what are boys attracted to?
so im doin my a lvls and i was bullied mostly all of my life for being unattractive. what to do to attract boys in a positive way?
Original post by Anonymous
so im doin my a lvls and i was bullied mostly all of my life for being unattractive. what to do to attract boys in a positive way?
Many of them are attracted to any girl that has a pulse basically
Original post by A jaded girl
Many of them are attracted to any girl that has a pulse basically
Not sure how helpful that is.
Original post by Anonymous
so im doin my a lvls and i was bullied mostly all of my life for being unattractive. what to do to attract boys in a positive way?
If you want to attract any random Tom **** or Harry then the above is broadly true, though I doubt you'd be content with that experience when reflecting on it afterwards. If you want to attract a 'decent' guy, do your A levels, get reasonable grades, look after yourself, exercise, have some outdoor hobbies that keep you in shape.
I'm not by any stretch a fashion expert, but appearance also matters of course. If you want to attract thirsty "f*ckboys" then wear something skimpy. If you want to attract more 'reliable' guys, then wear something that looks good but isn't too revealing. "Revealing" clothes have their contexts, like if you're swimming obviously. Just get the context right, is the point I'm making. Don't wear revealing clothes in silly contexts, such as wearing miniskirts in winter.
That's the best I can offer. I'm not personally super fussy about appearances, provided she's healthy looking. Other guys might be different. Don't try to act or look like someone you're not though, that's unlikely to work long-term.
Original post by A jaded girl
Many of them are attracted to any girl that has a pulse basically
Jadedgirl has it about right, unfortunately.
Essentially 'boys' are attracted almost exclusively to breasts. And the bigger the better. It's not their fault. We are all still wired to behave like we did a few thousand years ago. At that time a voluptuous figure was an indicator of the woman being able to have and care for, lots of children. Because infant mortality was 50% or greater.
The same psychology affects women, but that's superfluous to this conversation.
Men and particularly experienced men realise that while looks do matter to an extent, it's intelligence, personality, values and other 'intangibles' that matter just as much, if not more.
I deliberately left in my account name. If you like, send me a photo, if that's possible here and describe your hobbies, interests and what A-levels you're doing and which uni you want to go to.
I was going to be a bit flippant, but reading that you were bullied changed that. I applaud your courage and honesty here. As well as your resilience in taking all the crap that you've taken and yet are still moving forward with your life. I will honour that by seeking to be as helpful as possible.
If what I'm asking is too much, I understand and will say this.
Part of what the last commenter said was true. Make the most of what you have. Always dress appropriate to the situation. Never compromise your standards to get a guy to go out with you. No guy who is really into you, will ever ask you to be anyone other than yourself. All these things are generalisations obviously.
I'd like to really help you. But, I will never ask to contact you outside of The Student Room.
Of one thing I'm certain. Life will only be much, much better at uni
Original post by Anonymous
so im doin my a lvls and i was bullied mostly all of my life for being unattractive. what to do to attract boys in a positive way?
Most people in schools don't have much going on between there eyes (me included when I went to school, and also now 😂) so I expect you're better looking than the kids at school made you think you are. You have been bullied because of your looks and it's no wonder you are worried about them for that reason. People will bully anybody for seemingly any reason. Even the most beautiful people in the world can be bullied for their appearance. You are not ugly.
Original post by nikiznb
Every girl who is self-confident is attractive to a guy
Yup
Looks fade and personality lasts
When they’re young and stupid, guys go for looks. As they mature, they want someone they like to spend time with.
Dudes don't really go for personality. They may dump a girl who is being a cow to them, they may even see that how a girl gets on with them is important. However, even still a girl who is attractive looking and who they feel chemistry with, natural eyeing up stuff will likely be the first port of call.
If you really are not attractive there are several things you can do:
1). Don't be overweight. That tends to make girls look even more unattractive. It will really reduce the number of guys interested in you significantly. Legs I think are best not thick but not like matchsticks either a good in between everyday average, normal width I think.
2). As said above wear classy, fashionable and slightly revealing clothes but not too revealing. As a guy I think Bavarian style crop tops look nice, sexy but also classy, also skater dresses, short tight skirts or loose very short mini skirts, plain thin tights. Whatever you do avoid jeans particularly the more bog standard stuff, stretch denim stuff isn't too bad but jeans in general shout boring all too serious & mundane personality on a girl. T-shirts again can be unless particularly tight fitting around the breast. - obviously a facially pretty looking girl will look good in anything so I wouldn't go by what they wear.
