Did i cockblock myself? CRINGE

Went out on a second date with a girl i met online. It was a cinema date and it was quite empty. I held her hand once during the movie and she didn't mind. I didn't wanna make it too awkward so i pretended to stretch and stop holding hands. After this she crossed her arms so i couldn't really touch her again.

After the movie finished we spoke a little and then left. I then stupidly asked her if she wanted to make out (so ****ing cringe) and she responded by saying is it a serious question and i just smiled pathetically. She then mentioned we're just friends and so i left.

I've made it clear plenty of times that i wasn't interested in just friendship and she was all like i dunno what i want. I've honestly given up as its so hard to get laid these days.

What i wanna know is did i ever stand a chance or did i just blow my own ****ing leg off by asking such a retarded question? I honestly wanna hang myself now.

Went out on a second date with a girl i met online. It was a cinema date and it was quite empty. I held her hand once during the movie and she didn't mind. I didn't wanna make it too awkward so i pretended to stretch and stop holding hands. After this she crossed her arms so i couldn't really touch her again.

After the movie finished we spoke a little and then left. I then stupidly asked her if she wanted to make out (so ****ing cringe) and she responded by saying is it a serious question and i just smiled pathetically. She then mentioned we're just friends and so i left.

I've made it clear plenty of times that i wasn't interested in just friendship and she was all like i dunno what i want. I've honestly given up as its so hard to get laid these days.

What i wanna know is did i ever stand a chance or did i just blow my own ****ing leg off by asking such a retarded question? I honestly wanna hang myself now.

'It was a cinema date and it was quite empty. I held her hand once during the movie and she didn't mind. I didn't wanna make it too awkward so i pretended to stretch and stop holding hands' - why would you stop holding her hand? I think that indicated to her you weren't interested, that was your opportunity to lean in more but instead you backed away by letting go of her hand - especially since the cinema was empty, she would have felt that you didn't even want to hold her hand infront of 2-3 other people in the cinema.

But really, there wasn't a massive foundation for a relationship there, so it is no-ones fault other than 'she wasn't that interested' and you didn't show that you were interested enough. (all opinions are my own, feel free to ignore them)

If she thinks you are just friends why is she holding your hands in the cinema? Very odd.

It is cringe but just learn from it and move on.

Probably. I mean, if she seemed a little defensive (folding her arms) during the movie, perhaps she already had that "this isn't happening" mindset. The CCCCCRRRRRRIIINGGE that happened afterwards could've been the final nail in the coffin for her. I remember taking a girl to the cinema on a date once. It was horrible, the drinks holder just felt like a massive wall, and that If I tried to cross it, she'd just be creeped out. That's all I could think about during the movie, "how do i touch this grill". Plot twist: I should've just chilled the f*** out and enjoyed the movie.

I don't mean to sound preachy, but you should just take it as a lesson learned. Next time (there will be a next time, regardless of whether it's with her or not), just be more casual. Don't worry about making it awkward, worry about having a good time, chances are, it'll rub off on the lass you're with, and you'll BOTH have a good time. *thumbs up*

Maybe the problem is your mindset, "it's so hard to get laid these days"? Really, is that all your after? Sometimes we can pick up on it if a guy is just after getting his leg over.

I don't think cockblock is the right word to use.

Also, dates at the cinema are awkward. I think that they should be combined with something else for the exact reason that happened to you - awkwardly leaving after and not really being able to hold hands or kiss (both awkward things to do at a cinema!)

Also, don't ask. (There was a debate on TSR about asking to be kissed and whether it's right or not). But don't force yourself on her either - work your way up, start with smaller things and look for signals.

She said that you were just friends on a date? 💆

Maybe give it some time, then talk, and if all is well ask her out again.

Go for a coffee next time. Walk somewhere pretty.

There's no room to woo her when your activity is sitting silently in front of a screen. Coffee is also cheaper and good practice because you seem to be lacking in social ability (no offence meant. Just being realistic here) and finally you aren't forced to be together for 2 hours.

He did say second date. But you're right. Cinema dates are traps. They are not good until you're pretty comfortable with the person already AND I would still suggest going to eat something after, or doing some other activity after. But eating as nice as then you have a nice opportunity to talk about the movie you just watched! But eating out is kinda high up there. Like, I wouldn't do that on a first or second date myself. So cinema too must be delayed until later.

So ****ing true.

OP, if you want to get laid you need to make that explicitly obvious in your online dating profile. There sure are girls down for that. But they ain't really girlfriend material usually... But if that's all you want... Being honest is best. Or you are just wasting your time.

Lmao.

Quit being a cuck.

Take a zinc supplement, probably your testosterone levels are very low.

Lmao bet you paid for the movie too. Stop being a sucker man, who asks someone if they wanna make out hahaha.

If this is your attitude towards dating women, and it's nothing more than wanting to get laid, then this is your problem.

This.

Nothing to do with this. You're just not attractive enough. It's as simple as that.

Not sure how you can determine attractiveness from this... I'd say being a misogynistic **** who thinks women are your toys is much more unattractive than anything. Simple as that.

Nothing to do with this. You're just not attractive enough. It's as simple as that.

This was a second 'date'..?

Not sure how you can determine attractiveness from this... I'd say being a misogynistic **** who thinks women are your toys is much more unattractive than anything. Simple as that.

Like he said, he'd been friend zoned long before that.



Jeez, he said one sentence and you sound so annoyed. He could have easily said it out of pure frustration and because he was upset. You sound like a right judgmental sensitive **** who'd go crying for days because of an inappropriate 4 words.

Nope just intolerant of ********

Misogynistic? You gathered he was Misogynistic from the 6 words "it's so hard to get laid nowadays"? Do you ever know what that word means? "reflecting or exhibiting hatred,dislike,mistrust or mistreatment of women". This is completely crazy and you've completely blown it out of proportion.

The double standards are amazing. Lets reverse the roles and imagine a women talking about getting laid? Would you still label them like you did to him?

Political correctness gone crazy.

Maybe the problem is your mindset, "it's so hard to get laid these days"? Really, is that all your after? Sometimes we can pick up on it if a guy is just after getting his leg over.

Yeah it's strange. She sent me pictures previously and even talks about Netflix and chill and then gets offended when i play into it and flirt back.She said that she wants to be friends and then says she doesn't know what she wants!

I am calling you misogynistic for your response and yeah - thinking that the goal of getting with a girl is purely sexual is pretty misogynistic and has **** all to do with politics and everything to do with exactly what the girl after me said: men think it makes them alpha/brilliant. If a girl goes on the same persuit she is a slag.

If the roles were reversed - I would say the same. This isn't about gender.

Not sure how you can determine attractiveness from this... I'd say being a misogynistic **** who thinks women are your toys is much more unattractive than anything. Simple as that.

You're calling me a misogynist for the response of "maybe he didn't mean it, he was frustrated and upset"? Sleeping around is unattractive for both genders - not just one. He never said he gets with girls purely for sex thats just your assumption from those 6 words. If you take every single word face value then scream out "SEXISM" and "MISOGYNY" at every possible opportunity then you just look like an idiot.