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Is it unethical to date with no intention of having sex?

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Reply 40

RaveOnAvon

More ethical. Very admirable in fact.

Reply 41

Lotus_Eater

Original post by keromedic

I don't want to date someone if it's expected I have sex with them before getting to know them.

I wouldn't want to enter a relationship with someone based on a lie if I go through the motions and fake it.

You're over-complicating this - if you begin 'dating' someone you have no intention of hooking up with romantically then better to say before the first date that what you're looking for is friendship. Then everyone is on the same page and nobody ends up looking stupid.

I've dated guys in the past and whilst I agree many do seem to just be looking for sex, there are plenty of times when you get to know each other first. Obviously if you're using hookup-aps then that's not going to work but if there isn't a place local to you to meet other gay men then try internet dating. Then you can say what you're about upfront and see what happens.

Reply 42

Viva Emptiness

Am I the only one wondering "What the hell is greysexual?!"

Reply 43

Eva.Gregoria

Original post by samba

Totally different scenario. He doesn't want it to be all about the sex with the typical horny gay guy expectations. You simply don't like the idea of sex. I don't see how they are remotely comparable.

Ok. He's already clarified this.

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Reply 44

konanakon

I'd say it's unethical if you don't make your intentions clear from the start and get a mutual understanding.

Reply 45

samba

Original post by Eva.Gregoria

Ok. He's already clarified this.

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He clarified a page before you posted too so I thought I'd make it nice and clear for you as I'm nicestguyEU :smile:

Reply 46

Eva.Gregoria

Original post by samba

He clarified a page before you posted too so I thought I'd make it nice and clear for you as I'm nicestguyEU :smile:

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Reply 47

daydreamer4life

I'm an asexual girl, and I agree, it's kind of hard to find a no-sex relationship :/ That's why I've only had crushes so far, not real relationships :frown:

Reply 48

daydreamer4life

Original post by Viva Emptiness

Am I the only one wondering "What the hell is greysexual?!"

A greysexual is a person who isn't sure whether they like sex or not. An asexual is one who doesn't want sex, and being a greysexual means you float between the two.
I know. It sounds weird o.O

Reply 49

StartSomething

Why would....

I don't understand...

Just.... What....

Ok I get it now I have read your explanation.

But I can just not imagine this.

It's not unethical to date someone without the intention of having sex, but it is unethical to date a girl if you're gay and are lying to her :lolwut:

Reply 50

The_Internet

Moved to relationships :smile:

Reply 51

Nissie1

Original post by keromedic

The above.

Unethical? What an interesting choice of words... Of course not. It has nothing to do with ethics. It's more to do with your own personal values than the general ethics of modern society

Not at all.

Original post by keromedic

The only way I could see me meeting other gay people is through things like Grindr which are sex based.
It's not that I'm anti-sex. I just want romance be it gay or straight.

I've never met a gay guy that wanted romance.

may GOD ALMIGHTY deliver you from the guy spirit and its bondage AMEN

Reply 54

shadowdweller

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Why would it be unethical?

Original post by daydreamer4life

A greysexual is a person who isn't sure whether they like sex or not. An asexual is one who doesn't want sex, and being a greysexual means you float between the two.
I know. It sounds weird o.O

Actually, greysexual is low interest in sex. And asexual is lack of sexual attraction, not a dislike of sex.

Reply 55

Polkadot2

Original post by keromedic

Interesting. I mainly made this thread because I'm gay and was interested in perhaps dating straight girls because I'd be find with it unless there was down there option.

But the bolded mutual part made me realise it could would if I could find someone who was a heteromantic asexual or a greysexual.

Answer to your title question - No

But to this- Yes

Dating someone has criteria - attraction firstly . To date needs to have the possibility of a relationship and if you're homosexual this isn't fair to withold the info to your dating partner.

Why do you have this idea? instead of dating other homosexual people?