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No confidence with boys?

Why do I have no confidence with boys? I am at university and I just never get further than kissing anyone even though I am definitely ready, how do I get over this? Does anyone have any advice?

Reply 1

mav90

Let it happen naturally, it will

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Never mind, love is a waste of time, anyway.

Reply 3

username5347244

Original post by Anonymous

Why do I have no confidence with boys? I am at university and I just never get further than kissing anyone even though I am definitely ready, how do I get over this? Does anyone have any advice?

Do you have no confidence with anyone or just boys? Like someone else said, don't force it, just let it flow.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Original post by sunny.side.up

Do you have no confidence with anyone or just boys? Like someone else said, don't force it, just let it flow.

When I’m drunk yes haha, but still i don’t have full confidence

Reply 5

username5347244

Original post by Anonymous

When I’m drunk yes haha, but still i don’t have full confidence

Why not try when not drunk?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by sunny.side.up

Why not try when not drunk?

I’m not sure I can? I have anxiety haha

Reply 7

username5347244

Original post by Anonymous

I’m not sure I can? I have anxiety haha

Just go for it, my love! :h:

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by sunny.side.up

Just go for it, my love! :h:

How do I put myself out there at university without using tinder?😂

Reply 9

username5347244

Original post by Anonymous

How do I put myself out there at university without using tinder?😂

If you see a boy you are interested in, literally just walk up to him.

Reply 10

netflix84

i think its the hype around the 'first time' you know
just let it happen- and if it doesn't, make it happen (only if you want to ofc). trust me after going past just making out with someone once it'll feel much easier in the future.
just being a little tipsy helps too

Reply 11

username5443076

Original post by Anonymous

When I’m drunk yes haha, but still i don’t have full confidence

I wouldnt recommend trying to flirt with guys especially with guys at uni whilst drunk aha. But why not join societies and clubs etc, build your confidence there. Make music and let people know about you, this will automatically pull people towards you, go out more and join different friend groups. Dont go searching for the guy, they will come to you. If you still having trouble pm me x I know the kinda sitch you are in

Reply 12

zKlown

Advice is, don't think about it

No-one actually really cares about anything, and if you do something "wrong", it's not really a big deal.

Reply 13

ThatOldGuy

Original post by Anonymous

How do I put myself out there at university without using tinder?😂

Get on here and say, "Someone come take me out for chicken nuggets and bang me like a drum." and then when you get responses, you can say "Gah. Those guys were too thirsty. I have standards."

Then, you'll still be alone but now it's a choice. Bam. Confidence building done!