My mum wants me to come home again this weekend.Anxiety.

Have a serious chat with her and tell her that demanding that you come home every weekend is detrimental to your university education.

You are an adult. It is up to you to decide when you visit your family.

He told her already. Being gentle will not convince her because this kind of parents don't actually care about it but care about their own ego that is projected into their sons.The only way is to play it tough,tell her that with this behaviour you will leave uni and stop the conversation there.

just tell her straight to f off

Your right I have already told her,she also said that 5 days is enough to revise an then come home for the weekend.If I tell her off she will say why am I being aggresive and she will make a theorie/story up about me being troubled

It may be difficult for your mum to adjust to your absence. I had this with my mum, especially in first year. Tell them you have workshops/revision sessions with a study group that you need to go to during weekends. That's a nice way of saying sorry I'm busy revising.

My mum and the rest of the family is the type that will drive all the way to your University just to check,or phone the receptionist to find out.When she first came to visit me after a few months at Uni she searched through my bins and my cupards to see if I was hiding any drugs.Is this what your parents did?

No, they didn't. In that case you need to act like an adult, and make decisions for yourself and tell them "No, I'm doing this because it's what's best for me in the long-term". Be assertive.

No, they didn't. In that case you need to act like an adult, and make decisions for yourself and tell them "No, I'm doing this because it's what's best for me in the long-term". Be assertive.

Isn't that what he said already? They don't care.I had similar parents and no matter how many times I was repeating the same thing.They were making up counter points everytime because their real intention was to make me do what they wanted. The only way is being tough, like 'I want to do this instead.And if you force me I will leave uni(or leave the house and move),I'm not a coward and I don't care about any punishments you may give me'

Look, unless they're physically planning on dragging her out of the halls, she can say no, she has study session organised. Tell them you have plans. Let them overrule you. On the day you're meant to go, don't. If they call, say you're busy revising and you will not be going over. You need to realise your parents are human beings as well, you can have a little tiff with them if that's what it takes.

I bet £50. If she just says that they will not give in and she'll have to do what they want.

'Sorry, can't - I have exams I have to revise for and I can't revise well at home. I'll visit once they're out of the way'

Simple.

What year are you in? If first, your mum's still probably going through the adjustment period (are you an only child?). Tell her what she wants to hear - that you miss her etc. - but be firm and make it clear you have things to do. She'll get over it and hopefully realise you're just growing up.

If she doesn't listen, still don't go home. My friend's mum used to be similar and even now my friend is 21 her mum still tries to control her. It was only this past summer my friend was 'allowed' to have a bank account her mum didn't have access to. Because my friend was too afraid to cause a fuss, she just put up with it.