How to get a bf?

Original post by Anonymous

Will being more outgoing make it easier?

Won't make it worse. Might want to try being a bit more humble too.

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niamhsrevision

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lol you don't really just 'get' a bf... If you are actively out there looking for someone chances are you could easily get with them, but you'll probably prefer the idea of them far more than who they really are. I'd say take a step back, don't worry too much about actively searching, focus on yourself and your own thing, and then eventually someone who you really like will come along and you can go from there. Not everything is about being in a relationship. Friends are important, go out with them and have a good time rather than just going out in the hope of magically getting a bf.

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username5173262

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Original post by Anonymous

Will being more outgoing make it easier?

Realistically being outgoing will probably make it easier yes, especially if you use that to talk to more guys / get out more. I'd just watch out and try to differentiate those who are interested in you and those who are interested in sex, because obviously the prettier you are the more likely that's going to happen - so be careful with that. :yy:

But yeah, good luck man.

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OP

Original post by Reue

Won't make it worse. Might want to try being a bit more humble too.

No no I am humble lol I definitely don’t think I’m the most beautiful girl I have other valuable qualities too and so do others I didn’t want to come across that way I just am a bit timid in terms of the dating world lol

Reply 5

OP

Disclaimer: I didn’t want to come of as shallow 😭 I think I’m actually more brainy than beautiful it’s just that I’ve heard it from others often

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Original post by Anonymous

No no I am humble

You're not, or at least don't come across as it. There was no need to include any reference to being beautiful in your initial question.

The whole post could have just been: I’m just kind of introverted and study focused so I spend a lot of time at home. Will being more outgoing make it easier?

And so, to answer your actual question without the self-brag: Going out more won't make the situation worse so try that.

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OP

Original post by niamhsrevision

lol you don't really just 'get' a bf... If you are actively out there looking for someone chances are you could easily get with them, but you'll probably prefer the idea of them far more than who they really are. I'd say take a step back, don't worry too much about actively searching, focus on yourself and your own thing, and then eventually someone who you really like will come along and you can go from there. Not everything is about being in a relationship. Friends are important, go out with them and have a good time rather than just going out in the hope of magically getting a bf.

Ah that’s true, thanks!
This actually happened recently with a crush I had I liked the ‘idea’ yet they were kind of Karen-y and ultra critical towards others- wouldn’t have been a good step now looking back at it 😬 thanks again!

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OP

Original post by Reue

You're not, or at least don't come across as it. There was no need to include any reference to being beautiful in your initial question.

The whole post could have just been: I’m just kind of introverted and study focused so I spend a lot of time at home. Will being more outgoing make it easier?

And so, to answer your actual question without the self-brag: Going out more won't make the situation worse so try that.

It’s because on previous forums I’ve seen people usually criticise op as ‘unattractive’ etc and a lot of unhelpful comments when I’d just like advice

Reply 9

OP

Original post by V℮rsions

Realistically being outgoing will probably make it easier yes, especially if you use that to talk to more guys / get out more. I'd just watch out and try to differentiate those who are interested in you and those who are interested in sex, because obviously the prettier you are the more likely that's going to happen - so be careful with that. :yy:

But yeah, good luck man.

Ah that’s true, thank you so much for seeing this positively rather than as self-gloat lol
I’ll be careful 😉 thanks again!!! Usually my contact with guys would be at college and well that’s it lol but I’m going to get myself out there rather than just daydreaming and watching tv shows lool

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Original post by Anonymous

It’s because on previous forums I’ve seen people usually criticise op as ‘unattractive’ etc and a lot of unhelpful comments when I’d just like advice

The usual advice tends to be for introverts to not sit and wait for someone else to come and make the first move. Put yourself out there a bit, speak to more people, find friends with mutual hobbies.

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

I don’t want to be shallow but I’m considered beautiful by a lot of people- I’m just kind of introverted and study focused so I spend a lot of time at home.

Will being more outgoing make it easier?

Maybe give your social username to people to allow them to socialise with you. You can even reply to this with your social media username for instance your instagram...

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Original post by Anonymous

Maybe give your social username to people to allow them to socialise with you. You can even reply to this with your social media username for instance your instagram...

Calm down Romeo

Reply 13

OP

Dating apps seems kind of sketchy and scandalous though :/

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Reue

Calm down Romeo

you got me there :colondollar:

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OP

Original post by Anonymous

Maybe give your social username to people to allow them to socialise with you. You can even reply to this with your social media username for instance your instagram...

Loool I don’t post or am active on socials bc of evil eye (I’m Muslim)
That was funny though

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Reue

Won't make it worse. Might want to try being a bit more humble too.

whats your obsession with humbling her? she framed the question as not to brag. "not to seem shallow", "considered attractive". also, being attractive is also very much relevant here - the question is about dating, in fact a lot of people go purely for looks.

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username5785455

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What kind of guys would you like to be in a relationship with?

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