3). Makeup. A difficult one, overdo it and its not great, do it not enough or not well enough and it won't help. By overdo it I mean avoid fake tan stuff, fake eyelashes, all over face make up. The guy wants to see a real person there not a generic fake Barbie almost like catfish type of looking girl who is covered in fake stuff that you can't really tell who it is anymore. So do some subtle but noticeable eye makeup, do lipstick but avoid strong red lipstick as too ott. Someone who does makeup well in a skillful subtle way can really improve a girl's appearance but that is a hard find these days normally it's just too overdone.
4). Hair. Long straight hair is always a winner it's just so feminine. Short hair is a big no, no and will put of hordes of guys as it looks too masculine. Curly hair is ok but avoid the straggly kind of fuzzy unkept look that tends to not impress.
And there we have it. Do the above and it's really the best you can do. Us guys are pretty desperate in this country these days so it really is a girls market. So long as you look have decent even if you are not all that pretty facially you'll probably get interest from sone guy if you do the above. Good luck.
If you really are not attractive there are several things you can do:
1). Don't be overweight. That tends to make girls look even more unattractive. It will really reduce the number of guys interested in you significantly. Legs I think are best not thick but not like matchsticks either a good in between everyday average, normal width I think.
2). As said above wear classy, fashionable and slightly revealing clothes but not too revealing. As a guy I think Bavarian style crop tops look nice, sexy but also classy, also skater dresses, short tight skirts or loose very short mini skirts, plain thin tights. Whatever you do avoid jeans particularly the more bog standard stuff, stretch denim stuff isn't too bad but jeans in general shout boring all too serious & mundane personality on a girl. T-shirts again can be unless particularly tight fitting around the breast. - obviously a facially pretty looking girl will look good in anything so I wouldn't go by what they wear.
3). Makeup. A difficult one, overdo it and its not great, do it not enough or not well enough and it won't help. By overdo it I mean avoid fake tan stuff, fake eyelashes, all over face make up. The guy wants to see a real person there not a generic fake Barbie almost like catfish type of looking girl who is covered in fake stuff that you can't really tell who it is anymore. So do some subtle but noticeable eye makeup, do lipstick but avoid strong red lipstick as too ott. Someone who does makeup well in a skillful subtle way can really improve a girl's appearance but that is a hard find these days normally it's just too overdone.
4). Hair. Long straight hair is always a winner it's just so feminine. Short hair is a big no, no and will put of hordes of guys as it looks too masculine. Curly hair is ok but avoid the straggly kind of fuzzy unkept look that tends to not impress.
And there we have it. Do the above and it's really the best you can do. Us guys are pretty desperate in this country these days so it really is a girls market. So long as you look have decent even if you are not all that pretty facially you'll probably get interest from sone guy if you do the above. Good luck.
Forgot to add bra. Unless you've got a real big pair I would say go for a bra with a bit of an uplift. Not too much so as to look silly and totally unnatural but enough to match them stick out just a little. A bit of a bounce can be nice too. Couple that with a Bavarian crop top and it will make us dudes curiousity work overtime. We'll notice around that area and see a nice pair of bouncers bobbing away. A tight plain crop top is fine but because it's so tight fitting around the boobs I think it kind of shouts 'look at these boobs' and 'sex' so can be a bit too overt and not so classy.
Tell me what you think?
Tell me what you think?
Original post by Anonymous
Dudes don't really go for personality. They may dump a girl who is being a cow to them, they may even see that how a girl gets on with them is important. However, even still a girl who is attractive looking and who they feel chemistry with, natural eyeing up stuff will likely be the first port of call.
If you really are not attractive there are several things you can do:
1). Don't be overweight. That tends to make girls look even more unattractive. It will really reduce the number of guys interested in you significantly. Legs I think are best not thick but not like matchsticks either a good in between everyday average, normal width I think.
2). As said above wear classy, fashionable and slightly revealing clothes but not too revealing. As a guy I think Bavarian style crop tops look nice, sexy but also classy, also skater dresses, short tight skirts or loose very short mini skirts, plain thin tights. Whatever you do avoid jeans particularly the more bog standard stuff, stretch denim stuff isn't too bad but jeans in general shout boring all too serious & mundane personality on a girl. T-shirts again can be unless particularly tight fitting around the breast. - obviously a facially pretty looking girl will look good in anything so I wouldn't go by what they wear.
