Why are girls quick to do this?

Original post by Rovey

At best he could go the Putin route, and wear heels that give a good 2 inches extra in height.

otherwise guys will be all over him.

hm, yes, thats a good idea, perhaps get those boots that sort of hide a platform in the sole.

As long as they are not red cowboy boots he shouldn't attract too many guys then.

Reply 22

CRW1996

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I'm a guy and I won't date a girl taller than me. I think that's the same for most men as well. So it works both ways.

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Original post by Anonymous

Why are some girls quick to judge a guy by his height almost instantaneously?

it seems like guys under 5 foot 9 are somehow discriminated against by girls and are made to feel emasculated.

It's not their choice to be that height, nature made them that way, so why cringe at the sight of a 5 foot 8 guy or 5 foot 6 guy?

I've never come across girls who cringe at the sight of shorter guys... but I'm sorry that you've had to go through it. Keep your chin up hun. :wink:

I'll admit that I am naturally very attracted to men who are much taller than me (can't help it, attraction is not meant to be rational). My boyfriend is 6'3" and that can't be a coincidence. I have dated a guy who was shorter than 5'8". He was nearly my height, a little taller. I didn't even consider his height because his other features and personality more than made up for it. Height is nice, but it isn't everything. Don't let it get you down. x

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Some rather defensive posts from the ladies on here. Did the OP hit a nerve or something?

I am 5.8 and I am well built so get over it. If people don't like it or discriminate against me because of it then fine. Will happily discriminate against them for their height or weight, I hate tall and fat girls.

To the women who say height matters less than personally. Just stop lying. Unless you know someone and fall in love with them you are going to choose the guy you feel safer with. This will in most cases by the taller, stronger, richer person. Not the nice intellectual person you can talk to but has no money or physical strength.

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To the OP women like to feel protected by a man, so they likely seek someone bigger than them. This is perfectly rational if you are a weaker women who needs protecting and more importantly someone who can protect their children. People just need to get over it. You can try building up your muscles and wealth which will make up for it.

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Original post by william walker

Some rather defensive posts from the ladies on here. Did the OP hit a nerve or something?

I am 5.8 and I am well built so get over it. If people don't like it or discriminate against me because of it then fine. Will happily discriminate against them for their height or weight, I hate tall and fat girls.

To the women who say height matters less than personally. Just stop lying. Unless you know someone and fall in love with them you are going to choose the guy you feel safer with. This will in most cases by the taller, stronger, richer person. Not the nice intellectual person you can talk to but has no money or physical strength.

Hi, I completely agree with you that most girls will probably be more attracted to the taller/stronger/(richer... not sure about this one) guy when they are just meeting them. However, if the shorter 5'8" guy is better looking/more built/more charismatic/funnier/charming/witty than the taller guy - I'd choose the 5'8" guy. I guess it's subjective really. Or it depends on whether the lack of height is balanced out by other traits. Or I'm part of a minority...? :biggrin:

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username1148663

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In reply to the opening post they don't choose what they find attractive anymore than you it is a mix of genetics and socialisation.

Best you deal with your victim complex now than hang on to it

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Reply 28

Peachykeen09

Cause i only like tall men.

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Original post by godivaontherocks

Hi, I completely agree with you that most girls will probably be more attracted to the taller/stronger/(richer... not sure about this one) guy when they are just meeting them. However, if the shorter 5'8" guy is better looking/more built/more charismatic/funnier/charming/witty than the taller guy - I'd choose the 5'8" guy. I guess it's subjective really. Or it depends on whether the lack of height is balanced out by other traits. Or I'm part of a minority...? :biggrin:

Sorry but any women who chooses a man based on looks or personally will lose in the end. They must choose based upon height, strength and wealth. Only two things give men who aren't tall or strong a chance. Marriage and money. Sure you can fall in love with some but that only lasts about a year. After which you have to live with and love the person. If they can't protect you and share their means with you, then you will want to leave and move on. Which is why most marriages don't last more than 5-10 year these years. However after that 5-10 year period most marriages last because people can learn to live with each other and have a bond which is children. Part of the issue in fact with increased female employment is they can choose without taking wealth into account, the women marry or have sexy with the tall, strong and dumb people. Then the small and weaker men get annoyed and basically think what is the point. I have money, I have a different personally, I have never had a girlfriend. It isn't because I am short or weak, it is actually because women who are good looking are boring, then the less good looking women are good and interesting. The fact I am a moral Protestant and don't want to have sex means I value the less good looking women more than the good looking women. The fact is marriage supported the less good looking women at the expense of the good looking women. Now marriage almost non-existent the only thing which matters is your base desires. So there is little wonder when I see people wearing almost no clothes, loads of makeup, high heels and fake hair. To me this looks daft, but to other men who want sex with good looking women it is good. This then puts me off, so I don't have a girlfriend.

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Original post by william walker

Sorry but any women who chooses a man based on looks or personally will lose in the end. They must choose based upon height, strength and wealth. Only two things give men who aren't tall or strong a chance. Marriage and money. Sure you can fall in love with some but that only lasts about a year. After which you have to live with and love the person. If they can't protect you and share their means with you, then you will want to leave and move on. Which is why most marriages don't last more than 5-10 year these years. However after that 5-10 year period most marriages last because people can learn to live with each other and have a bond which is children. Part of the issue in fact with increased female employment is they can choose without taking wealth into account, the women marry or have sexy with the tall, strong and dumb people. Then the small and weaker men get annoyed and basically think what is the point. I have money, I have a different personally, I have never had a girlfriend. It isn't because I am short or weak, it is actually because women who are good looking are boring, then the less good looking women are good and interesting. The fact I am a moral Protestant and don't want to have sex means I value the less good looking women more than the good looking women. The fact is marriage supported the less good looking women at the expense of the good looking women. Now marriage almost non-existent the only thing which matters is your base desires. So there is little wonder when I see people wearing almost no clothes, loads of makeup, high heels and fake hair. To me this looks daft, but to other men who want sex with good looking women it is good. This then puts me off, so I don't have a girlfriend.

Hey, each to their own hun. But I'm afraid that you're making quite a few assumptions here. Major stereotyping. Tall, strong men are not necessarily more dumb than a shorter, weaker man. My bf is tall and strong (he can't help it) but is very intelligent. You can't judge a peron's intelligence on their appearance alone (nursery-school stuff here...). And a shorter man can also be stronger physically (more built/knows how to defend himself better). Some non-religious guys also value women of substance over the 'hotter', more promiscuous women. And beauty/lack of beauty is not linked to intelligence. I'm pretty sure there are hot girls out there who have the intellect to match. They may be hard to find but they are out there.

I will never choose a man based solely upon height, strength or wealth. What will his height and strength do for me? A woman should be able to take care of herself physically and financially. I realise I am on a student forum talking to under-25's so I can't say I'm surprised and I find the naivety all too adorable tbh.

Love can last a year? Marriage works out because of children...? Wow. What about the people who chose not to have children and are somehow able to maintain a marriage. I have known a fair few of them. You have never had a girlfriend but you speak as though you have a wealth of experience. It's sad because you're only going to hinder yourself further with all these negative assumptions. I'm sure girls out there have noticed you but you are VERY pessimistic. Keep your chin up, you will find someone. x

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Original post by godivaontherocks

Hey, each to their own hun. But I'm afraid that you're making quite a few assumptions here. Major stereotyping. Tall, strong men are not necessarily more dumb than a shorter, weaker man. My bf is tall and strong (he can't help it) but is very intelligent. You can't judge a peron's intelligence on their appearance alone (nursery-school stuff here...). And a shorter man can also be stronger physically (more built/knows how to defend himself better). Some non-religious guys also value women of substance over the 'hotter', more promiscuous women. And beauty/lack of beauty is not linked to intelligence. I'm pretty sure there are hot girls out there who have the intellect to match. They may be hard to find but they are out there.

I will never choose a man based solely upon height, strength or wealth. What will his height and strength do for me? A woman should be able to take care of herself physically and financially. I realise I am on a student forum talking to under-25's so I can't say I'm surprised and I find the naivety all too adorable tbh.

