After how long does dating become a relationship?

He will try and have sex or at least get very intimate. I think going to his place is a good idea to bring up the the relationship convo

You obviously want to go out with him so make that clear and firm when you see him

You both hope it's going to continue, is key. I think that doing the deed can be a leap of faith on that journey. Follow your instincts..

I'm a virgin and intend to keep it (I've told him this and he seems to respect it), I was with my ex for several years on and off and I didn't lose it with him. How do I bring up the relationship convo or is it too soon?

I'm a virgin and intend to keep it (I've told him this and he seems to respect it), I was with my ex for several years on and off and I didn't lose it with him. How do I bring up the relationship convo or is it too soon?

I don't think it's too soon. If you feel like your relationship could potentially progress then tell him because he might see it as a 'fling' and you might want something more so it's better to express your intention otherwise you guys won't be on the same page. Perhaps just slide it in on a date, something along the lines of 'so I've been thinking about us and I want to know where you thing we stand so we're both on the same page'.

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I'm a virgin and intend to keep it (I've told him this and he seems to respect it), I was with my ex for several years on and off and I didn't lose it with him. How do I bring up the relationship convo or is it too soon?

So, I think this can be a bit off tense discussion early days. If he treats you with enthusiasm and affection it is a good sign and you could raise it. Holding back on sex is a test too, mind you several years seems quite a challenge and maybe you're missing out on some opportunities to develop a relationship.

Don't stop yourself from doing anything you really want to just because it isn't 'official'.

I only unfortunately didn't get the chance to tell my bf , as my lovely best friend got drunk and told him in front of everyone at pre-drinks. He's really understanding about it and has never tried to pressure me.
It's a hard convo to bring up, i know from experience. It mainly got bought up by randoms on nights out that would ask if we were bf/gf which made it really awkward when we were just seeing each other. We eventually had the convo after his friend asked him why he hadn't asked me yet, in front of me !!


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Shall I just not mention anything? Or shall I just cancel the house date all together



I don't mind kissing him, but when you're secluded from the world with just one other person, it will be difficult. We both have quite high sexual libidos. But I know in principle, I would only want to kiss and maybe a bit of touching, but nothing further.

See that sounds so easy! And he's had two "serious-ish" relationships, one for 6 months and another for 11months (which dragged on cos it was long distance). So I don't even know if he will ask me "officially" to be my boyfriend. He did say he wants a relationship when we first got set up.

Go for it. Bring a bottle of wine too.

Believe me, it made it awkward as hell, as i was just stood there listening to his friend say it !!
He might do, but may just be waiting to make sure that he wants a relationship. If his break up was recent, that may be why he is taking it slow.


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We had this convo maybe a week ago, I just said it bluntly and he appreciated it "I just want to know what you're thinking, I don't want to waste my time if we're not on the same level. I know I said I wanted things to go slowly, but I don't want to waste my time either.". He said he likes me and fancies me. Because initially I said I wanted to take things slowly. I don't want to have the convo again, in case he thinks I'm desperate. He did tell me he was worried I was on the rebound as I was with my previous for over 7 years, but I don't think I am.

5 dates wouldn't be enough for me, you barely know someone then. I wouldn't obsess over official or not either, just do whatever feels right.

He just texted me:

"Come join us. My aunt and co are over. I'll come pick you up and introduce you to the family".

So confused.