I've just come to the end of my two University degrees, and I'm finally looking for my first graduate job… but I really can't decide where I want to live - back in my hometown at my Grandparents house or stay at my boyfriends parents house where I've lived throughout my degrees, and where I live at the minute. In terms of job opportunities, there isn't much difference, although the salary is slightly higher at home.
In terms of my two options… I've got my boyfriends house, where I have the majority of my stuff, my boyfriend who I love to bits, and I have a good relationship with his parents (even if sometimes they do drive me a little crazy). However, I don''t have any friends here, as they all moved back home at the end of College (which does get lonely sometimes, especially if my boyfriend is going out with his friends), and I don't really like the area where they live. In contrast, I love my hometown and all my friends and family are there - I always get a little sad when I leave to go back to my boyfriends! However, I'd miss my boyfriend if I lived there (I usually get a little upset when leaving him for a week… let alone permanently), the living situation wouldn't be ideal and I'm also wondering if I'd miss the routine… as at my boyfriends we go out a few times during the week and do different things, whereas if I lived at home it would be working 9 - 5, evening at home, and a usual weekend routine… other than meeting up with friends a few times a month… so I'm wondering if that would feel a little boring to me. Another option is renting a place at home / in a nearby city to my hometown… but renting isn't very cheap at either place… which is where staying with family would be better in order to save for a house due to it being cheaper… but at the same time I'd love my own place too… but would I get a little lonely after always being surrounded by people?! Sometimes I just think, if my parents were still alive, things would be so much easier and I could go back to my childhood home and do what many of my friends have done - gone back home, got a job and started to save! Obviously, if I did move back home, my boyfriend and I would regularly visit one another - a little like my friends do at the minute with their partners, as my boyfriend doesn't want to move out of his childhood home for a few years yet (even if he is 27), and plus he has a job in his hometown, so he wouldn't want / be able to come with me anyway. If it was up to me, I'd live at my boyfriends house, but have it in my hometown… which obviously cannot be achieved.
Obviously, getting a job is permanent, so I want to ensure my decision is the correct one.. as I'd hate to regret it further down the line. I'm just wondering if living at my boyfriends would be too permanent in comparison to living back in my hometown (even if the living situation at home isn't always ideal)… as throughout my college years I've always been flexible with going home, whereas when you have a job you don't have as much freedom.
Not only that, but I've also got to think about the future, and where I want to be. At the moment, I definitely cannot see myself buying a home around my boyfriends hometown (even though it's not for a few years yet)… just because I really don't like it… which may cause us problems in the future if he doesn't want to live far away from his family. In the future, I'd definitely prefer to have a home nearer my hometown, a new city, or even if I'm lucky enough overseas. I just seem to be far more open to stuff like that in comparison to him. I'm just wondering if that should also have an influence of my decision or not.
Problem is, my family / friends assume I'm coming home, and my boyfriend assumes I'm staying with him and his parents… and until I decide exactly what I'm doing, whether it's stay with my boyfriend, live at my Grandparents, or have a fresh start renting in a new city or in my hometown, I'm finding it difficult to start looking for jobs, as I don't know where I want to be.
Any advice would be most appreciated, as I'm really torn with what I should do.