Girl/boyfriend guarantee

Reply 40

CamSPSer

MrBroked

Fills me with great hope if my girlfriend gets into Cambridge then :p:

I don't see how such short terms could break up a good relationship, especially if you see each other inbetween.

Eight weeks is an awfully long time... I think I rather annoyed my ex by talking non stop about how brilliant it was and talking about all these people she had never met. Weekends become rapidly filled with work, sport etc and meeting up gets delayed for one more week. one of you gets lonely and gets "comforted" by someone or you just start to get bored of phone calls or start to fancy someone else...

Reply 41

musicbloke

17

I haven't had a gf in cambridge. I have on the other hand pulled a variety of randoms. Quite a few of those I've been told about in the morning, and have not remembered. That scares me.

MB

Reply 42

The Albatross

12

Ticki

freshers' term relationships almost always break up.

generalisations!
Fortunately, my freshers' term relationship is still going strong!
:biggrin:

Reply 43

Ticki

8

scarlet ibis

generalisations!
Fortunately, my freshers' term relationship is still going strong!
:biggrin:

And one of the freshers' term relationships from Sidney is going strong in our third year, as is one in the year above me.

Reply 44

Helenia

20

scarlet ibis

generalisations!
Fortunately, my freshers' term relationship is still going strong!
:biggrin:

That's why she said "almost always" rather than always :wink:

Some people do get lucky, others get very unlucky because they've formed a relationship so early in the year and so don't really have any experience of Cambridge as a singleton, all have mutual friends etc. It gets very messy for a lot of people.

Reply 45

The Albatross

12

yeah, i know. :tongue:

Obviously things would have been very different for me had I not met Tel, but I don't regret it. Although I sometimes want some time just to be me in Cambridge, doing my own thing not answerable to anyone. Actually I'm getting that now - Tel's in taiwan for a week. so I'm :smile:

at the moment!

btw Helen, what do you mean about mutual friends?

Reply 46

Helenia

20

scarlet ibis

yeah, i know. :tongue:

Obviously things would have been very different for me had I not met Tel, but I don't regret it. Although I sometimes want some time just to be me in Cambridge, doing my own thing not answerable to anyone. Actually I'm getting that now - Tel's in taiwan for a week. so I'm :smile:

at the moment!

btw Helen, what do you mean about mutual friends?

Well, the people I know who started going out very early on, tended to make the same friends and have social circles which were either identical or very very overlapping. So when they broke up it affected their social life too, because they didn't want to go out with their friends if their ex was going to be there. It also made it harder for us if we wanted to stay friends with both people.

With the boy though, our social circles are completely separate; although we both get on well with each others' friends, they don't mix all together at all (mostly because they're in two different colleges and years - I'm sure they'd get on if they had to spend time with each other). If anything did go wrong between us, it would be entirely possible I'd never see him again, and that's just as scary and weird.