Guys: Honestly, would you ever...

hey ppl, its jus sex!! for all u no u could die tomorrow and neva hav experienced one of the greatest human acts!!
SEX IS FAB!!!

What if you wait to marry someone, who isn't right for you in the end, sleep together and never realise that the ex you broke up with because of sex was the one who would make you happiest.

But sex is something so enjoyable, its the closest (physically) you can ever get to someone. If you meet at eighteen and don't want to have sex until marriage, say 10 years down the line, thats a long time to go without sex, if your boyfriend has had it before.

Saying that, i understand that their feelings should be respected, but with sex comes a whole new bond. You have experienced something amazing together. For me and my boyfriend, i waited 6 months before we slept together, and when we did, it just proved to me that he was the one. But i don't need marriage to define that!

What if you wait to marry someone, who isn't right for you in the end, sleep together and never realise that the ex you broke up with because of sex was the one who would make you happiest.

There's just so many ways to look at the problem; i think sex matures you in a way. I don't mean that all the 15 year olds going out sleeping with 5 men every week are mature, but when you have reached that stage in a relationship, something just *happens* you change in a way. I did. I no longer looked at sex as a taboo subject, nor did i find it as funny as i did before i had it. It kind of made me grow up a bit.

Does anyone understand what i mean?

...date a girl who wanted to remain a virgin until marriage?? Because it seems to me like not many do, and they either (1) don't want to date me anymore after finding out or (2) pretend to be okay with it, in hopes that they will be the one to somehow "change" the way I think and get me to give in... Maybe I'm just looking for some type of guy that doesn't exist... ?

Opinions, anyone?

I don't think I could ever feel close to someone if we were doing intimate things together. Intimate acts like sex are just that - intimate. They're acts that let someone in, that show the level of closeness you want to have with someone.

If I was in a long term relationship with a girl and she didn't want to have sex, I'd wonder why she didn't trust me. I need to have that level of intimacy in a relationship to feel close to someone. What's the difference between friends and a relationship if intimacy isn't involved? It's the intimacy that makes it special.

I'd be fine being in a relationship without sex, but if all sexual acts are forbidden, I'd question the motives of the other person. Do they really like me? Do they trust me? It would just seem like a glorified friendship, without anything special, anything that makes us feel close to each other.

Sexual acts in a relationship are intimate acts to share with someone you trust. Denying them to your partner is not allowing them to be close and intimate with you.

I don't really believe in marriage but if I had a partner I'd be cool with no sex anyway.

Can i ask why you don't be;ive in marraige???

Closeness & intimacy - aren't there others ways of being intimate with someone? I would LOVE to have the kind of relationship with a man who tells me everything. With someone who will talk to me about whatever is troubling him, who would trust me and I would trust him in return. I want a relationship where sex isn't just on the agenda, it's paying attention and listening and being there for each other. Where you may have had sex, but it isn't the only way to get intimate in the relationship and isn't always needed.

What makes a romantic relationship, as opposed to a strong friendship, special to me is the affection and intimacy. It's about having someone to hold, someone to kiss, and someone who you find physically attractive, as well as someone you like spending time with. If you took that part away, you have a friendship. A valuable thing, but it's not as special as a relationship, to me.

I do not believe in marriage in its religious form in a church. Guess there's always the registration office anyway. I see marriage as outdated and if I had a partner I'd hope that we didn't need to get married to stay together, because if we were really committed there would be no need. The only problems would be the legal implications of married couples and unmarried couples but this is changing.

...date a girl who wanted to remain a virgin until marriage?? Because it seems to me like not many do, and they either (1) don't want to date me anymore after finding out or (2) pretend to be okay with it, in hopes that they will be the one to somehow "change" the way I think and get me to give in... Maybe I'm just looking for some type of guy that doesn't exist... ?

Opinions, anyone?

hey ppl, its jus sex!! for all u no u could die tomorrow and neva hav experienced one of the greatest human acts!!
SEX IS FAB!!!

Yes, in a way I agree. After all, if you need a piece of paper to validate your relationship it shows that you don't have much trust in the other person's committment. Marriage isn't essential but it's a nice bonus I think. But as long as the feelings are strong enough to be marriage-like, I guess it doesn't matter.