Facebook Relationship Status

It's only facebook, just say you haven't logged in for a while (make sure this holds) or you didn't see the request. We all know how ****ed up facebook is. Just make up excuses to hold it off.

I would like to remain anonymous please, as I don't want to upset anyone if they see it's me. Bare with me if you can as this is a little long!

I've been seeing this girl for a couple of months since I started uni. I wanted to take things slow with her as I've only just split up with my girlfriend of four years in the summer. I like this girl and I've been meeting up with her frequently, but I could sense she was getting frustrated because I wasn't showing any signs of asking her out. Well the other night I felt like it was the right time, so I asked her out and she said yes, so far so good.

The problem came the very next day when she wanted to update her Facebook status to 'in a relationship with...'. I'm now currently staring at the request wondering what to do.

There's a few reasons why I don't want to do this yet and they are:

1. I haven't even told the people closest to me that I'm going out with her yet and I would prefer to do this naturally and progressively as opposed to a massive shock announcement over Facebook. I feel like I owe my friends and family the privilege of knowing in person first.

2. I would like to keep things private and reserved for the moment, as It's going to take time for me to get used to being in a relationship again.

3. My ex and I split up on really good terms, but we haven't spoke since. I respect and care for her still and I know that she has found the break up really hard to deal with. I remember her saying something along the lines of 'If I ever saw you with another girl I think I would burst into tears'. I feel like I can prevent this from happening by not having a relationship status at all.

I suppose what I'm really asking here is, am I being unreasonable? If your boyfriend/girlfriend had these feelings would that concern or upset you?

I would like to remain anonymous please, as I don't want to upset anyone if they see it's me. Bare with me if you can as this is a little long!

I've been seeing this girl for a couple of months since I started uni. I wanted to take things slow with her as I've only just split up with my girlfriend of four years in the summer. I like this girl and I've been meeting up with her frequently, but I could sense she was getting frustrated because I wasn't showing any signs of asking her out. Well the other night I felt like it was the right time, so I asked her out and she said yes, so far so good.

The problem came the very next day when she wanted to update her Facebook status to 'in a relationship with...'. I'm now currently staring at the request wondering what to do.

There's a few reasons why I don't want to do this yet and they are:

1. I haven't even told the people closest to me that I'm going out with her yet and I would prefer to do this naturally and progressively as opposed to a massive shock announcement over Facebook. I feel like I owe my friends and family the privilege of knowing in person first.

2. I would like to keep things private and reserved for the moment, as It's going to take time for me to get used to being in a relationship again.

3. My ex and I split up on really good terms, but we haven't spoke since. I respect and care for her still and I know that she has found the break up really hard to deal with. I remember her saying something along the lines of 'If I ever saw you with another girl I think I would burst into tears'. I feel like I can prevent this from happening by not having a relationship status at all.

I suppose what I'm really asking here is, am I being unreasonable? If your boyfriend/girlfriend had these feelings would that concern or upset you?

Relationship statuses on facebook...so silly! My boyfriend is "widowed" and I think mine is hidden. We never put "....is in a Relationship with ....."

Agreed! Mine has been hidden since I got facebook, I will never change it because of all the drama that comes with it. I don't wanna broadcast my relationship to everyone either. The people who 'count' i.e. know me in real life, knows all about my love life anyway, that's the way I see it.

And LOL, 'widowed'.

you sound like a nice guy - at least you are senstitive.

the new gf seems a bit needy to have done that straight away, buy hey perhaps she just really likes you.. BUT on the other hand, if you wanted to ease in, not upset the ex etc etc, perhaps you shouldn't have asked her so soon and just let it run in a bit further. seeing as you've asked her, you kinda got to accept the request now i think personally...depends if you see it going anywhere... does it really matter if you don't tell people in person? just call them beforehand...

Change it - then go onto your profile and delete the post - that way it won't turn up on everybody's walls provoking the :O response.

I would like to remain anonymous please, as I don't want to upset anyone if they see it's me. Bare with me if you can as this is a little long!

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I suppose what I'm really asking here is, am I being unreasonable? If your boyfriend/girlfriend had these feelings would that concern or upset you?

IS this true? Ive always assumed it is, but hard to know for sure.