is anyone here not attracted to white girls/guys?

In reply to your recent post or essay, you're indeed young so I do not expect you to fully understand as much.But you see, I was just pointing out the negative side of interracial relationships.you simply must see that there is something wrong in only wanting to only date a certain race.
Maybe your parents didn't see race, but with this generation you have people who only get a sense of satisfaction from being with somebody of another race.I have seen examples if interracial couples in London and could tell it was just based off of sexual or media driven.
Let me educate you, as you can fetishize almost anything that you desire.
I do not agree in having a sole preference to just date a certain race.
Your hair colour and texture can be changed, but your race cannot be changed.

My stance. Well i am not against. But i believe black people should be cautious when entering interracial relationship and procreating. Just becase someone has sex with a black person doesnt mean they respect such people. I see this all the tine with white women and black men, they live them but have absolutely no respect for black woman which is worrying for the mixed race kids the raise. That is one of many reasons. Other things is that marriage is a financial insitution, if you interracially marry who does the money go to? Which community? Because racism wont stop but one can shield themsleves better with economic power e.g. jews/ asians. Lastly it just boggles me how one can stay married to someone outside of their race esp white when they are so disconnected. Like how do get initimate, love cannot bridge up such differences and ignorance, espcially if the other person is not bothering to be invested in the racial realities but instead be 'colour blind'

My stance. Well i am not against. But i believe black people should be cautious when entering interracial relationship and procreating. Just becase someone has sex with a black person doesnt mean they respect such people. I see this all the tine with white women and black men, they live them but have absolutely no respect for black woman which is worrying for the mixed race kids the raise. That is one of many reasons. Other things is that marriage is a financial insitution, if you interracially marry who does the money go to? Which community? Because racism wont stop but one can shield themsleves better with economic power e.g. jews/ asians. Lastly it just boggles me how one can stay married to someone outside of their race esp white when they are so disconnected. Like how do get initimate, love cannot bridge up such differences and ignorance, espcially if the other person is not bothering to be invested in the racial realities but instead be 'colour blind'

My stance. Well i am not against. But i believe black people should be cautious when entering interracial relationship and procreating. Just becase someone has sex with a black person doesnt mean they respect such people. I see this all the tine with white women and black men, they live them but have absolutely no respect for black woman which is worrying for the mixed race kids the raise. That is one of many reasons. Other things is that marriage is a financial insitution, if you interracially marry who does the money go to? Which community? Because racism wont stop but one can shield themsleves better with economic power e.g. jews/ asians. Lastly it just boggles me how one can stay married to someone outside of their race esp white when they are so disconnected. Like how do get initimate, love cannot bridge up such differences and ignorance, espcially if the other person is not bothering to be invested in the racial realities but instead be 'colour blind'

I completely agree. I think that people of colour in general should be cautious when dating someone so disconnected from racial struggles

I completely agree. I think that people of colour in general should be cautious when dating someone so disconnected from racial struggles

To be honest having a racial preference is racist, so is race fetishising

To be honest having a racial preference is racist, so is race fetishising

I don't think having a racial preference is racist UNLESS one will not date any other race at all -- even if they like a person of another race that isn't their preferred one. The individual you may be referencing to also said that it is wrong for someone to prefer a race over their own, and that they don't support interracial relationships. If anything, that seems racist to me.

Race fetishing is stupid, and I believe is more so psychologically incorrect. People who have a race fetish ought to get help for their condition, not be criticised on here -- especially if they are not being hateful towards other races that they don't prefer (which is what I view as true racism). If they are not being hateful, then they deserve no hate.

There isn't any legitimate non-racist justification for having a racial preference. For instance, people who say things like they're not attracted to black girls because of preferences are racist because their justifications for this are always based on racist stereotypes of black women. Similarly to people who say things like "I have a thing for asian women"

She said black individuals should be cautious when entering interracial relationships. Not all black or mixed race inidviduals have racial struggles (I should know). So, did I perhaps misread the comment? Did she in fact mean, black individuals with racial struggles should be cautious entering interracial relationships, or just black individuals?

Please elaborate on what you mean when you say those with racial strugges should be cautious dating those with no racial struggles? I am coloured; I will be cautious in who I date in terms if personality; not race. I think those with struggles should be careful about who they date in terms of whether or not that person is a good person; not because that person may or may not have struggled racially. Just because one has no experience with racial struggles doesn't mean that they are not willing to learn or help that individual experience positive things / combat the struggle, so why the caution? Unless you're making a generalisation about those with no racial struggles? Which would in fact be a generalisation. If one has no racial struggle that does not say anything about their character or that relationship that could form.

