Poll: Not going out drinking - what do you think?

it really doesnt bother me the not drinking. i used to have a friend i hung out with a lot who wouldnt drink because he had diabetes, he used to do everything else we did and at parties would bring cherry cola and get hyper off the sugar in it. i think as long as you are still up for a laugh and fun to be around then it doesnt bother me in the slightest if you drink or not, its the miserable ones who sit in the corner and dont join in that i would have a problem with.

He has diabetes and drinks cherry cola? :O

Reply 21

Anonymise

OP

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Original post by Chris22

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I'm in a very similar position to you. I don't drink much, rarely go on nights out and you get a lot of snide comments/reactions of great shock when you don't do this.

One of my flatmates seems almost offended that I don't drink heavily and find nights out boring. I get on well with him and my other flatmates fine, but I've found that you are seen as strange for not doing this.

But, how boring would it be if everyone liked the same things? One of the best things about university should be a variety of different people, with different personalities and interests. It's finding these like-minded people, which can prove difficult.

Well put, thanks for this response. I agree completely, when you think about these people it's their problem not ours!

Reply 22

vickie89

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Original post by inspiration91

He has diabetes and drinks cherry cola? :O

ooops, my bad, sorry. he drank diet cherry cola and it was the caffeine in it that had the effect on him (not very well so brain isnt working right at moment.lol)

Reply 23

RedDevilThing

9

Where's the option for "would probably be more inclined to befriend said individual"?

Reply 24

inspiration91

Original post by vickie89

ooops, my bad, sorry. he drank diet cherry cola and it was the caffeine in it that had the effect on him (not very well so brain isnt working right at moment.lol)

Ooh okay! Didn't know you could have any fizzy drinks when you've got diabetes!

Reply 25

Pen Island

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I don't think it matters, there are plenty of other ways to make friends :smile:

And anyway if people want you to go out you could always go out and not drink? I go to a lot of house parties and half the time I don't drink even though everyone else does - just as long as you join in the conversation and stuff and don't let it bother you you'll have just as much fun as everyone else! (I once played drinking games with pepsi max :tongue:

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Reply 26

username851717

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I must say *Does not matter - this is irrelevant when making friends :smile:

Reply 27

vickie89

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Original post by inspiration91

Ooh okay! Didn't know you could have any fizzy drinks when you've got diabetes!

you can have them as long as they are sugar free ones.

Reply 28

username927016

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To any normal person this is totally irrelevant when making friends. Me & my mates don't drink/party/go clubbing etc but still have a decent social life :smile:

(mostly relating to sport/work lol)

Reply 29

Chicharito14

12

To be honest, drinking/clubbing is overrated.

The first month i partied like there was no tomorrow, albeit a sore liver.

However, now i have been given lots of work to do for second and third term, i have restricted the times that i do go out, and to be honest, don't miss it that much.

It's better because, i can save money on those 'average' nights out, and just put it towards my festival fund for the summer :colone:

Reply 30

noobynoo

6

seriously though there are lots of things you can do without drinking such as join clubs and societies and even go dancing without drinking - just have lemonade (mmmm lemonade). :banana:

Reply 31

Galaxie

Original post by Anonymise

Hello all

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I am a quiet person and enjoy my life like this - I'd like to know your honest opinion on someone who doesn't want to go out socialising and drinking.

I do socialise with friends.. but this does not involved getting drunk/going to clubs/bars. I have been judged many times since joining university based purely on this choice.

Thanks :biggrin:

Edit: It's nice to see the majority choosing option #1. Continue to be understanding people, unlike some individuals I've come across! Thanks again.

Again, I'm much the same as you OP, so it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I enjoy a drink now and again, but I stress the enjoy part, rather than the drinking as much as you can in as short a time as possible like some certain people.

Thankfully most people are not too bothered when I say I'm not a big drinker and don't enjoy going to clubs, but I still get some people who'll think I'm odd because I don't enjoy these things. It puzzles me how some people can't grasp that you may have other interests and enjoy socialising in other ways.

Reply 32

TimmonaPortella

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I don't care about people not drinking, it's entirely up to them, but I'm not sure I'd say it's irrelevant when making friends just because one of the main times when people make friends is when they're drunk and socialising. Only in that sense, though; if people attack/judge you for not enjoying nights out, they're dicks.

Reply 33

Anonymise

OP

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Original post by Galaxie

Again, I'm much the same as you OP, so it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I enjoy a drink now and again, but I stress the enjoy part, rather than the drinking as much as you can in as short a time as possible like some certain people.

Thankfully most people are not too bothered when I say I'm not a big drinker and don't enjoy going to clubs, but I still get some people who'll think I'm odd because I don't enjoy these things. It puzzles me how some people can't grasp that you may have other interests and enjoy socialising in other ways.

I agree, it puzzles me also. We live in a very forced society with more and more are 'caving' into drinking because of their peers when they might not necessarily have ever gotten into drunkenness otherwise. I think sometimes people take offence to people who have the confidence to do their own thing, rather than what most others do in order to fit in.

Reply 34

CJAW

9

Original post by Anonymise

Hello all

,
I am a quiet person and enjoy my life like this - I'd like to know your honest opinion on someone who doesn't want to go out socialising and drinking.

I do socialise with friends.. but this does not involved getting drunk/going to clubs/bars. I have been judged many times since joining university based purely on this choice.

Thanks :biggrin:

Edit: It's nice to see the majority choosing option #1. Continue to be understanding people, unlike some individuals I've come across! Thanks again.

My favourite kind of drinking is 'not going out drinking'

Reply 35

M | k e

I don't see why anyone would have an issue with it :smile:

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I sometimes find it a little odd when people go out to clubs etc with friends who all drink, and then they themselves don't drink. I personally find drunk people can be very annoying when I'm not drunk and can't see how they enjoy it hehe :tongue:

But guess they must be more patient than me with the drunken behavior that seems so silly when you're sober yet so funny when you're drunk. :redface:

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 36

Dan1909

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Original post by M | k e

I don't see why anyone would have an issue with it :smile:

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I sometimes find it a little odd when people go out to clubs etc with friends who all drink, and then they themselves don't drink. I personally find drunk people can be very annoying when I'm not drunk and can't see how they enjoy it hehe :tongue:

But guess they must be more patient than me with the drunken behavior that seems so silly when you're sober yet so funny when you're drunk. :redface:

Because they enjoy going to clubs, but don't feel the need to drink? I've gone out to clubs and not been drinking many times, it's still fun, as long as you're with good friends and like the place.

Cheaper too! Not that union prices are really that high anyway. :biggrin:

Reply 37

M | k e

Original post by Dan1909

Because they enjoy going to clubs, but don't feel the need to drink? I've gone out to clubs and not been drinking many times, it's still fun, as long as you're with good friends and like the place.

Cheaper too! Not that union prices are really that high anyway. :biggrin: