Ladies of TSR - Please Help! (Relationship)
- Met girl 1 month ago (were both 24 years old)
- We've been on 3 dates; everything has gone literally perfect
- Last week she flew back home to Vienna for the holidays (for 3 weeks); we both said to each other that'll we'll miss each other. And she told me to plan us a day out for when she's back.
- Saturday night, she was being super nice, asking me to visit her in Vienna etc.
- Sunday we exchanged a few normal messages..then since Sunday night she has not replied to my last message, for no reason at all (but I know she's been talking to other people..)
Can you ladies rationalise this for me? It's driving me mad
Should I:
- Not message her, until she messages me?
- Message her, ask her to skype me and then ask what the **** is going on?
- We've been on 3 dates; everything has gone literally perfect
- Last week she flew back home to Vienna for the holidays (for 3 weeks); we both said to each other that'll we'll miss each other. And she told me to plan us a day out for when she's back.
- Saturday night, she was being super nice, asking me to visit her in Vienna etc.
- Sunday we exchanged a few normal messages..then since Sunday night she has not replied to my last message, for no reason at all (but I know she's been talking to other people..)
Can you ladies rationalise this for me? It's driving me mad
Should I:
- Not message her, until she messages me?
- Message her, ask her to skype me and then ask what the **** is going on?
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Not message her, until she messages me
This way, whatever reason for her lack of response, you will demonstrate that she isn't
controlling you in any way and that you have other options and she isn't the centre of your universe
It's always better not to chase people
If they like you enough they will be in touch
This way, whatever reason for her lack of response, you will demonstrate that she isn't
controlling you in any way and that you have other options and she isn't the centre of your universe
It's always better not to chase people
If they like you enough they will be in touch
Yeah she could be very busy abroad with Xmas etc but then again if she has time to talk to other people , she should have time to talk to you if she likes you a lot.
I wouldn't rush to send her a message, it's only been two days, wait a week.
I wouldn't rush to send her a message, it's only been two days, wait a week.
Original post by aeon439
Not message her, until she messages me
This way, whatever reason for her lack of response, you will demonstrate that she isn't
controlling you in any way and that you have other options and she isn't the centre of your universe
It's always better not to chase people
If they like you enough they will be in touch
This way, whatever reason for her lack of response, you will demonstrate that she isn't
controlling you in any way and that you have other options and she isn't the centre of your universe
It's always better not to chase people
If they like you enough they will be in touch
Thank you. This is great advice..you're probably right; particularly the part in bold.
I just wish I knew why...because I've treated her literally like a princess, since the day we met. Sucks to have it thrown back in your face.
Original post by Anonymous
Thank you. This is great advice..you're probably right; particularly the part in bold.
I just wish I knew why...because I've treated her literally like a princess, since the day we met. Sucks to have it thrown back in your face.
I just wish I knew why...because I've treated her literally like a princess, since the day we met. Sucks to have it thrown back in your face.
There's your problem - treating her like a princess
If you put in more effort than the other person you will get taken for a mug usually
Original post by beckyb96
She might just be very busy, with it being Christmas and she is with family 
Ask her if everything is ok maybe and wish her a merry Christmas (then wait for her to reply- Don't keep messaging her over and over)
Ask her if everything is ok maybe and wish her a merry Christmas (then wait for her to reply- Don't keep messaging her over and over)
Original post by FlavaFavourFruit
Yeah she could be very busy abroad with Xmas etc but then again if she has time to talk to other people , she should have time to talk to you if she likes you a lot.
I wouldn't rush to send her a message, it's only been two days, wait a week.
I wouldn't rush to send her a message, it's only been two days, wait a week.
She doesn't celebrate christmas. She's been on facebook/whatsapp loads. I'm not a fool.
And yeah..FlavaFavourFruit I think you're right. But what if she messages me in a weeks time, and pretends as if everything is okay?
Original post by aeon439
There's your problem - treating her like a princess
If you put in more effort than the other person you will get taken for a mug usually
If you put in more effort than the other person you will get taken for a mug usually
Good point. Lesson learnt, for sure.
Original post by Anonymous
She doesn't celebrate christmas. She's been on facebook/whatsapp loads. I'm not a fool.
And yeah..FlavaFavourFruit I think you're right. But what if she messages me in a weeks time, and pretends as if everything is okay?
And yeah..FlavaFavourFruit I think you're right. But what if she messages me in a weeks time, and pretends as if everything is okay?
Hmmm well you could ask her in a non-confrontational way, why she wasn't able to speak to you last week but as long as the signs are good, relax.
She also could be one of those people who need their personal space and just needs a day break or 2 to talk to someone else..I'm one of those people.
Original post by Anonymous
She doesn't celebrate christmas. She's been on facebook/whatsapp loads. I'm not a fool.
And yeah..FlavaFavourFruit I think you're right. But what if she messages me in a weeks time, and pretends as if everything is okay?
And yeah..FlavaFavourFruit I think you're right. But what if she messages me in a weeks time, and pretends as if everything is okay?
Then you tell her that everything is not okay
Original post by Anonymous
Good point. Lesson learnt, for sure.
he's talking crap, there's nothing wrong with treating a girl as best as you can, you should, and the favour should be returned
i think you should just wait for her to message back, play it cool, there could be a bunch of reasons why she hasn't replied, something important could have came up, i'm sure everything will be fine, just relax!Original post by Salmaa!
he's talking crap, there's nothing wrong with treating a girl as best as you can, you should, and the favour should be returned i think you should just wait for her to message back, play it cool, there could be a bunch of reasons why she hasn't replied, something important could have came up, i'm sure everything will be fine, just relax!
i think you should just wait for her to message back, play it cool, there could be a bunch of reasons why she hasn't replied, something important could have came up, i'm sure everything will be fine, just relax!I'm female
Wait for a bit, maybe she's busy. if she hasnt replied for about a week, message her again.
Original post by bluebubblegum
Wait for a bit, maybe she's busy. if she hasnt replied for about a week, message her again.
She's not busy. I've made about 90% of the communication/talking effort so far. I'm not doing it again, or i'll just be taken for a fool.
Original post by Anonymous
She's not busy. I've made about 90% of the communication/talking effort so far. I'm not doing it again, or i'll just be taken for a fool.
Fair enough. If that is so, you should get the picture if she doesn't respond
Original post by bluebubblegum
Fair enough. If that is so, you should get the picture if she doesn't respond
If he stops messaging her that is giving up? why give up?
Keep trying send message again and again?
Why give up ?
Original post by Anonymous
She's not busy. I've made about 90% of the communication/talking effort so far. I'm not doing it again, or i'll just be taken for a fool.
So you've been doing all the work? that's hardly fair when you've been treating her so well. Don't message again then. It's not giving up, just giving her the opportunity to reply back, if she is really into you.
Original post by beckyb96
So you've been doing all the work? that's hardly fair when you've been treating her so well. Don't message again then. It's not giving up, just giving her the opportunity to reply back, if she is really into you.
Maybe message her your mobile number
for example
'hi, you wont reply back maybe you are busy, please I will give you my mobile number and lets chat when you are not busy x'
Original post by beckyb96
So you've been doing all the work? that's hardly fair when you've been treating her so well. Don't message again then. It's not giving up, just giving her the opportunity to reply back, if she is really into you.
Done most the work/chasing (naturally, as im the guy..). I've done what I can..balls in her court I guess.
QUOTE=shadow001;45669094]Maybe message her your mobile number. for example
'hi, you wont reply back maybe you are busy, please I will give you my mobile number and lets chat when you are not busy x'
Maybe if I was 18, man
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