's choices, that's fine.



I understand.



Ideally, both would be "perfect" really.

haha i love how you phrased this question so all the smart a$ TSRs cant try to say wimpy stuff like
"my true partner would share my dreams with me"
"happiness is my goal and so my dream is a combination/compromise of both"

im 25 and have seen loads of girls at uni with good degrees who were aspiring doctors, barristers, etc give up and take cr@p jobs that dont need a degree, like working in shops or personal training/gym cleaning, just so they can move closer to their current bf and plan their life around spending the most time with him. Also pushing toward 30, the majority of women turn marriage and baby crazy and that is their all absorbing goal in life

its rubbish. im single and a financial advisor. although i could do with a good sh@g now and again, im cool with being single and grungy

Wow, I'm really surprised that perfect partner is winning (on TSR!!!).. although I voted that too.
I imagine that my perfect partner will fit in/ change my ideal future anyway.