21 and still a virgin, bad thing?

omg, it was just days since I last saw a similarly named thread

No. That is the answer. I won't be repeating myself. I've heard of pensioners who've never had sex.

Not bad, just very sexually frustrated. But this spurs you on to even greater efforts and you will succeed.

Nothing wrong with it at all. I don't get why people can't just accept that it's totally fine to have no sex and it's totally fine to have loads of sex. As long as nobody is being hurt in any way then there's nothing wrong.

If you want to have casual one-night-stands, go ahead. If you want to try a friends with benefits relationship, go ahead. If you want to have sex once you're in a relationship, go ahead. If you want to wait until you have a serious/long-term relationship, go ahead. If you want to wait until marriage, go ahead. If you never want sex, go ahead.

It's your choice and if anyone tells you otherwise or tries to make you feel bad about it then they're not good for you and you don't want them around anyway.

Is it then normal to actually consider asking a close female friend to be your frist (i should note that this particular girl i fell in love with last year and i still hold feelings for her)

Don't know the circumstances but sounds a touch high risk. If she is just a friend and not interested in you in a sexual way it's not a good idea - girls separate these two things very clearly, more than men. And, in any events, you don't start by asking her to be your first, you start by asking her out and seeing what happens.

Sorry didn't put much detail in, this girl knows how i feel about her, i have asked her out and she rejected me, i still talk to her, she is my best friend so

Nope. Society has this stupid pressure about this virginity thing, it's just stupid. You'll lose it when you're ready and when the right girl comes along. Don't feel like you have to rush to get it over with. Heck, I'm nearly 19 and I've still never drunk a drop of alcohol, that's not normal, right? But I don't care. Who cares what society expects me to have done by what age. It's just ridiculous. Do it in your own time and when you're ready.

I "accidentally" drunk alcohol. When I was a kid. I thought it was coke in that Coke bottle, turns out it was my grandmother's home-made wine Does "accidentally" count? I still don't drink socially btw

Is it then normal to actually consider asking a close female friend to be your frist (i should note that this particular girl i fell in love with last year and i still hold feelings for her)

Guys who aren't good with women are often shamed by society. You see it on TSR all the time with the 'haha you must be a virgin' insults