Admissions agencies generally know nothing except how to fleece students and their parents out of money so that's nothing new.
As far as the advice you've gotten from medical schools, I would say take it and look at their websites - they usually state this pretty clearly (and I think most medical schools do have this requirement -
@GANFYD might know of any exceptions?). The age requirement is not necessarily or only for your benefit, but for the patients that you would be spending time with in a clinical setting - telling them it's ok because your parents signed a waiver I think would probably make them even less happy about the situation. You can apply specifically for deferred entry, which I would recommend if you plan to apply to unis with that age requirement because it might even be a requirement of an offer they make and so if you fail to meet that requirement of the offer, you could just lose your offer without even being given the option of deferring.
You seem to be expecting a lot from medical schools, admissions teams, and patients to accommodate you, which is I think more than a little unrealistic, and I think you really need to start managing your expectations here a lot more. You are a very tiny
potential cog in a very large healthcare machine. It would be far easier for medical schools to find any of the many other applicants who do meet their age requirements than to try and accommodate someone that doesn't, ditto NHS trusts offering the placements to medical schools suddenly being thrust into legal grey areas if not outright danger to try and fit you in.
So I think you really need to expect medical schools to be completely inflexible and offer zero help in that regard and consider it a bonus if any do indicate otherwise, than to be assuming it's possible and frustrated as you're finding out its not. You might also want to start planning what you would do during a deferred year if you go that route. Sorry to be blunt but, as above I think you are thinking of this purely from your own perspective and not all from the perspectives of all the individuals and organisations that are putting the entire medical training programme together on which you would be but one of many.