3). Makeup. A difficult one, overdo it and its not great, do it not enough or not well enough and it won't help. By overdo it I mean avoid fake tan stuff, fake eyelashes, all over face make up. The guy wants to see a real person there not a generic fake Barbie almost like catfish type of looking girl who is covered in fake stuff that you can't really tell who it is anymore. So do some subtle but noticeable eye makeup, do lipstick but avoid strong red lipstick as too ott. Someone who does makeup well in a skillful subtle way can really improve a girl's appearance but that is a hard find these days normally it's just too overdone.
4). Hair. Long straight hair is always a winner it's just so feminine. Short hair is a big no, no and will put of hordes of guys as it looks too masculine. Curly hair is ok but avoid the straggly kind of fuzzy unkept look that tends to not impress.
And there we have it. Do the above and it's really the best you can do. Us guys are pretty desperate in this country these days so it really is a girls market. So long as you look have decent even if you are not all that pretty facially you'll probably get interest from sone guy if you do the above. Good luck.
If you really are not attractive there are several things you can do:
1). Don't be overweight. That tends to make girls look even more unattractive. It will really reduce the number of guys interested in you significantly. Legs I think are best not thick but not like matchsticks either a good in between everyday average, normal width I think.
2). As said above wear classy, fashionable and slightly revealing clothes but not too revealing. As a guy I think Bavarian style crop tops look nice, sexy but also classy, also skater dresses, short tight skirts or loose very short mini skirts, plain thin tights. Whatever you do avoid jeans particularly the more bog standard stuff, stretch denim stuff isn't too bad but jeans in general shout boring all too serious & mundane personality on a girl. T-shirts again can be unless particularly tight fitting around the breast. - obviously a facially pretty looking girl will look good in anything so I wouldn't go by what they wear.
3). Makeup. A difficult one, overdo it and its not great, do it not enough or not well enough and it won't help. By overdo it I mean avoid fake tan stuff, fake eyelashes, all over face make up. The guy wants to see a real person there not a generic fake Barbie almost like catfish type of looking girl who is covered in fake stuff that you can't really tell who it is anymore. So do some subtle but noticeable eye makeup, do lipstick but avoid strong red lipstick as too ott. Someone who does makeup well in a skillful subtle way can really improve a girl's appearance but that is a hard find these days normally it's just too overdone.
4). Hair. Long straight hair is always a winner it's just so feminine. Short hair is a big no, no and will put of hordes of guys as it looks too masculine. Curly hair is ok but avoid the straggly kind of fuzzy unkept look that tends to not impress.
And there we have it. Do the above and it's really the best you can do. Us guys are pretty desperate in this country these days so it really is a girls market. So long as you look have decent even if you are not all that pretty facially you'll probably get interest from sone guy if you do the above. Good luck.
Please please please, whatever you do for gods sake ignore the above advice.
your weight, what you wear, what makeup you use, how you look and how you wear your hair are all choices you should make to be happy yourself NOT to please someone else.
whatever weight you are, whatever clothes you wear, whether you follow the latest fashion, prefer something from a different decade, like dressing up in Edwardian or Victorian clothes, have your hair, short, long or even go bald are all choices you make (including whether you have any makeup, loud makeup or subtle make up)
there is only one you in the world. You are absolutely unique and there is no one else in the world exactly like you.
while I say “boys are idiots” the fact is everyone likes different things and you should make sure that someone loves you for who you are, not try to pander to what they want to get together with someone who doesn’t love the real you.
seriously, work on recognising just how wonderful you are, finding your own style and being happy being you - you really are truly amazing.
once you realise that, others will see this in you too and you will find someone who is perfect for you
(edited 9 months ago)
Original post by Johnny Valentine
Please please please, whatever you do for gods sake ignore the above advice.
your weight, what you wear, what makeup you use, how you look and how you wear your hair are all choices you should make to be happy yourself NOT to please someone else.
whatever weight you are, whatever clothes you wear, whether you follow the latest fashion, prefer something from a different decade, like dressing up in Edwardian or Victorian clothes, have your hair, short, long or even go bald are all choices you make (including whether you have any makeup, loud makeup or subtle make up)
there is only one you in the world. You are absolutely unique and there is no one else in the world exactly like you.
while I say “boys are idiots” the fact is everyone likes different things and you should make sure that someone loves you for who you are, not try to pander to what they want to get together with someone who doesn’t love the real you.
seriously, work on recognising just how wonderful you are, finding your own style and being happy being you - you really are truly amazing.
