Personality vs Looks

People can be bad looking but make up for it in personality, but imo it doesn't work the other way around. Idc what someone looks like if they're not a fundamentally good person because they're not worth wasting my time on.

Reply 2

anosmianAcrimony

Original post by OctoberRain7

People can be bad looking but make up for it in personality, but imo it doesn't work the other way around. Idc what someone looks like if they're not a fundamentally good person because they're not worth wasting my time on.

^^ This

Reply 3

anosmianAcrimony

I’ve met people with physical features that were average or even ugly, but because they were just really kind and animated and funny, the force of their personality shone through and made them actually really attractive.

Conversely I’ve met people where I thought at first glance, ’’wow, they’re really beautiful’’, and then they opened their mouth and made clear they were really awful and I’ve been like ’’oh, eww.’’

I’d absolutely consider dating the first kind of person but wouldn’t ever date the second.

(edited 2 years ago)

Reply 4

Gavin2016

End of the day those with good looks likely get dates the easiest. People who have extrovert personality probably do so also so long as they don't look ugly looking. I'm not saying that an ugly looking person has no chance of getting a date but looking at those around you when at secondary school, uni, etc those that are good looking are normally dating often.

I think women get away with not being as good looking more than men even though most men primarily place looks high in importance. Dating apps & websites tend to favour looks most as the person often has little chance to put themselves across without being based on their looks in their profile photos up front. That said I think it differs a little in what people find attractive in terms of looks but an ugly looking person will struggle more than others.

To my mind being overweight tends to lower how attractive a person looks in terms of the other sex viewing them. I don't think personality can offset being overweight issues and it negatively affecting looks. If overweight the best thing to do is to tackle the problem if being overweight by eating pretty much only healthy food in my opinion.

I mean put it this way if a girl is overweight and not getting any dates/real male interest and thinking her personality can hook them but is still getting none them there is your answer.

A real nasty personality can negate a person with good looks but I don't think most good looking people are that bad. Odds are because they get treated better by others they often find it easier to do well interacting with others. Though most good looking people are likely looking for something in exchange for their good looks if dating them I think, only logical I guess.

(edited 2 years ago)

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username5655466

17

Well i am definitely more of a personality person, they just start to look beautiful to me if they are nice people.

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Bang Outta Order

Looks is most important. Personality backs it up. Like, I can befriend someone unattractive who happens to have a great personality. But date and make kids? idk. There always needs to be physical redeemable qualities. Like you smell bad but your body is insane

or have acne, eczema, idk but your face and hair drives me mad

But you still need a good personality or interesting lifestyle and hobbies.

Reply 7

CÄ±llÄ±an

Both are important to me. Personality more important. Gotta have at least 10/10 personality and 7.5/10 looks

Reply 8

ThatOldGuy

19

Beauty is only skin-deep, but ugly goes straight to the bone.

Reply 9

ANM775

Original post by OctoberRain7

People can be bad looking but make up for it in personality, but imo it doesn't work the other way around. Idc what someone looks like if they're not a fundamentally good person because they're not worth wasting my time on.

Original post by anosmianAcrimony

^^ This

funny how people say that when asked, but then in actual reality this happens..

http://i.imgur.com/HCUrPUa.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/GcGihfg.jpg

Reply 10

anosmianAcrimony

Original post by ANM775

funny how people say that when asked, but then in actual reality this happens..

http://i.imgur.com/HCUrPUa.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/GcGihfg.jpg

Hey I wasn’t suggesting there aren’t shallow, foolish people out there. We’re just not them :h:

Reply 11

OctoberRain7

Original post by ANM775

funny how people say that when asked, but then in actual reality this happens..

http://i.imgur.com/HCUrPUa.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/GcGihfg.jpg

It's funny, because those are two different kinds of people. Personally I never engage romantically with people who I think wouldn't treat me right, knowing someone is a bad person means I can hardly even find their face attractive anyway. I also love the incel terminology in the posts!

Reply 12

ANM775

Original post by anosmianAcrimony

Hey I wasn’t suggesting there aren’t shallow, foolish people out there. We’re just not them :h:

Original post by OctoberRain7

It's funny, because those are two different kinds of people. Personally I never engage romantically with people who I think wouldn't treat me right, knowing someone is a bad person means I can hardly even find their face attractive anyway. I also love the incel terminology in the posts!

