Im a Sikh Girl with a Boyfriend

I definitely see where your coming from, I didn't say he was attacking Sikhism but that he dosent believe in it and obviously disregards it so this may not lead to a long and fruitful marriage, however much you want this to happen. How long have you been with him? Just be on the safe side and wait a bit would be my advice as remember when you say something you can't take it back. It's going to make you look kind of silly if you say you want to marry this guy and then you break up. However, I know you are thinking long term, but if you play tactically then wen you have been together for a while you can tell people as then it is more unlikely you will split up. I can see where you are coming from but most Sikhs don't think like that, well the older lot anyway and they wouldn't want to see there daughters shagging around. It's just a product of yh culture unfortunately and I can't see these views changing for a while yet.

Thanks. I would like to think my family will not behave like this. I hope they see how happy I am and support me and my boyfriend.

Dont worry I wont get bored of him. I cant live without him and miss him even if I am not near him for 1 minute!

If if you want to marry then go do your own thing but don't expect people to accept it and to get you married in a gurdwara.

Some one had to do it.

Tbh you're too old for this puppy love, you do that in school or college. I'm sorry to tell you, but it's puppy love. Anyone will tell you.

Most girls get emotionally attached to the guy they lost their virginity too (not all obviously) and i think you have.

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I like to think I am a mature person so I know this is the guy for me. Its not just "puppy love"

Says everyone at that age in puppy love. Think of yourself 5 years in the future laughing at yourself for being so foolish.

This is nothing do with him being black either. I dont believe 19 year olds make marriages for life.

You got some here giving you advice from the bowels of Broken Britain, dont take it.

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I appreciate your time to reply but there are many people with partners for life in Britain. I dont think my relationship will ever break

Says everyone at that age in puppy love. Think of yourself 5 years in the future laughing at yourself for being so foolish.

This is nothing do with him being black either. I dont believe 19 year olds make marriages for life.

You got some here giving you advice from the bowels of Broken Britain, dont take it.

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Lots of people get married and stay married at nineteen. Statistically, the majority of people marry someone they knew in their teenage years so to say it's just puppy love may reflect YOUR personal experiences with relationships at nineteen or whatever rather than this girls one. You can't make blanket statements like that when you don't know her. she may be hugely mature and they may be together for a long time so why not focus on what she's actually asking rather than responding as though you no teenage relationships have ever lasted?


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I appreciate your time to reply but there are many people with partners for life in Britain. I dont think my relationship will ever break

Hey, I'm a Sikh guy.

I respect your decision to choose a partner regardless of race or religion. However, your liberal choice of partner will probably result in your parents disowning you. I'm incredibly sorry to say this, but it's true. In regards to you wanting to be married in a gurdwara, I really doubt that's a possibility. Despite the Gurus (Nanak in particular) stressing the importance of accepting marriages between different races and religions, Sikhism is plagued by some degree of elitism.

For me, it really comes down to whether or not you want to be with this guy forever. If that's the case, it may be worth sacrificing your family. After all, who knows? They may warm up to your relationship in due time.

Best of luck.

Tbh you're too old for this puppy love, you do that in school or college. I'm sorry to tell you, but it's puppy love. Anyone will tell you.

Most girls get emotionally attached to the guy they lost their virginity too (not all obviously) and i think you have.

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Why are you trivialising her relationship? She lost her virginity to her boyfriend whom she's still with, not some one night stand she's gotten overly attached to. She's only thinking about the future, just like most girls and since it's a sensitive subject it obviously must be weighing on her more.

Bro, she lost her virginity to the guy and thinks she's in love. No more needs to be said. All I'm saying comes with pure intentions.

Whatever, I don't agree with telling people to do whatever they want.

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But don't most people intend to lose it to someone they love? I agree that the OP should think long and hard about it since she knows about her families objections before she's even told them but you never know it could work out.