once you realise that, others will see this in you too and you will find someone who is perfect for you
your weight, what you wear, what makeup you use, how you look and how you wear your hair are all choices you should make to be happy yourself NOT to please someone else.
whatever weight you are, whatever clothes you wear, whether you follow the latest fashion, prefer something from a different decade, like dressing up in Edwardian or Victorian clothes, have your hair, short, long or even go bald are all choices you make (including whether you have any makeup, loud makeup or subtle make up)
there is only one you in the world. You are absolutely unique and there is no one else in the world exactly like you.
while I say “boys are idiots” the fact is everyone likes different things and you should make sure that someone loves you for who you are, not try to pander to what they want to get together with someone who doesn’t love the real you.
seriously, work on recognising just how wonderful you are, finding your own style and being happy being you - you really are truly amazing.
once you realise that, others will see this in you too and you will find someone who is perfect for you
There is NO WAY you're a dude. This is DEFINITELY girl talk and girl thinking. OP needs to hear it from the horse's mouth, from a guy, I'm a guy. What the earth is the point in a girl telling a girl what boys want???
Just ask a boy!!!
It's that simple. A boy will definitely know what a boy want a girl only at best thinks she knows what a boy wants, she will likely be well off the mark.
If OP wants guys to be attracted to her even then find her acceptable she should try what I said and see what the results are for herself. Then report back here and we'll see who's right and who's wrong
Original post by Anonymous
Dudes don't really go for personality. They may dump a girl who is being a cow to them, they may even see that how a girl gets on with them is important. However, even still a girl who is attractive looking and who they feel chemistry with, natural eyeing up stuff will likely be the first port of call.
If you really are not attractive there are several things you can do:
1). Don't be overweight. That tends to make girls look even more unattractive. It will really reduce the number of guys interested in you significantly. Legs I think are best not thick but not like matchsticks either a good in between everyday average, normal width I think.
2). As said above wear classy, fashionable and slightly revealing clothes but not too revealing. As a guy I think Bavarian style crop tops look nice, sexy but also classy, also skater dresses, short tight skirts or loose very short mini skirts, plain thin tights. Whatever you do avoid jeans particularly the more bog standard stuff, stretch denim stuff isn't too bad but jeans in general shout boring all too serious & mundane personality on a girl. T-shirts again can be unless particularly tight fitting around the breast. - obviously a facially pretty looking girl will look good in anything so I wouldn't go by what they wear.
3). Makeup. A difficult one, overdo it and its not great, do it not enough or not well enough and it won't help. By overdo it I mean avoid fake tan stuff, fake eyelashes, all over face make up. The guy wants to see a real person there not a generic fake Barbie almost like catfish type of looking girl who is covered in fake stuff that you can't really tell who it is anymore. So do some subtle but noticeable eye makeup, do lipstick but avoid strong red lipstick as too ott. Someone who does makeup well in a skillful subtle way can really improve a girl's appearance but that is a hard find these days normally it's just too overdone.
4). Hair. Long straight hair is always a winner it's just so feminine. Short hair is a big no, no and will put of hordes of guys as it looks too masculine. Curly hair is ok but avoid the straggly kind of fuzzy unkept look that tends to not impress.
And there we have it. Do the above and it's really the best you can do. Us guys are pretty desperate in this country these days so it really is a girls market. So long as you look have decent even if you are not all that pretty facially you'll probably get interest from sone guy if you do the above. Good luck.
If you really are not attractive there are several things you can do:
1). Don't be overweight. That tends to make girls look even more unattractive. It will really reduce the number of guys interested in you significantly. Legs I think are best not thick but not like matchsticks either a good in between everyday average, normal width I think.
2). As said above wear classy, fashionable and slightly revealing clothes but not too revealing. As a guy I think Bavarian style crop tops look nice, sexy but also classy, also skater dresses, short tight skirts or loose very short mini skirts, plain thin tights. Whatever you do avoid jeans particularly the more bog standard stuff, stretch denim stuff isn't too bad but jeans in general shout boring all too serious & mundane personality on a girl. T-shirts again can be unless particularly tight fitting around the breast. - obviously a facially pretty looking girl will look good in anything so I wouldn't go by what they wear.
3). Makeup. A difficult one, overdo it and its not great, do it not enough or not well enough and it won't help. By overdo it I mean avoid fake tan stuff, fake eyelashes, all over face make up. The guy wants to see a real person there not a generic fake Barbie almost like catfish type of looking girl who is covered in fake stuff that you can't really tell who it is anymore. So do some subtle but noticeable eye makeup, do lipstick but avoid strong red lipstick as too ott. Someone who does makeup well in a skillful subtle way can really improve a girl's appearance but that is a hard find these days normally it's just too overdone.
