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Need advice on helping her...

A few weeks ago I met this girl online (I'm female and bisexual) and we really got on well together and just clicked! We're planning on meeting up soon, and we're both interested in maybe starting a relationship. However recently she told me that she was really worried about getting in a relationship with me because of her anxiety, her mood swings and her self-harming (which she had mostly told me about already). I want to do whatever I can to help her, but I don't know what to do (especially since we mostly communicate over the phone). I tried to reassure her as best I could, but I didn't really know what to say (she said she didn't want to hurt me or be a burden on me). I can understand why she feels that way, but I really, really like her and I'll do whatever I can to make it easier for her and be there for her. Does anyone have any advice of what I could say to her or do for her?
I know there's no quick fix for this, and she's spoken to student support at her uni so hopefully she'll be getting support from there soon. I just want to help her, and help make her feel happy too
rob all her money while she is in this position. like ask for credit card details, escape with them and leave no trace.
Just tell her the general "I don't care, I like you a lot and you're worth it blah blah". I'd be wary about getting into a relationship with someone that self harms though, I personally wouldn't want to be supporting someone 24/7.
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Original post by Protégé
Just tell her the general "I don't care, I like you a lot and you're worth it blah blah". I'd be wary about getting into a relationship with someone that self harms though, I personally wouldn't want to be supporting someone 24/7.


She's been self-harming for 7 years, so I think it's become a coping system for her now... I know I can't "fix" her, but I want to help if I can
Well if you really like this girl and you can see yourself in a long term relationship with her then you just need to reassure her that you love her and will be there for her and just want to make her happy. I mean, if you really want to be with somebody and love them that's just what you do. I mean I can't imagine not dating a girl just because she has mental health issues... maybe a loving relationship would actually help her!
Reply 5
I've got a black ski mask, but I don't ski
But I snowboard
, dash an MC off-piste
If one of you try and violate me
You get a punch in the face with my front door key
Punch in the neck with my back door key
Box in the mout with my X6 key

Box in the eye with the fob
I use to log into my HSBC

Talk about banks, kill em with Ps
Run up in your girl's house with two of my Gs
Get the money out, put the money in his mout
Then suffocate man with about two Gs
Suffocate man with about four Gs
Suffocate man, then I might just breathe

I'll bury man two foot shallow
Ain't got time to dig six feet deep

These MCs and rappers wanna chat 'bout their syllables
And their multis and their similes
And all that ****, then I come through with my ABC

Girls and man are like "Jme's deep"
Bare pictures when they see me on street

Old school rudeboy like Crazy T
All you man don't want it with me
I'm a bad rudeboy, badboy MC

Say my name, Jme
Nostradamus couldn't see me
Expelliarmus couldn't stop me
How could a man with a uni degree
Be bussing up mic and chatting his greaze?

Cause the music originated
And will always remain in the streets


[Hook: Jme & Giggs]
What about?
Man don't care 'bout all that
You got it now?
Man don't care 'bout all that
Who's not allowed?
Man don't care 'bout all that
Knock him out
Man don't care 'bout all that
What about?
Man don't care about all that
Just drop him out
Man don't care about all that

I'll just crop him out
Man don't care about all that

He's forgotten 'bout
Cause man don't care about all that


[Verse 2: Giggs]
Cuz, I'm the most immediate, he's just an old school idiot
Ain't doing local things but we be them local geezers
Just look at my list of friends as he holds em up with tweezers
Yeah, man used to move that white, yeah, we be them old school dealers
She's lighting up some sensis, he's lighting up amnesias
I'm 'bout to get it started, I'm 'bout to get amnesia'd
Man might have to move up Thelma, might have to touch Louise's
Cause at the top it's just us, yeah, man had to quote Lil Reese's
Like Batman, da-na-da-na-da-na
Hardest, just let me confirm it

Loafers just have to be Hermès
Burners, went bap and hit Bernard
Hot furnace, I'm back with big burners
That's my spot, I'm back with that permit
Pulled that pistol back and then burn it
Friday ****, I bap and big worm it

Excuse me? What? Pardon?
I had to just ask em
Iron Man, the MAC'll just Stark em
Man's like Buu, I'm back with that margin
Like Adam and Eve, I'm back in that garden
Wah da bloodclart, I'm back, the don gorgon
Started off light, I think, and then darkened
Hollowman, Jme, I'm done talking
Kill em with D (switch it), kill an MC
Digestives, cinnamon tea
Ain't no filling them shoes, cause they still on his feet
Man's down south hustling with no gold grill in his teeth

[Hook: Jme & Giggs]
Reply 6
Original post by driftawaay
Well if you really like this girl and you can see yourself in a long term relationship with her then you just need to reassure her that you love her and will be there for her and just want to make her happy. I mean, if you really want to be with somebody and love them that's just what you do. I mean I can't imagine not dating a girl just because she has mental health issues... maybe a loving relationship would actually help her!


Exactly! I don't want her to worry about me, or feel like she's a burden or anything. But I'm worried about not knowing what to do to help her when she needs it

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