Posh girls, would you go for a guy who wasn't posh?

People tend to meet others who have similar background, culture, interests etc. It is reflected in where you go to school, go out, go on holiday etc. So it is natural for people to 'click' with similar people. Yet when two people of wealthy backgrounds do it, it is seen as if they are being excluding, difficult, arrogant, "won't give poor people a chance". I think it's possible to be flexible in terms of dating, but there are limits of far you go. There is a certain type of guys I like with a certain look, that is simply my preference, and of course, it is probably shaped by my background. I'm not looking to get married yet either, so it is not about marrying well, it is simply about who you have things in common with. And obviously when the day comes for me to get serious with someone, I would want a guy with a similar financial background (or better), so we could live in the area I want, go on holidays certain places etc. I have never lived off a man, I expect to go 50/50 in on an apartment, so he would need to be quite well off for it to work. So to answer your question, you go for what you know.

I agree
Though I've been called 'posh' on many an occasion, yet I'm not wealthy by any means I think it's often the way you've been brought up that also has an effect, as in, I've been brought up with good manners and to 'be a lady' so that's who I am - I'm not necessarily regarded as 'posh' because ppl assume I'm wealthy Though Horses often have something to do with ppl judging my financial situation lol.
Mind you, should a guy not come across as 'posh' etc, as long as he's a gentleman and respectful of me etc, I don't see why social status should be a deciding factor - if that makes sense

Can I ask how you know people assume you're wealthy?
I really don't know what people think about me in those terms. I have expensive clothes and all that, but I hope people just think I have good taste. One guy asked me why I didn't just buy a car as soon as I moved here, since I have to take the bus and I told him I don't have a license, and I wondered how he simply assumed I could buy a car without thinking about it (I can though, but haven't considered it ). There are a lot of people who may have expensive items but they either borrow from parents or work their asses off with part time jobs. I have a few friends that I know for a fact are wealthy, either because their parents are well-known or because you google them and find pictures from a debutante ball. Other than that, you can easily get the wrong impression.

Well, getting comments like 'Are you rich because you have Horses??' or 'You are obviously well off because you have Horses' or 'You must own your own Farm' things like that tend to give me the impression ppl think I'm wealthy lol.
I have a part time Job and intend to pay for Driving lessons, Horsey Exams etc etc myself - far more pride than not earning what you have/ having everything given to you by Parents imo

People at your school are obviously not discreet ! :/ I never talk about money with any of my friends.

I'm not wealthy by any means
... Though Horses often have something to do with ppl judging my financial situation lol.

If you have horses you are wealthy!

He was very proud of his very working class roots and couldn't go out with me because I could afford to go to starbucks and eat out (in standard restuarants like Pizza express!) when I wanted to.

I am by most people standards posh or at least come from an incredibly wealthy background (2 houses, 5 cars, boat, horse etc). All my family went to oxbridge (mainly medics) and I go to a very good private school but usually I end up with someone on opposite end of scale who at 16 left a state school with no or very few qualifications and works as a labourer/stable hand/in a pet shop etc as just dislike arrogance of guys in similar circumstances as me.
There neer seem to be any issues due to differences in background but obviously my parents are never thrilled and are secretly quite pleased when after months a relationship ends with someone they deemed "just a bit of fun" but "unsuitable long term".
I tend to avoid guys who are posh just because I hate emphasis on money or any form of importance in it. I spend all my life volunteering or working on farms I don't want to ever have to act as some guy's lady far too restricting. I have no interest in economics or politics so no need to be with someone who feels the need to discuss them. All I ever go for is someone who makes me laugh, likes animals and isn't afraid of a bit of mud! In general this removes the "posh guys"
Sorry for essay just thought another perspective would be interesting for someone

Not sure how Pizza Express is a 'standard' restaurant? It's well expensive - I'd say maybe something like Pizza Hut or a pub is 'standard', but even then they're quite overpriced for what you get