4). Hair. Long straight hair is always a winner it's just so feminine. Short hair is a big no, no and will put of hordes of guys as it looks too masculine. Curly hair is ok but avoid the straggly kind of fuzzy unkept look that tends to not impress.
And there we have it. Do the above and it's really the best you can do. Us guys are pretty desperate in this country these days so it really is a girls market. So long as you look have decent even if you are not all that pretty facially you'll probably get interest from sone guy if you do the above. Good luck.
OP, you do not need to follow this advice and should not feel forced too. Some of it is fine, some of it is a bit too sexualised (seriously, the last time I saw a woman wearing a Bavarian crop top was on a website that ends in 'Hub'). However, even if it wasn't it's still only one guy's preference. I could list my own preferences but they're not relevant (and I don't care about them much anyway). Preferences are fine, we all have them, but try to be yourself rather than try to appeal to people solely for the purpose of being appealing. Wear what you want, make yourself look how you want - if you make changes, make those changes because you like them and want to do it. If you are happy with who you are and how you look, you will find men who like you for who you are.
If you wanna catch the attention of the fellas in a good way, just be yourself, have some confidence, and show off your killer personality. Rock that genuine smile, be chill, and enjoy your own interests - that's the real magnet to attract the right kind of guys to ya!
Original post by Doomotron
OP, you do not need to follow this advice and should not feel forced too. Some of it is fine, some of it is a bit too sexualised (seriously, the last time I saw a woman wearing a Bavarian crop top was on a website that ends in 'Hub'). However, even if it wasn't it's still only one guy's preference. I could list my own preferences but they're not relevant (and I don't care about them much anyway). Preferences are fine, we all have them, but try to be yourself rather than try to appeal to people solely for the purpose of being appealing. Wear what you want, make yourself look how you want - if you make changes, make those changes because you like them and want to do it. If you are happy with who you are and how you look, you will find men who like you for who you are.
It will be many guys preference, most guys have similar stuff that attracts them as I have mentioned. In short, the more feminine a girl looks the more attractive she is to most men. Stands to reason as femininity attracts men just as masculinity attracts women. It's the opposite sex heterosexuals are attracted to do any women that aren't that feminine looking aren't going to be pushing the right buttons that attract the men.
If a girl can attract a guy with feminine looks then it gets her foot in the door and gets her a long way up the road. No need to jump around in front of a guy trying to show off personalities whatever else. A guy is not interested in seeing that, even similar hobbies doesn't mean he is finding the girl attractive in a feminine way.
End of the day yes a one eye, one legged, bald female pirate may or may not find a guy at some point. OP here isn't I assume wanting to wait many years to find a guy if one ever came. Late teen to early twenties or do are when most guys & particularly girls are looking their best. So if she's around the height of her dating years and pulling a blank then in a society where have the upper hand in dating she really does need to do something. What I have suggested is easy stuff to do, no painful expensive cosmetic surgery, no having to become a top socialiser, comedian, etc. Just a few changes to the way she looks and she could garner interest from guys within a week or so. So why not give it a go OP? If it works or if it doesn't report back here and let us know, see who is right on this one
Personally I prefer Asian girls and those of East Asian origin for a variety of reasons namely I find them much prettier. Also a thing I’m aware Asian girls tend not to have body odour something in the genetics and definitely found that with the girl I’m going out. She knows how to cook decent Asian food too so it’s a win win situation. Can’t imagine dating any other race.
Original post by Anonymous
Personally I prefer Asian girls and those of East Asian origin for a variety of reasons namely I find them much prettier. Also a thing I’m aware Asian girls tend not to have body odour something in the genetics and definitely found that with the girl I’m going out. She knows how to cook decent Asian food too so it’s a win win situation. Can’t imagine dating any other race.
Women love a hierarchy to work their way up. Like or not most Asian & Eastern Asian girls see it as white westerners at the top of that heirarchy. So for most white western dudes they are usually an easy pull. That said there are pretty and less pretty girls in every culture. Chinese girls though often have delicate features that are very feminine. Downside is that they are often short depending on whether that bothers of course.
Original post by Anonymous
so im doin my a lvls and i was bullied mostly all of my life for being unattractive. what to do to attract boys in a positive way?
I doubt you are unattractive and simply lack confidence. Look after yourself and smile often.
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