Well... I don't know any of you both on a personal level so can't really comment on you individually, but the women who msg people like that on dating sites would never admit how little personality means to them in a forum because you never see it on forums, but on dating sites stuff what is displayed in the links is common.

I also did a mini experiment using my own profile (I'm not quite as good looking as a model, but seem to be somewhat popular with black girls online) and i deliberately sent them first contact messages that were kinda rude, and many STILL replied.

I told one muslim girl that she actually shouldn't be on the site because of her faith and told her to get off ...and she literally just giggled and tried to start a convo

Reply 13

Kovalensky

14

Original post by ANM775

funny how people say that when asked, but then in actual reality this happens..

http://i.imgur.com/HCUrPUa.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/GcGihfg.jpg

Another thing we should note is that this is who you'd have sex with, not who you'd have a relationship with. To me however even then it's extreme cos I wouldn't want to have sex with a sex offender.

But in general, if she's attractive, I can have sex with her even if she's not a good human being (within limits tho, these examples are extreme) or her personality is bland/etc. Having sex with someone can mean nothing. A relationship however is very different.

Reply 14

OctoberRain7

Original post by ANM775

Well... I don't know any of you both on a personal level so can't really comment on you individually, but the women who msg people like that on dating sites would never admit how little personality means to them in a forum because you never see it on forums, but on dating sites stuff what is displayed in the links is common.

I also did a mini experiment using my own profile (I'm not quite as good looking as a model, but seem to be somewhat popular with black girls online) and i deliberately sent them first contact messages that were kinda rude, and many STILL replied.

I told one muslim girl that she actually shouldn't be on the site because of her faith and told her to get off ...and she literally just giggled and tried to start a convo

Dating sites are just bad in general, they encourage people to only care about looks (as you can't really convey personality in a dating profile, most of what you get are visuals) and tend to attract a bad crowd. I'm not sure how reliable your "experiment" can be said to be seeing as most people are going to reply to messages on a dating app just for attention and honestly "kinda rude" is pretty standard for straight men on dating apps anyway so most women are just desensitised at this point. At most (ignoring that this is anecdotal), you found that people can indeed be superficial, which goes both ways might I add.

Reply 15

ANM775

Original post by OctoberRain7

Dating sites are just bad in general, they encourage people to only care about looks (as you can't really convey personality in a dating profile, most of what you get are visuals) and tend to attract a bad crowd. I'm not sure how reliable your "experiment" can be said to be seeing as most people are going to reply to messages on a dating app just for attention and honestly "kinda rude" is pretty standard for straight men on dating apps anyway so most women are just desensitised at this point. At most (ignoring that this is anecdotal), you found that people can indeed be superficial, which goes both ways might I add.

I don't date men so I don't know about men, but when it comes to women.. if they actually reply, they're not replying for attention ..it's because they're interested.
In london maybe 2 or 3% of white girls I msg will reply. with black girls it's around 40-50%. Doesn't take much to figure out why this is the case (given that i'm a black guy)

If the women does not find you attractive then she is not replying to anything you say. she'll ignore you, or block you. period.

and I personally have knocked up a few fake women profiles out of curiosity just to see the type of stuff women get sent at them and men aren't rude. I was actually surprised to be honest as i've heard women complain at times but i wasn't receiving any rude messages.

and yes, probably men are "superfecicial" too to some extent. but as i don't date men i can only comment about experiences with women....

this is how women rate my looks on dating sites:
https://i.postimg.cc/254Y7jCk/ratings2020.png

They either tend to find me quite attractive, or wouldn't go near me with a barge pole.
I have found personality does not make any difference online or in real life. If she "likes" me then it's typically right from the start regardless of personality. If she doesn't like me then also "personality" will tend to have no effect and even if you get on really well and she laughs at my all my jokes she'll not want to date.

(edited 2 years ago)

Reply 16

Lucifer323

Original post by Justaboutalive

Well i am definitely more of a personality person, they just start to look beautiful to me if they are nice people.

Even if they look like short ugly hobbits??

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username5655466

17

Original post by Lucifer323

Even if they look like short ugly hobbits??

Find me a short ugly hobbit first lol.

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Lucifer323

Original post by Justaboutalive

Find me a short ugly hobbit first lol.

I am sure you can find one when you look around. There are short ugly hobbits everywhere in this world. And sometimes they are agressive too!

Reply 19

JoshDarnIt_