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Dating mixed signals

Hi

I went on a date with a girl on Friday night, who I met on Tinder. It was a nice date. I travelled to her so she insisted on paying for most of my drinks and food. Which was unusual for me but in a nice way.
After I texted her to say thank you for a lovely evening. She said "there'll definitely be a second date :wink:

". The conversation progressed and she said that she's going on another date with someone else the next day. I found it strange that she'd just openly say that but didn't sat anything. I suppose it's understandable to keep your options open, so to speak, in the early days.

Earlier today I asked if she's free next Sunday:

"Hey are you free next Sunday?"
"I might be busy, why?"
"That's OK if you're busy"
"Why what did you have in mind? I want to know"
"I was going to go to a gig in the evening, but I wanted to see you first. Then maybe we could go together"
"Yeah sorry I'm busy"

I don't think she's that interested personally. She would have offered an alternative if she was. Maybe her date on Saturday went better. Is it time to cut my losses?

Reply 1

londonmyst

Trust your gut instinct and listen to what your common sense is telling you. :smile:

If you feel that it is time for you to end contact with her and move on- that's fine.
If you are willing to offer her a second date, where you pay for the drinks & food- that's also fine.
In the event that you invite her for a second date be very clear that it is a second date and if she isn't available or doesn't seem keen- you'll know that it is time to move on.
Good luck!

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by londonmyst

If you feel that it is time for you to end contact with her and move on- that's fine.

Now that I think of it, I think it might be best to fizzle out naturally. I do think she's fun and we have things in common. I would like her to still be part of my life even just as friends. You can't force attraction or feelings, but like I think we would work well as friends and having those common interests