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    (Original post by cuddle_me_in)
    How long is that, if you don't mind me asking?



    I hope so. I'm having one of my better days today. I think think thread has helped actually. I just need to remind myself that there's light at the end of the tunnel. One of these days I'll make it out. It's just that I've never missed anyone this much in my life. I didn't even think it was possible to feel like this about one person. Well, at least now I know what the deal with all those love songs is ha.
    Many months,we were together for 6 years and we were very close. So yeah,it took quite some time
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    (Original post by cuddle_me_in)
    How long is 'not long'?
    n = y

    Where n = number of weeks it took to stop feeling moochy, and y = number of years we were involved for
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    n = y

    Where n = number of weeks it took to stop feeling moochy, and y = number of years we were involved for
    Weeks?! Whoah that was quick! Are you generally like this? In terms of bonds you make with people
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    Several years.
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    Feels like never right now.
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    (Original post by Mona-S)
    Honestly I remember feeling like that!! But I regret it so much! I can't believe I spent so much time crying over him when he didn't even care.
    Think about it, you've been feeling like this for over 6 months and he is probably out having fun, not even caring about your feelings.
    Seriously, he is not worth it!!
    When I think about the times I did what you are doing, I feel really stupid because I let a human make me feel likes this.
    In my head I know all of that is true but I still can't stop feeling the way I'm feeling.
    I hate crying over him. I know he doesn't value me the way I value him.
    I hate how much time I've wasted thinking about him.

    He is out enjoying himself. I know he has reason to celebrate today so he'll be out right now probably getting high and completely ****-faced and then find some girl to bang. I shouldn't even be thinking about it.

    I don't know why I put him on a pedestal but I do. I don't know if I'll ever meet anyone else who made me feel the way he did.

    You are right though. It is ridiculous that I'm letting a human make me feel this way.
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    n = y

    Where n = number of weeks it took to stop feeling moochy, and y = number of years we were involved for
    Wow, you weren't lying when you said not long.
    So how did you manage to detach yourself from her so quickly?
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    (Original post by cuddle_me_in)
    In my head I know all of that is true but I still can't stop feeling the way I'm feeling.
    I hate crying over him. I know he doesn't value me the way I value him.
    I hate how much time I've wasted thinking about him.

    He is out enjoying himself. I know he has reason to celebrate today so he'll be out right now probably getting high and completely ****-faced and then find some girl to bang. I shouldn't even be thinking about it.

    I don't know why I put him on a pedestal but I do. I don't know if I'll ever meet anyone else who made me feel the way he did.

    You are right though. It is ridiculous that I'm letting a human make me feel this way.
    I know and that's why you need to stop feeling like this over him.
    One thing I would recommend you doing is writing a diary and writing all your feeling down.

    And trust me you will find someone else. I use to think that but trust there are so many guys that are better than him.

    I can't tell you that this will definitely stop because as you know, it took me a long time. But I noticed that I would stop thinking about him when I was out having fun with friends, and over time I just forgot he existed.
    Think about it after a year or maybe 5 years, you will look back and think I can't believe I did those things for him. His just not worth your time.
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    (Original post by Mona-S)
    I know and that's why you need to stop feeling like this over him.
    One thing I would recommend you doing is writing a diary and writing all your feeling down.

    And trust me you will find someone else. I use to think that but trust there are so many guys that are better than him.

    I can't tell you that this will definitely stop because as you know, it took me a long time. But I noticed that I would stop thinking about him when I was out having fun with friends, and over time I just forgot he existed.
    Think about it after a year or maybe 5 years, you will look back and think I can't believe I did those things for him. His just not worth your time.
    Funnily enough, I do keep a diary. I picked it back up, after years of not writing in it, just so I could write down how I was feeling.

    Sometimes I want nothing more than to see him again but now I think, realistically, this absence is probably what I need to get over him. When I think about it, I’ve been feeling depressed a lot longer than ½ a year. I was depressed even when I spent time with him because I always knew he never wanted me, even if we were closer to each other than anyone else. I just didn’t have it in me to pull myself away.

    Ha, part of the reason I keep a diary is because I want to remember what I felt during a certain period. Otherwise, I forget the experiences that I had and the way things made me feel. I want to forget him but I don’t want to forget that this experience happened. I can't imagine how I'll feel when I read back on it.

    Thank you
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    (Original post by cuddle_me_in)
    Funnily enough, I do keep a diary. I picked it back up, after years of not writing in it, just so I could write down how I was feeling.

    Sometimes I want nothing more than to see him again but now I think, realistically, this absence is probably what I need to get over him. When I think about it, I’ve been feeling depressed a lot longer than ½ a year. I was depressed even when I spent time with him because I always knew he never wanted me, even if we were closer to each other than anyone else. I just didn’t have it in me to pull myself away.

    Ha, part of the reason I keep a diary is because I want to remember what I felt during a certain period. Otherwise, I forget the experiences that I had and the way things made me feel. I want to forget him but I don’t want to forget that this experience happened. I can't imagine how I'll feel when I read back on it.

    Thank you
    I do not think you should see him again. It'll just bring all your feelings back. I think this is why it took me a long time to get over him, because every time I tried to, I would see him again after a couple of months and all my feelings would come back.

    HAHA me too!! I wanted to keep a diary to remember how it made me feel so I don't fall in love again! I don't want to go through the same thing again. But writing was the best thing, because I wrote down everything I wanted to say to him, which really did help.

    No problem.
    Hopefully you'll get over him some time soon.
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    Five years.
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    2 Weeks.
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    Still not over her tbf, there's always a vague longing for her, and a small sense of feelin incomplete, not gonna lie lool So I've moved on and rebounded with tragic outcomes since we broke up 2014. She has a kid not mine. If she saw this she'd prob laugh with vindication like she got the last punch. Oh wellz.
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    (Original post by Profesh)
    Five years.
    ...that's prison man. Set yourself free.
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    1st love 3 years
    2nd love 5 months and ongoing

    there were points were i thought i got over him but as soon as i saw him or heard about him it would all come back
    also when you see all these fboys you cant help but think how good he was compared to all theses boys that just lead you on for attention then block you away from their lives, but i promise it ALWAYS gets better
    i remember at the start i thought i would never be the same chirpy girl again but now i'm back to as i was before,
    humans are designed to be adaptable, and so you just move on as life goes on
    people come and go, I've learned to accept that so never hold on to tight......
    sorry I'm going through this phase now
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    Weeks?! Whoah that was quick! Are you generally like this? In terms of bonds you make with people
    Yup, generally somewhat spectrum, rarely able to form lasting/deep connections (mostly due to health/circumstance), not at all soppy, very choosy, highly secure in myself/self-reliant, and rarely short of options/pessimistic about future potential :bandit:

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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Yup, generally somewhat spectrum, rarely able to form lasting/deep connections (mostly due to health/circumstance) not at all soppy, very choosy, highly secure in myself/self-reliant, and rarely short of options/pessimistic about future potential :bandit:

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    We are like complete opposites.

    Yes,we know you are rarely short of dating options/potential partners..

    What exception?
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    We are like complete opposites
    Somewhat different (stages), but you have all the raw materials, and I am here to help you be the best, strongest, most complete you

    Yes,we know you are rarely short of dating options/potential partners
    :mmm:

    What exception?
    Exceptional characters :innocent:
 
 
 
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