My Step Brother Likes Me Still

Hey. I have a previous thread called ‘My Step Brother Likes Me?’
I’ve been inactive for a while but this is an update. I’m posting twice because i just need someone to talk this over with.
Nothing changed. After telling my mother i realised she’s so in love with his dad that she took their side. I got called an attention seeker and a liar.
Things have gotten worse and he touches and grabs my thighs daily now. I don’t know what it is but i feel like i have to do everything he says, and i feel like i’m in a constant debt with him.
i’m not seeking help anymore i just want someone to talk to.
i’m sorry.

Don't be sorry this isn't your fault.
I'm sorry to hear about this. I was thinking of a couple of things you could do:
Tell a teacher or another adult you trust about this if your mom doesn't believe u - because if your stepbrother is forcing u to do things it isn't right. and u cant try and solve this by yourself.
Might be risky but try and catch him in the act by hiding a camera and record a video of something that usually happens to u (e.g. like u said how he touches your thigh) and show an adult.

Just please don't go along with it just try to tell someone and get help because people can't just take advantage of u like this

Hey. I have a previous thread called ‘My Step Brother Likes Me?’
I’ve been inactive for a while but this is an update. I’m posting twice because i just need someone to talk this over with.
Nothing changed. After telling my mother i realised she’s so in love with his dad that she took their side. I got called an attention seeker and a liar.
Things have gotten worse and he touches and grabs my thighs daily now. I don’t know what it is but i feel like i have to do everything he says, and i feel like i’m in a constant debt with him.
i’m not seeking help anymore i just want someone to talk to.
i’m sorry.

Jesus wtf this kid has been watching too much porn lol but yeah I would put a camera in ur room but obvs it will be hard to catch him on time. Try put it in a common place where he does it *wants to vomit in my own mouth* I mean ino u aren't blood related but its just wrong tbh

Put the camera somewhere he would never look e.g. up a shelf and cover it with stuff (except the camera part)
Im sorry u have to let him do stuff again- horrible - but try this and if it doesnt work out please just tell someone about this

I know it’s wrong. Please don’t think I am enjoying this in any way.

I will try this tomorrow evening. I’m sorry I just don’t know who to tell, I don’t wanna like, ruin my entire family

I will try this tomorrow evening. I’m sorry I just don’t know who to tell, I don’t wanna like, ruin my entire family

sometimes you have to. U can't not expose him just because you don't want to affect other people despite you being sexually harassed

I know the pressure to not ruin your family dynamic is going to feel like it’s resting on your shoulders and your actions, but it isn’t. Your step brother is sexually harassing you and if he’s sexually touching you without consent, that is sexual assault.

Tell him that if he continues, you will tell the police. Go to the police with video footage if he tests you. Absolutely none of this is your fault and you are perfectly within your rights to set boundaries for your own body and report a crime when it happens to you.

I feel extremely guilty to accuse him of sexual assault, i don’t want things to get blown out of proportion, that’s why i’m so conflicted as i love my family

I’m sorry. I can understand those feelings and have been there. It’s a very scary idea to accuse someone of assault and I don’t blame anybody for feeling that they simply can’t do it.

However, whether you call it assault or harassment or not, what he’s doing to you is extremely wrong. You’re not overreacting by being upset and you’re not blowing it out of proportion. His behaviour is not okay.

Have you considered applying for counselling? They can help you deal with the situation and can give you some viable options. In the mean time, continue to be strong about setting your boundaries and telling him to stop. Even explaining to him that what he’s doing is sexual harassment might be enough to scare him off.

A strategy that I have found effective is “if you don’t stop I will start screaming” and follow though on my promise in 3 seconds.

Make the whole experience as unpleasant as possible for him. He deserves to be reported to the police for touching you after you say no, but start by talking to a counsellor.

I will try this tomorrow evening. I’m sorry I just don’t know who to tell, I don’t wanna like, ruin my entire family

Thank you, for all of this. I don’t really know where to go for a counsellor, I don’t really have that much money to spare, I am a student so it’s kinda hard times. I feel like since it’s gotten worse and he realised everyone’s taken his side he’s more confident about it. I know it’s bad but in a sense I’ve given up trying to stop him because he just laughs at me and patronises me. I promise everything he asks me to because I don’t want to make him angry. I’m struggling to be strong enough not to do what he says - that i still have, I won’t let him entirely order me around. I just can’t accuse him of sexual assault, I can’t hurt him like that, and after all it is only my leg, it just feels like such an overreaction.

i don’t think it’s fair to call it sexual harassment that seems a little extreme ):