Accepting you're damaged goods

Were you told by your ex partners that you were not good enough or is that just a thought of your own?
Seems like your self esteem is pretty low, instead of focussing on someone to settle down with why not just focus on looking for people who like to do the things that you like to do. Take your time and don't rush into anything.
Perhaps a little counselling wouldn't go amiss either?

Perhaps you may not want my advice, but in order for others to help you better:

What is it more specifically which hinders you? Like is it a feeling of inadequacy making you expect too much/become clingy, or is it something else?

It is more that we break up, they move on and are much happier with someone else, regardless of what I do differently or change to try and make things better.

Counselling hasn't helped a bit.

Nothing has changed regarding this issue despite me changing things about myself, thus I can't see any way that things could be different next time.

Has anybody here accepted that they're damaged goods and that it will hinder or sabotage them finding a potential partner?

I've been in several relationships before and my outlook on life was much better back then, but after each one it has been leaving me worse off and it's incredibly difficult to imagine I'm going to find someone that I can actually make happy and vice versa.

I've always been not good enough and the problem, a burden.

I can accept this and I've lost all hope of actually finding someone to settle down with, but how can I live with it?

I'd rather it not be like this but nobody is going to want someone with this outlook, but I can't think otherwise.

This just sounds like a case of not finding the person that is right for you and whom you are also right for. It can take a while to find that person but usually worth the ups and downs in the end. And please STOP trying to change to suit a partner just be you! - If they don;t like you as you are then you aren't right for each other. Obviously if you're changing things for yourself rather than to suit others than by all means be my guest!

Have you considered that perhaps you and the person were not right together rather than it being an inherent fault in yourself? And who is to say that she won't end up breaking up with the new banda at some point - and she will move on from him to another guy, and the one she just broke up with will say "she seems happier with him, so there must be something wrong with me" - it is an endless cycle...

Damaged doesn’t make you a lost cause. We’re all damaged in some way, there’s always going to be someone who will come into your life and see you as you are and love you for all of it. You won’t believe me now but in the future you’ll look back and wonder why you thought so badly of yourself, and you’ll give similar cheesy advice to another person who has given up hope. You’ll get there.

Has anybody here accepted that they're damaged goods and that it will hinder or sabotage them finding a potential partner?

I've been in several relationships before and my outlook on life was much better back then, but after each one it has been leaving me worse off and it's incredibly difficult to imagine I'm going to find someone that I can actually make happy and vice versa.

I've always been not good enough and the problem, a burden.

I can accept this and I've lost all hope of actually finding someone to settle down with, but how can I live with it?

I'd rather it not be like this but nobody is going to want someone with this outlook, but I can't think otherwise.

I believe this, until it all goes wrong. Which it has every time and I think after the last time, I honestly can't do any better.

I can't have any hope and this in itself makes it worse. How do I have a chance when I need someone to lift me up but nobody is going want to because of how I am?

Why dont you start by learning to like yourself? You can lift yourself up.
Negative attitudes arent attractive, so learn how to change it.