Confused about sexuality?

did you remember to say no homo after he wanked you off? if so, it's not gay

Ermm.... no

you're gay then lad

Saying "no homo" doesn't prevent you from being gay .

Hi everyone,


Ok so, im a 18yo male and ive been having this weird "relationship" for about 5 years.


So basically in year 9 i started lift sharing from school with this boy in year 7 who was my neighbour. One day he was at my house as his family weren't at home and i asked him if he was circumsied or not because his dad is muslim.

A few days later we ended up watching straight porn (didn't masterbate the first time) and he left. He came over again a few days later and then both of us thought we'd just masterbate together watching porn. As he had a much smaller penis he was shocked by the size of mine. (I always thought he liked mine) and he wanted to touch/compare the two.we did this for a while (almost 2 years) after this i wanted to stop as i was uncomfortable with it all asone day he tried sucking me off.


untill one day he invited me over and he had condoms, lube, cock rings (all from his steps sisters collection) as i am still a virgin i wanted to try on what they all felt like so we started masturbating again but the difference was he was more focused on me whilst i was more engrossed in the porn and the lube condoms etc...


I then moved away last year and my family and i moved houses to the other side of town. One day he called me over to "chill" (baring in mind this was a year later) i didnt really want to because i knew it was wrong. I ended up going and when i arrived his sister was upstairs so we where downstairs... then all of a sudden he put somthing down my pants that felt silky and wet. When i took them out it was his sisters panties and they smelt realy weird but i liked it. :/


He then said i can use them if he allows me to let him toss me off and because i was in love with the panties i said yes... i ended up ejaculating soo much over the table we where both left stunned.


Ive jot been since but he keeps calling me. I dont want to go but he keeps saying hes got more and im in two minds states.


I think hes gay/bi (as he's had Gf's before) i havnt.... and i believe im straight.


Any ideas or suggestions on what is should do?


Thanks

You confuse me - you say that you "know it's wrong" and you "don't want it" yet you keep going back and there's nothing wrong about it - it's not like he's forced himself on you and he's three years younger than you I mean, come on.

You sound too fixated with labelling yourself. There's nothing wrong with being Bisexual, Homosexual, or even just sexually fluid (meaning you don't mind doing things with guys but you're not romantically into men). Just stop panicking so much about it and let it flow. I would, however, stop seeing this guy because he seems like he's being exposed to a bit too much too young and the stuff with his sister is weird to say the least.

Thanks

And yeh ive been ignoring him for a while now and im currently on the nofap challenge thing as i cant seem to get with girls and think porn makes it worse. But the main reason i kept goong back is because thats was really the only action i got where it wasnt for him.

Ill try stay away now

I edited my post - read the edit.

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I think it's for the best that you continue doing that. Oh, stop pushing yourself into corners, man. You said you are year 9 - I don't comprehend how "girls" is even an issue. I mean, I never properly kissed my first boy until like year ten (properly kissed - french kissing and stuff) and never did much until about that year too. I'm 17 now (well nearly) and you just don't need to worry about it. Your time will come. When you adopt an attitude like yours seems to be, you just get into a routine of using women because you're frustrated and that's what you should be concerned about doing. Respect women and respect that you will come to that point in your life - don't push it to happen sooner than it needs to because quite frankly, you're too young to even know what you're doing.

The fact that you wanted it from a man does tell you something though - I think it's possible you are either bisexual and rejecting that in yourself because you don't want to be that, or you are heterosexual but a little sexually fluid.

Just read the edit... and yeh i think time is needed too.. and with girls i dont get that much luck so that was probably why i resorted to that

Yes but it isn't exactly typical for boys who don't get much action to resort to those sorts of means if they are purely, closed-minded-ly, heterosexual. You seem like you have much more fluidity.

Hmm yeh your probably right but then nothing about guys interests me tbh

Then let it alone, just let yourself be and don't be hasty about labelling yourself. Sexuality is incredibly complex - some men just want to bang men because the sex is better (in their eyes) or because they just want to (whatever that means) and others cannot fathom why one would want to have sex with men when they are male. It's just life. Sexuality isn't black and white - too many think you have to be either point-blank heterosexual or point-blank homosexual and that is not the case, or a 50/50 split Bisexual which is also not the case.

You will learn who you are, let things roll and don't be so preoccupied with a title.

Ok so if i said to you do you think im gay or straight? What would your honest answer be?

I would say: have you not read a single thing I have written?

I just want aa straight up answer like yes you are or no... i understand both sides of what youve said

I just want aa straight up answer like yes you are or no... i understand both sides of what youve said

Bi.

He clearly said he was sexually into the male. Therefore, he isn't bisexual or even homosexual.