I f****d the girl that everyone hates

Basically she's my friends ex (he doesn't care, btw, as he's moved on, got a new gf, and this was 3 years ago.) They broke up because she was an absolute embarrassing wreck when drunk. Everyone still hates her for this reason and refuses to socialise with her.

I went out with some people who knew her, and they started talking, then we all came back to my house. They went home, and she stayed for a while, hiding, as her ex came to pick up my friends. I was really, really drunk, and she was flirting with me all night. I was a f******k 19 y/o virgin, so I just went with it.

But now she's telling everyone. Since she's such a wreck when she's drunk, she's just blurting it out to everyone that we speak to. She even started telling these random people in a pub we went to.

I obviously told my friends, though, and they tortured me over this. I felt like I had to invite her to the pub because I'm not a f***k boy. They all got annoyed with it because they don't like her, but she's texting me and I feel like I have to reply now.

Also, I was talking to this girl, who I think I have feelings for, and now I'm frightened that she's going to say something (since this girl lives on her street, and they went to the same school.) I don't want this girl to be annoyed and think I'm an absolute whore that's using her because I'm not (this is the first time I've ever had sex, after all.) I'm scared to even meet up with her now...If you were this girl, would you get the idea of me being a whore if you were told that I'd had sex with someone whilst talking to her?

Idk what to do, and how to make her shut up and leave me alone. I don't even understand why she's trying to ruin my life over this drunken mistake. She said that she didn't like me. She told me to go for the girl that I'm talking to. So why?? How can I stop this??

Lmao 'because I'm not a **** boy' what kind of stupid logic is that. What kind of man, invites a woman to the pub, because 'I'm not a **** boy' and feels compelled to text a girl he doesn't want to talk to.

Wow! That was one train wreck of a first time 😨.

To be honest, the girl that you fancy is not going to come running into your arms when she hears about this on the grapevine.

Explain to the young lady that you slept with that it was an alcohol influenced encounter and due to that and the bad vibes between her and your mates, there is no relationship potential.

Handle the rebuff right and the situation doesn't need to get nasty.

Lmao 'because I'm not a **** boy' what kind of stupid logic is that. What kind of man, invites a woman to the pub, because 'I'm not a **** boy' and feels compelled to text a girl he doesn't want to talk to.

Grow some balls Drake, and stop messing her about. 'You used to call me on the cell phone'

You really shouldn't have invited her to the pub...

Anyone else trying to work out what these words are? "f*ckf*ck" for the first one I'm going for (as in a guy who is doubley keen to have sex), "frock" boy for the second, as in a girly boy.

Grow up and live with your consequences, you had a choice between virginity and 'social integrity' and you chose to ignore the latter, your fault, move on and deal with it. In about a years time people will probably have forgotten and within 2 months people will probably stop giving a crap.

Sorry I didn't know if you were allowed to curse on here, and I was really angry when I wrote this.

I know that. Everything blows over, but I want to know what to do now...

Doesn't matter had sex.


But is she ugly tho?

First things first, since no one else has mentioned it - did you use protection?

I kinda feel bad for the girl in question. You aren't exactly talking fondly about her snd it doesn't seem like any of your other friends do too. Is she cute? Did the sex go alright? Not trying to pry but if it all went fine, I don't see any reason to be mad about the experience. You don't have to invite the girl to the pub or anything but try at least to be nice and pleasant.

Maybe just have a word with her if she keeps telling people - just say you'd rather her not as you don't want to be the subject of gossip. But word it carefully - you don't want to make it sound like you think of her as a regret or something. Just ignore your friends, they'll move on after a while and your friend must have thought she was hot to date her.

As for the girl you are talking to, just be honest. Ask her on a date or something and if it comes up or looks to be getting serious, mention that you slept with her and hope its not a big deal. There's a chance it might cause an issue but if you make it clear you are properly interesting in her (and not just for sex) it will hopefully work out fine.

She's actually quite attractive. We didn't understand why she had no friends when we first met her. Then she goes mental when she's drunk. She got my friend kicked out of a club, started attacking some random girl because she talked to him, cries all the time and guilts people to stay with her. We often go down the pub, so obviously no one wants to socialise with her.

I've also never made a move on a girl before because I'm afraid of rejection, hence why I was a virgin, so I think it was good practice, I guess, that's why.

Thanks, really good advice. Me and the girl I like are going out for drinks tonight, so hopefully it will be easier to talk then.