He used the n word

And that's the problem, there shouldn't be these 2 wildly different interpretations of exactly the same word. If the n word is a racial slur then what are black people's reasoning for continuing to use the term among themselves? Seems very bizarre (not to mention racist), that a word's very definition changes depending on the skin colour of the person who said it. I personally think that it black people are so offended by non-blacks saying it then they should stop using the term themselves, so that it gradually fades out of existence. And if they don't want to stop using the word then they cannot reasonably expect all non-blacks to stop using it, as words are free property of all.

You need to research (can't be bothered to explain) and understand the reasoning behind the use of the word in today's society by black people. It's much more deeper than you think. Not all black people are offended nor do they even use the word, in the first place and that is the mistake you are making (ironically). It is a small minority that represented through media.

Accept it, using the n word is fine when used in the context of banter.

Like i said if you're not black your opinion on whether black people should or should not use that word is not your business or problem. It would be common decency as a white person to not use that word. I refrain from saying slurs aimed at other different types of people because I have morals. Of course i could say slurs if i wanted to, but I actively choose not to regardless of whether i think it is fine or not.

p.s: people can be discriminatory towards white people but not racist. They created racism.

Well no because I didn't say all black people (or even the majority) use it. I was talking about those who do and the context is quite irrelevant. It literally makes no sense for the black people who use it to cry about its oppressive origins by white people when they're using it with each other. If it's oppressive then it's oppressive, they're trying to have it both ways by policing people's words and automatically ascribing intentions of words depending on the skin colour of the person saying it.

Hi everyone

I just don’t know how to feel. I’m black and he’s white. We went to watch the black panther movie since it came out today.
He told me he watched the trailer and thought it was like an avatar n**** movie.

I was absolutely speechless and just laughed it off but now I can’t stop thinking about it.
What should I do

Hi everyone

I just don’t know how to feel. I’m black and he’s white. We went to watch the black panther movie since it came out today.
He told me he watched the trailer and thought it was like an avatar n**** movie.

I was absolutely speechless and just laughed it off but now I can’t stop thinking about it.
What should I do

Accept it, using the n word is fine when used in the context of banter.

Why can black people only say that word and white/asian people cant? isn’t that racist that white/asian people cant say it ?

Coming from an asian background... don’t want to cause any offence just wondering

This argument is always so dumb, it's not derogatory towards white/asian people so carries no weight behind it towards you.

As I mentioned earlier, it makes no sense to you because you lack the knowledge surrounding the topic. Hence, why I said you should do more research. Whilst I understand the point you are making, I think you are basing your generalisations off a few experiences. Even the black people that use the n-word don't take offence non-blacks that they are "close to or grew up with" using it in jest etc. I can already think of a few non-black musicians that use the word and there is no backlash against them.

Assuming you are even right, why would this bother you that much when it is a minority that don't represent the entire race. It's akin (whilst an extreme example) to complaining about KKK (who base themselves on Christian values), when we all know they do not represent Christianity. It's pointless.

Er no love. You’re seriously lacking knowledge on both ge subject and the context in which I was making Lyn posts to specific comments on this thread.

But I’m not just speaking about those they grew up with or are close to. The word is still the same, whether it’s used by friends or by strangers. Even stupider that not only race apparently determines whether the word is acceptable, but also your relationship to said person.

Look, I was making a point on principle. It’s clearly bothered you so much that you’ve had to keep replying and you’re not changing my opinion because your understanding is superficial and naive. The word is property of everyone and it’s double standards, hypocritical and bizarre for the black community to try and dictate who can and can’t say it. I don’t accept those faux impositions, simple.

Doesn't bother me one bit actually, personally could care less as it doesn't affect my life one bit. My aim is not to change your opinion rather to open your eyes to a different perspective (doesn't mean you have to agree) which you have clearly refused to acknowledge. I don't think you realise how uniformed and bitter you sound. It's quite awkward and embarassing to read.

I understand your perspective, it's simply wrong. You sound very bitter, triggered and upset that I don't accept your distorted, irrelevant view and it's deffo really embarrassing for you, sad.