Love can last a year? Marriage works out because of children...? Wow. What about the people who chose not to have children and are somehow able to maintain a marriage. I have known a fair few of them. You have never had a girlfriend but you speak as though you have a wealth of experience. It's sad because you're only going to hinder yourself further with all these negative assumptions. I'm sure girls out there have noticed you but you are VERY pessimistic. Keep your chin up, you will find someone. x

Intelligence is meaningless. What matters is interests.

You can't get round the fact women are weaker and have children. So they need protected and financial support. Also of course I am talking in general terms. There will be exceptions. I don't know why people have an issue with general realities of life and human nature. I mean do people seriously think they are new and cool saying there are exception to things. Exceptions that have always been know about, but somehow only now matter.

I didn't say love. I said being in love with someone. Marriage is maintain because of children. If people don't have children they have little reason to get married and enforce marriage within the nation state.

Thank you for the last few sentences. Rather personally enlightening to the bigotry and ignorance I show people in my life. I know what I am and what I am doing, but it is always good when someone points it out. I love the sick feeling I get in my stomach and the explosion feeling I get in my head.

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Original post by william walker

Intelligence is meaningless. What matters is interests.

You can't get round the fact women are weaker and have children. So they need protected and financial support. Also of course I am talking in general terms. There will be exceptions. I don't know why people have an issue with general realities of life and human nature. I mean do people seriously think they are new and cool saying there are exception to things. Exceptions that have always been know about, but somehow only now matter.

I didn't say love. I said being in love with someone. Marriage is maintain because of children. If people don't have children they have little reason to get married and enforce marriage within the nation state.

Thank you for the last few sentences. Rather personally enlightening to the bigotry and ignorance I show people in my life. I know what I am and what I am doing, but it is always good when someone points it out. I love the sick feeling I get in my stomach and the explosion feeling I get in my head.

You're welcome. I think one of the key lessons I've learned is to always be open and receptive to learning. This isn't about being 'cool' or 'new'. I don't know where you pulled that from tbh but exceptions should never be overlooked. And it's always best to keep an open mind rather than remain pessimistic and closed-off from the potential good in people. If you're always looking for the worst, you will always see the worst. If you cling to the idea that everything is dark and bleak around you and see only the worst in people, it's going to be a very lonely life. You won't truly trust people.

Not everyone marries with the intention of having kids. I'm meeting more and more couples these days who are not even remotely interested in the prospect of children. Who can say what their reasons are. These things in life are subjective. Being in love? How can you know for a fact that it only lasts a year? Have you ever been in love? Or just observed those around you. Do you even believe in the concept of romantic love? Or at the very least, the mutual respect that is essential to keep a healthy relationship going?

As a rule, I would encourage every woman to make it by herself on her own terms before seeking out a partner. So that if things go wrong (as they often can), she will not be financially dependant on her partner. Prenuptial agreements are always a good idea. Believe me, there are many weak-willed men who will happily prey on a financially-secure, independent woman. Just as there are countless women who will happily pounce on a man's wealth. I agree that men and women each have their own weaknesses and strengths - and both bring something to the table, i.e. we were made to be matched. Depending on your beliefs, if we could survive without the other, it would have happened by now. There is a reason for males and females clearly.

Intelligence is not meaningless. I don't know the girls you've met but certainly not for grown girls like me. My boyfriend's interests are oddly tied in to his intellect and inquisitive nature. Our interests are often VERY different. It's a big factor in why we are working out so well. I have learned from my past experiences with men that having too many interests in common is not always a good thing. It can sometimes be destructive. One of the things that works with my bf and I is that our seperate interests allow us to retain our individual sense of identity - very important in a healthy relationship. And his intelligence, wit and sense of humour are what gets me through the day at uni. I certainly wouldn't want him to be a clone of me or anything.

Reply 33

chukster97

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most girls see me as some sort of murderer cuz im 6ft 5

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Rovey

9

Ok look i'm 6 ft 1 and can sympathise cause i was a midget for most of my life until i went from 5 ft 9.5 when I was 20 to 6 ft 1 at 21.

although funnily enough i never even realised how much i grew until i measured myself. I'm sure girls did though.

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Smilin’ Knight