I disagree. Maybe they have physical preferences -- like small/large boobs, light/dark/medium skin -- maybe one of either of those options appeals to them more and that's why they have a preference. I honestly don't think all people with a preference have a preference due to racial stereotypes. I consider myself having a preference towards caucasian men (I think their features are more attractive) BUT, I can hand on heart tell you that there are asian men that I would consider myself attracted to and I would honest to god have a relationship with them (if they were available. Sigh.) There are black men I would consider myself having been attracted to (I can't even tell you how much -- I thought he was very good looking and I loved his personality). There are mixed race men that I have been attracted to (several, actually). Just because I have a preference doesn't mean I would only date that race by any means at all. At the end of the day, a preference is a preference but it isn't so important to me that it would limit who I would go with. I like who I like.

I meant as in people who are ignorant when it comes to racism. I am also cautious both personality wise and race because I've been in relationship with white people who are the "I'm not racist" type but are so oblivious to racism and don't understand it which is straining. Not to say that there aren't white people who are aware of racism and systematic oppression, etc. I know not every person of colour experiences racism the same way I was just relating her point to all people of colour in general, other than black people, sorry if I didn't explain myself too well!

yes but much of what we find attractive has an origin. for example, the preference of light skin over dark skin is deep rooted in society so of course it influences who we find attractive. I myself used to prefer white men because I associated 'white features' with being better. I know now that this was my own issue of self hate because I didn't find the black features that I had attractive at all. There's a difference between someone saying "I prefer tall men because of.../I have a preference for brunettes" vs "I don't date asian girls, etc"

You shouldn't hate your features! (If you still do). Be proud, girl Hmm, I can see what you mean. I'm just thinking: could it depend on why you have a preference? I suppose for example, an Asian female preferring darker skin not because of the cultural implications but simply because she finds it more physically attractive? I tend to prefer caucasian men because I personally feel they have more commonly masculine features e.g strong jaw, smaller noses. But, if I found a person with these attractive features who wasn't white then I would still date them. It's just that the features I find more attractive are more commonly found on caucasian males, hence my preference because I'm more likely to find those features, if that makes sense? (Although I am by no means all about looks at all. If a person is an a-hole then I don't care what they look like).

The " I don't date Asian girls" would be a problem because of the exclusion. To me, a preference is simply something I prefer (am more lilely to choose), but never will I exclude other races. Complete exclusion I don't agree with.

I love my features now! I just didn't used to lol. I understand what you mean, i used to prefer white guys because I associated them with masculinity too! But i feel like there's a deeper reason for that, especially since that kind of thinking is encouraged, if that makes sense? Like, in my family, white people are more praised and their features are seen as more desirable. My Japanese grandmother often says things like I should marry a white man because your children will be pretty and they will take care of you, but that implies that black men and asian men don't have attractive features or that they're not competent as fathers. I think sentiments like that are usually common in a lot of non white families because of society's eurocentric standards of beauty

Ok, so I'm mixed race (half black, half white) so I'm hoping this is kind of relevant to me. My cousin (who is female) is black. I personally, prefer caucasians ALTHOUGH if I like someone I don't care what race they are. My cousin prefers black boys, but again, she won't limit herself to just one race (rightfully so).

Your quote "many prefer their own, so why is it hard for you?" I'm assuming you're talking about black individuals "finding it hard" to like their own race? As a mixed race individual this irks me ... A LOT. No one should be criticised or scorned (which is the tone I've received from this quote) for having a racial preference. It is also a generalisation. Many black men and women date their race -- the same could be said for all races. Many however, don't due to having other preferences. So what? As long as those individuals treat all with equality then what's the problem? (Assuming you have one with this issue).

Also the quote "your own" irked me. It suggested that you prefer people to date within their own race and that you like the idea of segregation which is highly offensive to a lot of people -- including me. (That's just how it sounded). Of course, I am considered a "sensitive" individual and get p*ssed off quite easily when it comes to things like this, so I will assume you didn't mean to come across this way? I apologise in advance if that is so.

I would be curious to know your stance on interracial relationships indeed.